Any one else not wear their engagement ring??

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#31
guccimamma said:
it is much safer on your finger than anywhere else
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That's what my mom says, and she and my dad have been married for 40-something years now!

Don't worry about it, seriously, wear it when you want. I usually only wear my wedding band on the weekends and I wear my e-ring with the band during the week at work and when we go out.

Whatever makes you most comfortable ... but don't feel guilty, enjoy it to the fullest!
 
#32
I wear my e-ring and wedding band all of the time and I feel naked if I forget to put them on in the morning. (I've only forgotten a few times in almost 8 years!) But, you should do what is most comfortable for you!! If you don't want to wear them because you are afraid of possibly losing the rings, then leave them at home (in a hidden place, of course).

Maybe you DF can buy you a simpler ring that you can wear more frequently and save your e-ring for special occasions?

My friend stopped wearing her e-ring when her daughter was born because she didn't want to scratch the baby accidently. Her husband later bought her a diamond anniversary band that she now wears by itself all of the time. Her e-ring is sitting in a safety deposit box.

Again - do what you want!! It's your ring and if you choose not to wear it, that's your business!! Your friend should not have made you feel bad for not wearing your ring!!
 
#33
peace43 said:
I wear my e-ring and wedding band all of the time and I feel naked if I forget to put them on in the morning. (I've only forgotten a few times in almost 8 years!) But, you should do what is most comfortable for you!! If you don't want to wear them because you are afraid of possibly losing the rings, then leave them at home (in a hidden place, of course).

Maybe you DF can buy you a simpler ring that you can wear more frequently and save your e-ring for special occasions?

My friend stopped wearing her e-ring when her daughter was born because she didn't want to scratch the baby accidently. Her husband later bought her a diamond anniversary band that she now wears by itself all of the time. Her e-ring is sitting in a safety deposit box.

Again - do what you want!! It's your ring and if you choose not to wear it, that's your business!! Your friend should not have made you feel bad for not wearing your ring!!
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This is why my Mom didnt wear her ring either, she was so scared of poking me in the eye. She had to cut her nails because she DID poke me in the eye and I was crying so hard she felt so bad for it. I do poke him in the eye when I wear the ring to bed, so I stopped. I felt so bad..
 
#34
sirene said:
^ This has nothing to do with the thread and personally, I found your comment with the "grossed-out" smiley offensive. I'm not sure why you find fetal development so repugnant--I supposed the stork dropped you off fully formed? Whatever.
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Oops, sorry, I meant to use this one: :throwup:

:smile1: jk

(Sorry that the picture grosses me out. I'd rather not look at it. Is there a way to turn off signatures?)


After the first year of wearing my engagement ring, I received a blue sapphire channel set band that I wore above it as extra security. People assumed we were already married at that point, but it didn't matter.
 
#35
jan228 said:
Oops, sorry, I meant to use this one: :throwup:

:smile1: jk

(Sorry that the picture grosses me out. I'd rather not look at it. Is there a way to turn off signatures?)
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You don't have to look at it. I'm not quite sure why it bothers you that much, I'm not the only one on this forum who has a pregnancy ticker in my signature.
 
#37
I totally feel what you're saying Missie. I lose everything and I'm terrified of losing my e ring too. A little while ago I was wearing a ring from my DF on my left hand that is worth about a 100 bucks b/c I didn't want to scratch my e ring. " I wanted to preserve it". He wasn't too happy, he wanted me to wear it, show it off. My e ring isn't insured b/c it wasn't as pricy as most e rings, so I really don't want to lose it or have it stolen. My point is.. I just wear my ring everyday, even to sleep. I do take it off when I'm taking a shower or putting on lotion but I make sure it's right in front of me and no where near a sink and I put it on right away. I already have that ring line and I've only been engaged for 2 months. However when we get married I'm fairly confident that I'll just be wearing the wedding band.

Wear your ring and love it! If you feel off about wearing it that day I would swap it for another ring.
 
