Are diamond studs "too much" for a 4yr old?

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#32
When we got our daughter's ears pierced last year, we chose white gold CZ studs. They are perfect. You get the quality of the gold and the exact look of diamonds, without the stress of losing them. And because they are the kind that you get pierced into your ears, the backs stay on sercurely.
 
#33
la miss said:
Honestly, I would not give my 4 year old diamonds. I meet so many young people who are disenchanted before they are even out of their teens. IMHO, there is a lot to be said for savoring each and every phase of life.

My first piece of jewelry was a gold bangle. I wear it each and every day and will instruct my family to take it off and pass it to a baby in the family after I am gone. I was a small child when I received it as a gift from my grandfather. He gave on to each of us.

I remeber vividly, the gold crucifix I got for my confirmation when I was a little giirl. I was so proud and felt like a "big girl" at such an important ceremony. I was becoming an adult in the eyes of my church. Boy that was a great day. It was later broken but I still have the cross and I treasure it. Maybe for my future daughter on her confirmation???

The opal and gold ring I got for primary school graduation. It is the most precious thing I ever received from my mother. She still has it in her jewelry box. I'm sure she'll whip it out one of these days if I have a little girl. LOL

My first diamond was actually a pearl ring with tiny little diamonds on each side that I got for high school gradualtion. I remember thinking PEARLS!!! I mean real PEARLS!!! Jesus himself could not have convinced me that I wasn't the most stylish, elegant, flyest thing ever to walk across the stage that day!

Then there was my first strand of pearls that I got when I joined my sorority in college.

After college I got matching pearl and diamond earrings. I wore them on my first job interview. I don't wear them anymore as my style has changed. But they are there in my jewelry box. I make sure they are cleaned regularly just in case I get the sudden urge to wear them.

It was not until after college that I started receiving serious jewelry. I remember my first fancy watch, a gold Cartier. I've had many nice watches since but that one is still my favorite.

And my first real diamonds. I almost keeled over from a heart attack they were so beautiful.

Anyway, my long-winded rambling point is that my appreciation for what I have was built up over time. If you start out with diamonds, there's not really that much to look forward to. That would be tragic.

Kids who have everything sometimes have a more difficult time finding happiness than the rest of us because they have everything behind them and not much to look forward to.
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I totally agree with the sentiments in this post. Diamonds for a 4 year old are way too much IMO. I don't think she'll really appreciate what they are and what they mean, so who would you really be doing it for?
 
#34
For me it’s probably a little too much. I’m not a huge fan of pierced ears on little kids anyway (must have been all those years of my mum telling us we didn’t need any extra holes in our body ha ha), so if I was to get earrings, they’d be really tiny and discreet.
 
#35
As someone who lost expensive jewelry as a child I'm not sure how I stand on this issue. Nothing makes a little girl feel more grown up than wearing real jewels! At the same time, I was so crushed when I lost my greatgrandmother's engagement ring, two pairs of diamond earrings, etc. all as a child. I wish I hadn't been trusted with them because I wasn't responsible enough to properly care for them.

If you really want to do this, I would go with very very small diamonds. That way in case she loses them it's not as big a deal as say, if she lost 1/3 ct. worth. And make sure they've got screw backs, that way she has even less chance of loosing them.
 
#36
i received a pair of tiny diamond studs set in platinum from my godfather when i was born. and throughout my childhood and adolescence he gave me other jewelry - an small emerald brooch with my initials, a gold bangle with pink sapphires and freshwater pearls, a jade and gold ring, a jade and silver necklace, and a couple of others. some of the pieces i didn't really wear until i was older and my mum kept them for safekeeping. if i were you i would only let her wear them on special occasions and keep them with your jewelry the rest of the time until she is old enough to take care of them herself.
 
#38
This is probably wrong, but, I'd probably get her fake looking real ones. She's very young and the possibility of her loosing them is huge. Or, I'd get smaller real ones. I know nothing made me feel more grown up than knowing I was wear real gold when I was little, but, I have to agree with la miss with her saying that there's no where really else to go after she recieves diamonds. I'd probably leave diamonds out alltogether and go for a nice gold necklace with a small pendant of her birthstone. At least for me, necklaces have always been harder to loose than earrings. GL in your decision, either way, I'm sure she'll love whatever she gets! :)
 
#40
I used to own a pair of diamond studs (well I dont remember I was 3), I lost them..(then again I have medusa hair,and studds always get stuck between my hair),just let her wear them on special occasions!
 
#41
I appreciate all the feedback. My daughter wants jewelry; she's very girly. She does have .05 cttw diamond studs. I actually forgot all about them until I looked in my jewelry box. I'm leaning towards the sapphire studs (perhaps forget platinum and instead set them in white gold) in screwbacks and I know she'll like them too. I just really wanted to get her something special that she can still wear as she gets older. Maybe I shouldn't get larger studs for her at this age. Either way I have to decide by tomorrow so the jeweler can re set the stones in screwback posts.
 
#44
I can't think of a better gift for a little girl. I purchased my daughter's first pair of diamond earrings when she was 4. They are a quarter carat, and the size was appropriate to her size. She appreciates them and only wears them on occasion. She is 7 now and still has them tucked away in a special jewelry box with her other special treasures. But I keep this box in my closet and she has access to them when she feels the need to wear them. They are heirlooms that she can one day pass down to her daughter. What could be better than that?
 
#45
lol my daughter is 17 months and has had diamond studs with screw backs in her ears since the day I took the "starter earrings" (about 6 months) out of her ears..

I say if you can afford it go ahead and your daughter doesn't bother her ears...my baby hardly touches her ears and she's at a babysitter all day.. im not worried about her losing them
 
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