2020 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?

[keodi]

You're right! And until last week, I was going out occasionally to the grocery store because I was being careful. Plus, as you say, packages come into the house, so it's impossible to totally quarantine.

And then I went to the grocery store, and five days later I came down with an upper respiratory infection. Of course, you can imagine what I worried about!

Fortunately, it was only (only!) pleurisy. I have a wonderful pulmonologist. She sent me to the hospital (the hospital! eek!) for a chest X-ray, she saw me in her office EARLY the next morning, before any other patients arrived, she listened to my chest, she confirmed that it was only (only!) pleurisy. One week, and lots of prednisone, later… and I'm on the mend.

But. Now Mr. PG and I are banned from all outside-the-house errands other than outdoor walks. We just can't take the chance with my health. And when packages come to the house, they get opened outside and the boxes go directly to recycle. Then we wash our hands for a hundred years.

But of course we're older, and I'm at risk. I don't know that everyone has to be that careful. We're just following my doctor's orders. And I feel much calmer, now that we have a good plan to keep me healthy.

I think everyone has to balance what feels safe with what feels do-able.

I'm glad to hear that you're on the mend, and you're ok!

Just found this thread — Brown and tan, I'll play!!!
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Beautiful brown and tan collection! I love your henna HAC, very unique!

 

[muchstuff]

Firstly that people have let their guard down and are not distancing at the super market. I'm seeing a lot of the same, as are my friends all over the world. I think every country has a section of the population that is in denial.

Secondly, please don't be upset or hurt by people laughing because you are being cautious. I have a thread on here about people commenting on me, pointing and laughing at me, and I've had a boss who told me not to let him see my face in the morning because my ugliness ruins his day. I was involved in an accident and have indentations from where my face was broken as a result, and I have some burn marks on my face from an abusive ex who would put his cigarettes out on my cheeks.
Now, I realise this is nothing like your situation but I mean to show you that I'm used to people pointing and laughing rudely when I'm out and about.
The worst is that I overhear parents telling their kids to stay away from the weird looking girl- I don't think they should be teaching their kids that. I imagine what they'd say to their kids if they saw someone disabled or with an amputated limb.
I've had people in grocery stores audibly say that if they had my face they would commit suicide. It's sad that people can openly mock another human being for no reason.

I always make a point to make eye contact with those talking about me and smile the warmest smile I can. Sometimes we need to remind others we are human and we are nice. It snaps them out of their own bubble and makes them stop. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves to be gracious because they don't know any better and it's not their fault that this is their limited thinking.

In any case, they're laughing because you are being sensible and cautious whereas they are being reckless with their lives and those of others. You should hold your head up proudly and let those words roll off of you, because you are the one in the right and they will be grateful for people like you who are helping to fight the spread of covid.
Don't let anyone's ill-informed opinion and bad manners hurt your feelings.

Okay, I'm going back into my hole. Every time I post on this thread it turns into a mini-rant!

 

[whateve]

Firstly that people have let their guard down and are not distancing at the super market. I'm seeing a lot of the same, as are my friends all over the world. I think every country has a section of the population that is in denial.

Secondly, please don't be upset or hurt by people laughing because you are being cautious. I have a thread on here about people commenting on me, pointing and laughing at me, and I've had a boss who told me not to let him see my face in the morning because my ugliness ruins his day. I was involved in an accident and have indentations from where my face was broken as a result, and I have some burn marks on my face from an abusive ex who would put his cigarettes out on my cheeks.
Now, I realise this is nothing like your situation but I mean to show you that I'm used to people pointing and laughing rudely when I'm out and about.
The worst is that I overhear parents telling their kids to stay away from the weird looking girl- I don't think they should be teaching their kids that. I imagine what they'd say to their kids if they saw someone disabled or with an amputated limb.
I've had people in grocery stores audibly say that if they had my face they would commit suicide. It's sad that people can openly mock another human being for no reason.

I always make a point to make eye contact with those talking about me and smile the warmest smile I can. Sometimes we need to remind others we are human and we are nice. It snaps them out of their own bubble and makes them stop. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves to be gracious because they don't know any better and it's not their fault that this is their limited thinking.

In any case, they're laughing because you are being sensible and cautious whereas they are being reckless with their lives and those of others. You should hold your head up proudly and let those words roll off of you, because you are the one in the right and they will be grateful for people like you who are helping to fight the spread of covid.
Don't let anyone's ill-informed opinion and bad manners hurt your feelings.

Okay, I'm going back into my hole. Every time I post on this thread it turns into a mini-rant!

I'm so sorry people treat you that way. I can't imagine people being that cruel, but then I realize they can. I appreciate the way you respond. You are a hero. Do you find people treat you differently when you are wearing a mask?

When I was in my 20s, I got a skin disease that made my face look horrible. The doctors didn't know what I had, and everything they did made it worse. I stayed with my parents while I was recovering and didn't return to work. I didn't know if it would ever get better. My mom was wonderful with me. She took me out for walks and drives. My father didn't want to be seen with me. My mom wanted to treat me to dinner out but my father wanted me to stay hidden in the house. Lucky for me, my immune system eventually fought off the disease and I recovered.

