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Hi, I am a newcomer of this forum! I come from Hong Kong. I am very interested in Dr. Lorenzo in Philippines. Asiangirl, do you already choose him to do rhinoplasty? anyone hear heard about if this doctor is good or bad? any real evidence showing good results (or also bad outcomes >.<) I have two surgeries so far and do not want to have wrong decisions again. His be4 and after photos in his websites are very impressive, but maybe too good to be true. Anyone know him? Is he responsible and patient ?
but Asiangirl said her friend had told her that this doctor killed sb in liposuction, is it true? it makes me a bit worried, ai....
BTW, I know Dr. Hsu in Taiwan is very famous and have good word of mouth in forums.
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hi again
i think i understand how you feel. i used to have body dysmorphic disorder. it's when you see major flaws in your features that don't really exist. it was so bad that i wouldn't allow myself to go outside like i used to or meet people even if i was told that i was beautiful or gorgeous or whatever ppl said. i told myself they were all lies. every single one of them. why they lied, i wasn't sure. i just kept saying to myself, i wish they would stop lying and tell me the truth, tell me the things that i saw. i believed that anyone and everyone was better than me. i skipped dances, social events, parties, etc. if someone asked me out, i automatically said no. in the mirror, what i saw was something totally different. when ppl told me that i didn't need any kind of surgery, i would reinstate in my mind that i did. they said i should live life now, but at that time, i couldn't see how i could live a happy life without changing everything about my appearance. i used to think it was because i was a perfectionist that i wanted all these surgeries done to me. even the surgeons i went to told me there was no reason to do surgery, that i was too pretty to change anything. again, i would tell myself they were lying to somehow make me unhappy. i was so depressed by it. i didn't know what was wrong with me. i didn't know if what i saw was real. i started to doubt myself. i wanted the pain and hurt to go away. i felt so alone. i just wanted to be happy and be someone else and to live a normal life. at times, life seemed so hard and empty that i just wanted to end it.
in reality, it was an illusion derived from difficult experiences of my childhood. things like my mom abandoning me, being raped, things too shameful to say. i felt like nothing, i hated myself, i felt i was unworthy of love, i blamed myself for things gone wrong. somehow i linked all these negative experiences to physical attributes.
i have a much healthier state of mind now and am more realistic about my own looks. it took years to begin to see things differently. now i have grown self-respect and believe that i am beautiful and stand out. n with my new self-confidence, i've heard more of, "you're beautiful" and "your parents must look great" and am believing and accepting it. i'm more outgoing and sociable now. i know i have flaws like anybody else, but i don't let those hold me back anymore. all in all, looks aren't really everything. so don't let it get you down to the point you can't live life. learn to be confident with who you are and what you have to offer and things will go much more smoothly. if you want to improve some things, then go for it. but please don't lose the orginal you to the point you don't look like the same person anymore. only you can be you. don't be somebody else. i use to compare myself obsessively with others and that can only bring you down. what you are now is something special and unbelievable. u can't just take my word for it, u have to believe it.
good luck with ur surgeries. may you have a successful and good outcome and hopefully you look like u, maybe just a better u. take care jake
p.s. i hope to hear about your experience as well as your outcome.
Thanks for the response
?)... they're just people i went to high school with and things like that who i remember as having more of the "asian-looking" noses (low or no bridge) and the reason i remember is because i have the reverse worry about my own nose. seeing their noses actually made me feel kinda self-conscious about my nose 'cause i have a high bridge, but with a slight bump 
and i felt like mine stuck out in a way amongst all these other people's more "normal asian" noses.