Me too, but now I feel I should care more than I have? (Co-owner of a boutique law firm)
Cartier jewelry/stacks „hurting your image“, why, if so?
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Me too, but now I feel I should care more than I have? (Co-owner of a boutique law firm)
I think it's just personal preference and yeah depends on the environment. I wouldn't wear a whole stack of $20k+ jewelry to work because a lot of the coworkers in my office wear t-shirts and other uber-low key wear - yes, even C-suite! Other offices in my company are a little more glam so it might be less noticeable. Though even then I think it's a little over the top to wear so much bling to any office unless you work in fashion or jewelry.
I don't think it would impact my chances of a raise but I just don't want to draw that kind of attention. I don't even wear super band name items to work like Hermes, Chanel, etc. I DID used to be that intern who carried an LV bag and honestly looking back I'm a little embarrassed. No shade to anyone else but that's just not my vibe anymore.
I don't think it would impact my chances of a raise but I just don't want to draw that kind of attention. I don't even wear super band name items to work like Hermes, Chanel, etc. I DID used to be that intern who carried an LV bag and honestly looking back I'm a little embarrassed. No shade to anyone else but that's just not my vibe anymore.
100% this!!! I used to worry back and forth before realizing my husband doesn’t think twice when wearing his Rolex or driving our car. People routinely compliment him, so why shouldn’t women be allowed the same standard? I wear my bracelets to work now, but to be fair, I always run cold so I have a sweater on at all times.
TBH I do think men are judged for being showy as well - at least in my experience. I think it comes down to the details... a discrete Rolex or even AP on a man or woman is probably not going to raise eyebrows but a really blingy Cartier stack just stands out. I wear my Rolex and a Cartier Love without much thought but a lot of the arm candy stacks you see these days that are like super polished gold, easily identifiable logos/models, clearly $30k+ is going to attract some attention - some positive, some negative. That's what I imagine when i think of jewelry stacks at least. There aren't as many blinged out options/looks for men as there seem to be for women.
I don't have a stack, per se, but I have the one LOVE bangle and two cord bracelets that I wear with a David Yurman cable as well. Plus, my LOVE ring and trinity ring and sometimes I'll wear my LOVE necklace. That's about it, but where I live, not many people know what Cartier is, yet alone not a LOVE bangle. It's a college town so it's not as noticeable. But I'm sure if I lived in Denver, people would notice. But I do wear my LV bags everyday and I work in healthcare, so it's a little out of the norm. But I don't feel like it affects my wages or anything like that. I do get a lot of compliments on my LV bags all the time, too.
It also depends where you are. In the US it's (mostly) no problem to show your wealth. In Europe this would be highly inappropriate.
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I used to think about what other people ( co workers, friends, family ) would think about how I dress or wear my jewellery..
I ended up not using what I love because of other people.
I will not dress in T shirt and jeans everyday to fit in anymore. Only when I feel like!
I wear my stack every single day and wear my bags when I decide to. I know some people comment in my back about my love for jewellery or luxury or expensive stuff.. but I dont care anymore..
And they know why they only talk in my back ..
If I decide to not wear anything now, it is because I find it personaly not appopriate.If I was working with people in financial needs or in a hosptial, I would probably remove my stack or dress more casually for personal reason. Not because of others.
People who want to talk or judge you will always find a subject, be it how you dress, your jewellery, your bossy personality, your whatever..
I personaly dont think it affects my image . That’s who I am. What other people think is not my business...
Maybe I am getting old...
I ended up not using what I love because of other people.
I will not dress in T shirt and jeans everyday to fit in anymore. Only when I feel like!
I wear my stack every single day and wear my bags when I decide to. I know some people comment in my back about my love for jewellery or luxury or expensive stuff.. but I dont care anymore..
And they know why they only talk in my back ..
If I decide to not wear anything now, it is because I find it personaly not appopriate.If I was working with people in financial needs or in a hosptial, I would probably remove my stack or dress more casually for personal reason. Not because of others.
People who want to talk or judge you will always find a subject, be it how you dress, your jewellery, your bossy personality, your whatever..
I personaly dont think it affects my image . That’s who I am. What other people think is not my business...
Maybe I am getting old...
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As others already mentioned, I would think it depends on where one works, what one does, what others in the office are wearing, how comfortable one is with what one wears to the office and whether it’s a career faux pas to wear $$$$$ of jewelry. I live in Canada where the average people tend not be very brand conscious and are quite humble in their clothes and jewelry–understated seems to be the trend. A lot of my friends are executives and some are from well to do families and they may carry a Chanel or LV bag but they usually wear a regular watch (occasional Cartier and Rolex) and their e-ring and wedding ring. I seem to be the only one in my social circle and at work who really like branded jewelry and anything diamonds. 