 

[dcooney4]

Late post: week of April 5th, white and cream.

Here are my collection: white prada medium double tote, and Louis Vuitton mini capucine in white lizard skin.

Both are lovely, but I adore your Prada.

 

[Bag peace]

I'm so sorry people treat you that way. I can't imagine people being that cruel, but then I realize they can. I appreciate the way you respond. You are a hero. Do you find people treat you differently when you are wearing a mask?

When I was in my 20s, I got a skin disease that made my face look horrible. The doctors didn't know what I had, and everything they did made it worse. I stayed with my parents while I was recovering and didn't return to work. I didn't know if it would ever get better. My mom was wonderful with me. She took me out for walks and drives. My father didn't want to be seen with me. My mom wanted to treat me to dinner out but my father wanted me to stay hidden in the house. Lucky for me, my immune system eventually fought off the disease and I recovered.

I'm glad to hear this was only temporary for you, although I'm sorry that you even had to experience that. Thanks for sharing.
It's also quite the gift that your parents responded differently. Having both parents struggle with the condition may have damaged your sense of self, but having a balance of both points of view makes it easier to hang on to the positives whilst you learn to adapt to others who cannot accept your situation.

People are much, much nicer to me with the mask on but I had anticipated that.
My burns happened when I was in a bad relationship in my mid 20s (a decade ago), and my accident that really disfigured my face happened in 2017. So, the change in my appearance is relatively new and the change in people's behaviour is also new.
I adapted immediately, knowing I am lucky to have had a great medical team who saved my life when the accident happened. The changes in my face mean nothing to me, so long as I am fortunate enough to be breathing and able-bodied today. I refuse to be identified by something as fleeting and arbitrary as beauty.

It took me a few hard interactions in the real world to learn that people would not share my perspective, and that many would be openly judgmental. That was a bit of a learning curve. People pointing and laughing at you is never comfortable.
Soon, I figured out that they've forgotten I'm a real person who can hear their mocking remarks, so I'll remind them by connecting (in my case a smile that is as sincere as I can make it in the face of insults). It works. Some people smile back, some start to chat to me and forget about my face once we get into conversation, but the majority of other people get freaked out by the smile and they run the other way.

I don't blame them, they see something unconventional and they judge it. However, my accident was just that: an accident. It could happen to them just as easily. People forget that. It's the same with people not taking Covid seriously because they're young and fit; no, you could die from it, too.
Nothing we can do but set our own standards high and hope that others will follow suit. Above all else, there's no point letting rude people affect your sense of self or cause you to change your behaviour. I would hate for people to remove their masks in order to avoid being mocked. I know some teenagers in the area are doing that because they don't want to look weird in front of their friends. That's the worst-case scenario in my mind.

 

[momasaurus]

In the future there is going to be a lot more mask-wearing in public, as the virus comes and goes over the next year or so. Some people will wear, and others not. People are going to have to get used to it. Eventually, I hope, there will no longer be an "Asian" or "sick" or "overly cautious" stigma associated with wearing a mask. (I know I'm sort of fantasizing here.)

 

[keodi]

In the future there is going to be a lot more mask-wearing in public, as the virus comes and goes over the next year or so. Some people will wear, and others not. People are going to have to get used to it. Eventually, I hope, there will no longer be an "Asian" or "sick" or "overly cautious" stigma associated with wearing a mask. (I know I'm sort of fantasizing here.)

I agree with you on this..

 

[More bags]

Firstly that people have let their guard down and are not distancing at the super market. I'm seeing a lot of the same, as are my friends all over the world. I think every country has a section of the population that is in denial.

Secondly, please don't be upset or hurt by people laughing because you are being cautious. I have a thread on here about people commenting on me, pointing and laughing at me, and I've had a boss who told me not to let him see my face in the morning because my ugliness ruins his day. I was involved in an accident and have indentations from where my face was broken as a result, and I have some burn marks on my face from an abusive ex who would put his cigarettes out on my cheeks.
Now, I realise this is nothing like your situation but I mean to show you that I'm used to people pointing and laughing rudely when I'm out and about.
The worst is that I overhear parents telling their kids to stay away from the weird looking girl- I don't think they should be teaching their kids that. I imagine what they'd say to their kids if they saw someone disabled or with an amputated limb.
I've had people in grocery stores audibly say that if they had my face they would commit suicide. It's sad that people can openly mock another human being for no reason.

I always make a point to make eye contact with those talking about me and smile the warmest smile I can. Sometimes we need to remind others we are human and we are nice. It snaps them out of their own bubble and makes them stop. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves to be gracious because they don't know any better and it's not their fault that this is their limited thinking.

In any case, they're laughing because you are being sensible and cautious whereas they are being reckless with their lives and those of others. You should hold your head up proudly and let those words roll off of you, because you are the one in the right and they will be grateful for people like you who are helping to fight the spread of covid.
Don't let anyone's ill-informed opinion and bad manners hurt your feelings.

Okay, I'm going back into my hole. Every time I post on this thread it turns into a mini-rant!

