I think you meant to tag
@Darma 
There are two of us, different spelling.
I happen to love my barenia kelly, I use it often and have just committed to making it my exclusive bag for fall. Sometimes I twilly, sometimes I don’t. I really dislike twillies but felt at first that it was a necessary evil for this leather to prevent black handles. Two things happened, I began to relax about possible darkening and I have also grown to like the twillies I chose. So now I do whatever I like and what works with my outfit.
@Darma, if you don’t like scratches etc, you will be happier with the gold Togo. No shame in that, it’s all good. Today alone, my bag scratched on my jacket and a mystery drop of something made a spot on my kelly. Oh well, it will all blend in. It’s a leap of faith and a determination to not get obsessed and enjoy the process. I have a barenia trim and never felt worried about that one and it’s stunning after lots of wear and a few rain showers. Good luck with your decision.