Interesting article. I read it when you posted it last night. And I spent a lot of time reading the comments of people from multiple perspectives.
I haven't cut off my parents, though I'd be lying if I said the thought never crossed my mind. There is distance. If I don't reach out to them, I don't hear from them. I've pulled back in recent years. It's disappointing there is no effort from their end but I can't change them. They're deeply ashamed of me because I'm divorced and have no kids. To make it worse, they knew the reason why I left my ex and still think I should have stayed.
I cut off many family members, all of whom I had good relationships with all because of my parents' shame and wanting me to lie about my marital status. My cousins, whom I was closest too, were the hardest to cut off. I loved them and still miss them. Their father (my uncle) thought my divorce was the most scandalous thing to happen and he took so much joy is gossiping about it. And yes, he knew the horrific reason why I left my ex.
Last year I cut off all my university friends. I didn't realise what they liked to get up to and when they last flew in, we caught up and they tricked me into going to this place. They all laughed and said they had to trick me to get me there as they knew I wouldn't like it. I was sick to the stomach and on reflection the next day, I decided I was done. When they contacted me again to catch up this year, I just said no and goodbye, I was done.
With my parents, and without making this post any longer than it is, I don't see myself cutting them off. Living in different states helps. Plus I couldn't do it to my sister. Who knows. They have said some horrible things and I get so stressed knowing if I am going to call or visit. But if I don't call or visit, it's okay, because they never make the effort.