Everyone here is human. We will all misunderstand, judge, jump to conclusions, be short-tempered, be helpful, gracious, giving, humorous, etc at times. That is what makes us all individuals. There has definitely been some misunderstandings in my opinion.
The past page or so here has seemed geared toward specific members, and I was not thinking this thread would go there. The personal issues can be handled privately, and I am actively looking into that. But we all need to be open minded about solving problems, not to continue pointing fingers.
I want this thread to remain open, but it is going circular now rather than forward... any chance we can get it forward again?
I agree utterly. People ask why they left. I think there was a defining moment, and it occurred when a post was made that defined their behavior as sarcastic and bullying, and them as vigilantes.i think it's mostly the latter rather than the former. i presume there is little incentive for them to participate in this thread where the criticism continues - what's the point? a single unpleasant instance has lead to broad, sweeping and hurtful generalizations and characterizations. they're already hurt and discouraged, and to continue reading about how some people think they are rude, unwelcoming and unpleasant is just rubbing salt in their own paper cuts.
they're smart birds - i'm sure they GET that some think they were over-zealous in their response. as a some-time authenticator i want the community to GET that we are passionate about stamping out the fakes and, being human, from time to time we may over-react. given all that's involved in authenticating, i'd like to be cut a little slack in return when it does, inevitably, happen. all that was needed in that exchange was a simple "ladies, please play nicely on the chance that posters really are innocent and not scammers."
Hlfinn- our posts crossed. This was in response to ardneish and DQ's posts.
Well wait a minute.
I have had to post warnings in the AT thread, and elsewhere, that have said just that - please play nicely. And you know- the fact is, the warnings are often ignored. We can only do so much, and we try to do our best.
But I think everyone needs to understand that this was not merely one event, nor just one poster. Rather, I have received numerous PMs from members on both sides of this issue, and many who are afraid to participate and post their feelings or even participate in the AT thread because they have been made to feel unwelcome for whatever the reason. AND IN EVERY INSTANCE, I try to encourage everyone to be respectful, treat others the way they want to be treated. I say that pretty uniformly and when I have to say more, I do no matter how much I love the people i am warning. That is my job as a mod. It sucks sometimes, but I do it because even though I have to be the "bad guy" sometimes, it helps the overall community. So I do it.
As we have seen before in other subforums here, sometimes we all need to take a step back and get perspective so we can figure out how to make things better. I for one am taking that opportunity now so that I can make sure things run more smoothly here and everyone feels welcome to participate. I hope everyone joins in the positive discussion together!
Ah, I could say this so much better in person to you all. A large video conference. But that would freak me out and is just not going to happen!
i think you should go for it, megs - you could get a new outfit, have your hair and nails all done, maybe even a massage to deal with the pre-conference and post-conference tension . . . and write it all off as a business expense!!!