I also love to dress up and wear make up where others wear more relaxed clothing. But this has always been me since high school days and don’t plan to change any time. People just get used to me being me.
I don’t stack my bracelets but I do wear my Cartier and other diamond bracelets to the office. Most people don’t notice what I have on and no one ever commented on it. However, people tend to notice my ring a lot more. My original e-ring is a one ct with .75 ct side baguettes. I rarely wear it now as it’s too tight. People used to comment how pretty it was but I didn’t feel awkward or anything with it as it was a modest size. Then my DH got me a 2.5 ct diamond ring for our 10th anniversary. I only wore it on weekends for the first 1-2 years of getting it because it felt and looked huge. People actually noticed in meetings. I was a senior manager at the time so didn’t feel it was appropriate to wear more than others in meetings. It defelinely made me feel self conscious. As time went by and I moved up the ladder, I now wear that ring all the time. So it all depends on how comfortable you are with the stack and trust your gut.
On the self-employed side, I used to co-own a brand consulting firm and I would wear less blingy watch and jewelry when meeting with my clients. I’d still wear my dialmond ring and a Cartier Santos or Rondo watch but would tone down on earrings, necklace and bracelet. And I definely left my Chanel and Hermes bag at home. Most of my clients even at the CEO level tend to not wear a lot of jewelry—again a Canadian thing.
I also love to dress up and wear make up where others wear more relaxed clothing. But this has always been me since high school days and don’t plan to change any time. People just get used to me being me. I don’t stack my bracelets but I do wear my Cartier and other diamond bracelets to the office. Most people don’t notice what I have on and no one ever commented on it. However, people tend to notice my ring a lot more. My original e-ring is a one ct with .75 ct side baguettes. I rarely wear it now as it’s too tight. People used to comment how pretty it was but I didn’t feel awkward or anything with it as it was a modest size. Then my DH got me a 2.5 ct diamond ring for our 10th anniversary. I only wore it on weekends for the first 1-2 years of getting it because it felt and looked huge. People actually noticed in meetings. I was a senior manager at the time so didn’t feel it was appropriate to wear more than others in meetings. It defelinely made me feel self conscious. As time went by and I moved up the ladder, I now wear that ring all the time. So it all depends on how comfortable you are with the stack and trust your gut.
On the self-employed side, I used to co-own a brand consulting firm and I would wear less blingy watch and jewelry when meeting with my clients. I’d still wear my dialmond ring and a Cartier Santos or Rondo watch but would tone down on earrings, necklace and bracelet. And I definely left my Chanel and Hermes bag at home. Most of my clients even at the CEO level tend to not wear a lot of jewelry—again a Canadian thing.
Wear whatever you love that you also feel is appropriate for your age; profession; position; or circumstance.
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As a lot of the ‘luxury brands’ are European based, how do Europeans wear luxury items if showing your wealth is inappropriate? Not being snarky…I’m truly curious.
i work with a bunch of young engineers where we all wear long sleeve high vis in our office environment. i have had my regular love since 2012 and my pave since 2017 (i think or 2018). One time at a work function (around 2020), i had them both exposed. I had a male team manager comment straight away about my bracelets and asked me what my husband does for a living (i do not drive a flashy car, we have a work uniform and carry a laptop to work everyday).
At another work event, ive had team managers and engineers commenting on my bracelets (all earning much higher salary than me) - all properly suspecting how i'm able to buy my bracelets on my salary.
So yes, i do feel like i do get judged at work due to my lux interest. Luckily get yearly increases at work so people seeing my bracelets do not affect my salary increase.
At another work event, ive had team managers and engineers commenting on my bracelets (all earning much higher salary than me) - all properly suspecting how i'm able to buy my bracelets on my salary.
So yes, i do feel like i do get judged at work due to my lux interest. Luckily get yearly increases at work so people seeing my bracelets do not affect my salary increase.
I work in fashion so it’s not really a big deal in my case.
I leave in Switzerland and work for multinational companies for more than 20 years now.
I can say that people look at what you wear and already received comments saying that I should earn a lot to wear Cartier jewelry, although Geneva is not very far from my area! People always judge and comment whatever we do unfortunately. They only see the accomplishments but not the hard work to get where we are..
Anyway, with time and age I am more conscious of my surrounding and try to dress and wear my jewelry in a more subtil way, not to overshadow anyone. But one can still notice my love for fashion and jewelry I think as this is just part of me
I can say that people look at what you wear and already received comments saying that I should earn a lot to wear Cartier jewelry, although Geneva is not very far from my area! People always judge and comment whatever we do unfortunately. They only see the accomplishments but not the hard work to get where we are..
Anyway, with time and age I am more conscious of my surrounding and try to dress and wear my jewelry in a more subtil way, not to overshadow anyone. But one can still notice my love for fashion and jewelry I think as this is just part of me