#38
I have to say, that fetal development can only be appreciated by those who have been pregnant. Only a momma-to-be can understand the deep desire to know what is going on with the little bean growing and developing inside - both in a cosmic wonder sense, AND, in the sense that you worry every day that everything is going fine and that development is going well. If you have never been pregnant, it might not be interesting, or at the extreme, "gross", but perhaps only because it is different. We all fear the unknown / different / etc. That said, I think the comment should have not been made, and was insensitive and inappropriate.

Engagement rings? I stopped wearing mine about 3-4 years ago. Just never wanted to wear it anymore, I blamed it on not wanting to scratch it, etc. Then, I stopped wearing my wedding band. I blamed it on swollen pregnancy fingers. Last year, I filed for divorce. Looking back, I realized I was slowly shutting down in the marriage but couldn't admit it to myself, but this was my subconscious mind's way of starting to let go.

However, I think I am the exception. I think most women who no longer wear their rings have innocent reasons - they've outgrown the look, they are much older, the marriage is very solid and no need to keep wearing it, etc. Very few older women that I know still wear their engagement rings, because it represents a style from say 30-40 years ago and it just doesn't suit their style anymore.
 
#39
I wear my engagement ring and wedding band every day, and I have since I got it. I am in agreement with "what's the use in having it if you aren't going to wear it"? To each his/her own, but your ring is so pretty...you should wear it and enjoy it!
 
#40
I stopped wearing my e-ring for the most part this year. I've simply outgrown the ring, literally! My finger has gone up 3 sizes over the years. I sized the ring once and the band is already pretty thin. The dainty diamond (4.5mm) received alot of oohs and ahhs years ago on my slender finger; I'm afraid it's swallowed up by a hefty finger now. :p
 
#41
rainrowan said:
I stopped wearing my e-ring for the most part this year. I've simply outgrown the ring, literally! My finger has gone up 3 sizes over the years. I sized the ring once and the band is already pretty thin. The dainty diamond (4.5mm) received alot of oohs and ahhs years ago on my slender finger; I'm afraid it's swallowed up by a hefty finger now. :p
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I never wore my ering or wedding band on a daily basis, same reasoning...I didnt want to lose it. I would actually go several weeks without wearing it (usually until my hubby reminded me to put it on) Then my home was burglarized during the day while I was at work (yup alarm systems bypassed and in a safe, nice community as well!!) and my ENTIRE jewelry box was stolen containing EVERY piece of jewelry I have ever owned since the age of 18. My ring was insured but the other sentimental items that had zero value to anyone other than me like my deceased parents wedding rings were not. Lesson learned, if you are going to leave it at home....BUY A STRONG SAFE AND HIDE IT WELL or keep it on your finger and close to you every day. This goes for bags as well, lock em up!! 3 Prada bags stolen that day as well. That said, I can totally relate to your fear ,but..... your ring was meant to be enjoyed, a shiny,sparkly reminder that your hubby to be loves you!! Keep your insurance up to date and try to be careful with it!! I now wear my new rings every day!:tender:
 
#44
I think it's a shame not to wear an engagement ring. My mum has always worn hers all the time, for everything (she wears gloves when washing up as her skin is very sensitive). My SIL got into the habit of taking hers off for certain tasks then eventually it got lost. She was very upset & the replacement is good but not the same. I agree the safest place is to keep it on your finger!
I've just got engaged & I plan to wear my ring all the time :yahoo:
 
#45
blueberryuk said:
I think it's a shame not to wear an engagement ring. My mum has always worn hers all the time, for everything (she wears gloves when washing up as her skin is very sensitive). My SIL got into the habit of taking hers off for certain tasks then eventually it got lost. She was very upset & the replacement is good but not the same. I agree the safest place is to keep it on your finger!
I've just got engaged & I plan to wear my ring all the time :yahoo:
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Congrats!! :woohoo:
 
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