2022 Resolution: Shopping my own bag and SLG collection. Anyone else?

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2 Aug - brand showcase: A-F
4 Sept - brand showcase: G-L
11 Sept - brand showcase: M-R
18 Sept - brand showcase: S-Z
25 Sept - totes
2 Oct - satchels
9 Oct - crossbodies inc WOCS
16 Oct - shoulder bags
23 Oct - bucket bags
30 Oct - clutches
6 Nov - backpacks
13 Nov - bags that don’t count
20 Nov - pairing bags with shoes
27 Nov - pairing bags with other accessories
4 Dec - bag storage
11 Dec - SLGs
18 Dec - charms

Challenges:
Sept - bags in different locations
Oct - Halloween: wear orange or black bags
Nov - International Merlot Day: wear wine coloured bags or pair bags with wine.
Dec - use the bag.
 
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Katinahat said:
So my investigations at Mulberry today did not go the way I thought they would. I was certain I’d love the oak Bayswater but while I did really like it, I didn’t love it as much as I thought I would.

I went dressed like this in my off duty style, new Hush jumper (from husband for Christmas), NYDJ skinny jeans with my black Alexa Icon and long black boots.
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And I think this picture sums up how I most like my bags. Mostly crossbody, understated classics and relaxed.

I guess that the issue was that while the Bayswater was lovely (all the bags in the shop were lovely!) I just didn’t love it as much as the Alexa I had with me. I wanted to use it for work and weekends but I decided I was likely to use it only for work. This meant I ended up thinking there was no point in spending all that money as I have a grey Bayswater already for work. I didn’t even take any modelling shots with it.

I was really impressed with myself that I managed to walk away (for now).
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Isn't that interesting! So glad you were able to go to the store and see for yourself. Good for you, for walking away and not staying "on the hunt" just because you started out that way.

Now… you just saved a LOT of money. So what are you going to spend that money on? (This is called the Law of Compensatory Cash Flow.) :giggle:
 
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dramaprincess713 said:
I am very prone to guilt for all kinds of things. I feel guilt for making purchases. I feel guilt for letting go of things. I especially feel guilt for letting go of things that were gifts. I have no good advice, but you are definitely not alone.
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I do too. All of the above.
 
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ElainePG said:
Isn't that interesting! So glad you were able to go to the store and see for yourself. Good for you, for walking away and not staying "on the hunt" just because you started out that way.

Now… you just saved a LOT of money. So what are you going to spend that money on? (This is called the Law of Compensatory Cash Flow.) :giggle:
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Thanks @ElainePG . That pink Mini Alexa is still in my head now!
 
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ElainePG said:
This post isn't about shopping.
But so many of us have been discussing the way we're struggling with loss of control (and who could blame us???) that I thought it might resonate.
Plus, when I lie awake at night worrying, that's when I put on my phone and browse for things I honestly don't need. So maybe, in a way, it is about shopping!

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Totally love this graphic. Makes a good point to think about with some humour. :thinking:
 
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880 said:
Yes :smile: the last one, too, @cowgirlsboots
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Voila! My new to me Reeboks. The model is several years old and only available preloved.
There were a lot fewer scratches on the right shoe before I wore them grocery shopping today... well, scratches happen as in wear and tear and I bought these to actually wear them...

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cowgirlsboots said:
Voila! My new to me Rebooks. The model is several years old and only available preloved.
There were a lot fewer scratches on the right shoe before I wore them grocery shopping today... well, scratches happen as in wear and tear and I bought these to actually wear them...

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Love these. I had a pair of silver and black Reebok squash sneakers once. I wore the tread down i loved them so much! Enjoy in good health! And Rock them with your leopard coat and red and leopard dior bag
 
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880 said:
Love these. I had a pair of silver and black Reebok squash sneakers once. I wore the tread down i loved them so much! Enjoy in good health! And Rock them with your leopard coat and red and leopard dior bag
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I will, thank you!
And meanwhile I have noticed how the brand name is spelled correctly, too... oops...
My last pair (same model) is silver and has been going through the gigs with me for over 5 years (and maybe 6 months with the former owner before I bought them preloved.) They are still structurally sound, but look more than a bit tired... Were they black I could restore them. The silver colour is hard to touch up properly.

This model fits my feet perfectly.
 
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@Katinahat - I’m sending you tons of hugs. You have been through a lot and it’s hard to make decisions on lower level things when you have larger things to consider.

Just a comment. Through my work, I have employed insights from a number of psychological learnings including behavioral economics, neurolinguistics, brain plasticity, etc. In working with one brilliant Ivy League brian scientist she explained that our brains only have so many “points” to spend on things that require discipline. After those are spent in a day it gets almost impossible to apply pure discipline to an action. For example, if you have a high stress day with marriage, job, chiid issues you will tend to be more likely to “cheat” on a healthy diet at the end of a day.

So, do NOT beat yourself up about wardrobe / bag decisions or even small nuance in weight when you’re fighting real life issues. No guilt. Your brain has reached max capacity. And, that is ok.:hugs:

That being said, I think you nailed your casual shopping look! So, I don’t think you have anything to worry about.

@More bags - Also sending you tons of hugs. :hugs:

@ElainePG - I’m IN to supporting our pivots back to better dressing. :happydance: And any progress that moves a person to a happier place will be cause for celebration! This is hard. I need and appreciate support.

@cowgirlsboots - Oddly I feel more comfortable in my own skin now than I ever have. So I’m completely eschewing the trends to start hunting purely for what I love. New, old or vintage. So, I’m totally on board with your train of thought!

@ItsPurseonal - IMO, hard pass. I think this would end up shelf sitting in your closet based on what you like to wear. Enjoy looking at it and wait on “your” next bag to come.
And, congrats on your rose gold shoes.
 
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