ladies where do I start?????
here i am back again,, its all gone horribly wrong for me.
the first couple of weeks i found out my husband had been sending the emails (see first page) everything seemed so much better.. he promised to take me on a trip to london over easter, but then started behaving really oddly and said the day before we were due to go he couldnt afford it. He was acting suspicious with his mobile phone (cell for usa ladies!) and was just really ratty and rude to me. He mentioned to my brother that his phone bill was really expensive and last week after a soccer game we went to see took me to a bar (was with my brother and other friend whom we go to the games with) and she was in the bar. She made a big thing of standing right by me and him, my brother rang me the next day saying he was really worried and concerend for me and told me he thought things were not right and he thought that my husband was up to something but didnt know what.
I have been really depressed due to the original emails i found and i am in a really responsible job in health care and my boss has promoted me several times in last year so am overwhelmed with this. I lack confidence and tried to speak to my husband last week about my job and tell him i wasnt up to it and he just shrugged his shoulders. I went to bed early on thursday evening and he said he was coming up, i heard him go to come up about an hour later and thinking i was asleep sneak back down the stairs..........
Anyway, it all built up and after his behaviour and comments from my brother i checked his mobile phone bill and found a phonenumber... sometimes sending text messages up to SIXTY times a day all hours of the day and night. There were voice calls to..
I rang the nubmer and quelle suprise it was her
I caught him sunday evening texting her when he thought i had gone to bed and i confronted him, all hell broke loose and these are some of the reasons he says he text this girl on average between 20-40 times a day:
1. He is bored, he is a cab driver and knows he cannot text me, as i am busy in work so texts her
2. She is his "friend" and because i do not like her doesnt mean he shouldnt still have her as a friend
3. He has done nothing like sleep with her??? which would be wrong
I pointed out some of these messages were whilst he was at dinner with me or when i am in his company so therefore, he must be "bored" when he is with me. He said he cant help it if someone text messages him and he has to reply.
His whole mobile bill is made up with her phone number and not any of his other friends at all, so if he was indeed bored he would want to talk surely to his other friends and not jsut this one girl?
Ladies the best is yet to come... he text me yesterday saying he is sorry for the pain he has caused me, but he hasnt done anything and that he has found it hard to talk or "have a laugh" with me because i am so stressed with work.... that was bad enough till today i checked the timing of this message he had rang HER 15 mins before he text me, which was the first time i had heard from him
As it stands we are not speaking, i have had no apology, (apart from his effort to make me dinner yesterday evening), no explaination and I jsut cant bring myself to talk to him.
Considering I have given him my wedding band back and i told him sunday i hated him and it was over and wanted him to leave.. would you have expected more???
ladies i am in turmoil and just cannot believe this is happening at all
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