I pick it out and usually buy it, but it's always for some "holiday". Birthday, Anniversary, Valentines, X-mas....we can always find the nearest holiday and make it happen 
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Hello everyone, I'm new to this forum. 
I used to buy my own jewelry until I met my boyfriend a year ago. Now, he outfits my growing Yurman collection.
I used to buy my own jewelry until I met my boyfriend a year ago. Now, he outfits my growing Yurman collection.
My boyfriend or family usually buys it for me. I like for someone else to buy the fine jewelry, it makes it more special to me. Usually I pick it out though and let them know what I want. This Christmas I showed my boyfriend a few different pieces and he bought me one. So it's kind of like a surprise lol It makes it more special though, that it came from him.
If I found something that I really wanted that was super super expensive or something, I'd prolly just buy it myself. I feel funny asking other people for things that are really expensive.
It makes it more special though, that it came from him.If I found something that I really wanted that was super super expensive or something, I'd prolly just buy it myself. I feel funny asking other people for things that are really expensive.
I own some VERY nice diamond and white gold jewelry and I am quite PROUD to say that I bought it ALL myself. Sales people or friends often compliment my jewelry and tell me "what a lucky girl I am" and how "he is a definitely keeper" and I have no qualms telling them "Thanks, but actually, I bought it myself." My mother is from that generation where everything she had was given to her by my father and when they divorced her lifestyle went with him so I went to law school and made sure my income is such that I can buy myself any darn thing I want. Not saying when I get married my husband or significant other's gifts won't be appreciated but I quite enjoy the satisfying feeling of knowing that I bought it all for myself.
Since I'm a student and the guys I date aren't exactly ballers, I buy my own jewelry with a few pieces from my parents. Grantly, it's mostly costume, but I'm looking at making my first fine jewelry purchase (ring or cocktail ring) in the next few months.
Honestly, when I think about the things that I have, I think I get more satisfaction out of the things that I've bought and paid for myself, rather than what's been given to me/paid for by someone else.
This self-reliance comes from a relationship I had very early on in my love life, where a BF bought me whatever I wanted. However, when I broke up with him, he took it all away (and I was naive and nice enough to let him - I felt bad for breaking the guy's heart!). After that, I vowed never again to rely on someone else for what I want. That being said, I wouldn't turn down a nice [guided] gift or if a guy offers to pay (some guys get offended
). I just get more satisfaction out of obtaining something myself.
Honestly, when I think about the things that I have, I think I get more satisfaction out of the things that I've bought and paid for myself, rather than what's been given to me/paid for by someone else.
This self-reliance comes from a relationship I had very early on in my love life, where a BF bought me whatever I wanted. However, when I broke up with him, he took it all away (and I was naive and nice enough to let him - I felt bad for breaking the guy's heart!). After that, I vowed never again to rely on someone else for what I want. That being said, I wouldn't turn down a nice [guided] gift or if a guy offers to pay (some guys get offended
). I just get more satisfaction out of obtaining something myself.Amen, venusfly! While I'm not an L1 yet, I hope to be someday, and your self-confidence helps inspire me. I certainly don't want to have depend on/wait for a Prince Charming with deep pockets to provide for my well-being.
ITA!!! its def not as special if its not a gift. my fine jewelry is either a gift from my parents, or a gift from my bf. i get myself little trendy pieces, like cuffs and my hand of hamsa bracelet(which i wear everywhere)
I've told all of my past SOs to "never buy me jewelry because I'm way too picky." I've received a few things from family on special occasions, but for the most part have made my own purchases.