I'm glad to hear this was only temporary for you, although I'm sorry that you even had to experience that. Thanks for sharing.
It's also quite the gift that your parents responded differently. Having both parents struggle with the condition may have damaged your sense of self, but having a balance of both points of view makes it easier to hang on to the positives whilst you learn to adapt to others who cannot accept your situation.

People are much, much nicer to me with the mask on but I had anticipated that.
My burns happened when I was in a bad relationship in my mid 20s (a decade ago), and my accident that really disfigured my face happened in 2017. So, the change in my appearance is relatively new and the change in people's behaviour is also new.
I adapted immediately, knowing I am lucky to have had a great medical team who saved my life when the accident happened. The changes in my face mean nothing to me, so long as I am fortunate enough to be breathing and able-bodied today. I refuse to be identified by something as fleeting and arbitrary as beauty.

It took me a few hard interactions in the real world to learn that people would not share my perspective, and that many would be openly judgmental. That was a bit of a learning curve. People pointing and laughing at you is never comfortable.
Soon, I figured out that they've forgotten I'm a real person who can hear their mocking remarks, so I'll remind them by connecting (in my case a smile that is as sincere as I can make it in the face of insults). It works. Some people smile back, some start to chat to me and forget about my face once we get into conversation, but the majority of other people get freaked out by the smile and they run the other way.

I don't blame them, they see something unconventional and they judge it. However, my accident was just that: an accident. It could happen to them just as easily. People forget that. It's the same with people not taking Covid seriously because they're young and fit; no, you could die from it, too.
Nothing we can do but set our own standards high and hope that others will follow suit. Above all else, there's no point letting rude people affect your sense of self or cause you to change your behaviour. I would hate for people to remove their masks in order to avoid being mocked. I know some teenagers in the area are doing that because they don't want to look weird in front of their friends. That's the worst-case scenario in my mind.

You are wise, strong and courageous. You are a survivor and carry yourself with immense kindness and grace in your heart. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m glad you joined us here.

 

[muchstuff]

In the future there is going to be a lot more mask-wearing in public, as the virus comes and goes over the next year or so. Some people will wear, and others not. People are going to have to get used to it. Eventually, I hope, there will no longer be an "Asian" or "sick" or "overly cautious" stigma associated with wearing a mask. (I know I'm sort of fantasizing here.)

I think it will become pretty normal. We have a large Asian population here and the masks come out every flu season, no big deal.

 

[More bags]

Thank-you @Sparkletastic! I´m sorry you are feeling low, too!

At the moment there doesn´t seem to be anything to motivate me.
Everything I do feels so meaningless. All I feel I need to do is cry, but can´t.

For example last week I altered a very messy dress, finally got it to fit after days so that not even my DH who is my worst critic found any fault and then I put it away well knowing I won´t have any chance to wear it... days spent without reaching anything.
Yesterday I sat for hours researching and hunting down a Longchamp amazone bag- what for? I know it won´t meet my quality standards. I simply can´t forget the SA in the Paris airport store taking the bag I wanted to see out of a storage cabinet stuffed with bags in clear plastic bags of the crackling type as if they were cheapest counterfeit... Result: none, but being sure I don´t want it. On to hunting for an Aigner Lucy... I´m laughing now! I had this bag, found it wrong for myself though it´s lovely and gave it to my daughter...
It´s all spinning in menaingless circles, sitting here slumped over the computer as this is the only posture for me to not feel cold to the core.
Not even chocolate helps nor listening to The Doors.
Rant over. Thank-you for listening!

DH just reminded me the fridge has been empty for days. I need to go to the grocery store and am scared. Still no news on when the schools will re-open and very frightened they might do it next week.

Back from the grocery store and I am totally shocked! No hand desinfectant at the entry any more and people do not keep any distance anymore. They shop like they used to do before covid, standing in clusters and chatting, brushing by other people.... I wore a mask and had people stare, turn around and laugh or comment from the off.... would have loved to run away.

I haven´t seen anybody in our town wearing a mask so far which I do not understand as the cases are coming nearer. There definetely are several only 25 kms away.
With being stared at I would have been ok, but people laughed. Not even all turned away from me for doing so, some barely could hold it... I had some "funny" remarks out of the off, too.
People in my town are strange!

How frustrating to have people in your grocery store not take covid19 seriously. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that stress on top of the stress of having to leave the house to get groceries. Keep doing what’s in your control (washing hands, keeping hands off your face, physical distancing, wearing a mask and staying home.)
Everyone has sacrificed something in the period we’ve been staying home. I was feeling down and frustrated earlier this week (home schooling seems to be a bumpy ride on Mondays ....) and reached out to a friend. She shared some words from our Chief Medical Officer of Health (provincial), “a lot of people may be experiencing grief from a variety of things - job loss, loss of lifestyle, loss of control etc.“ I was thinking of your earlier comments about not being motivated and feeling low. I would say it’s normal and you’re not alone. Can you reach out and call a friend or call your mom? You probably already do on a regular basis. We are here for you, too.

 

[Gen_lux]

My brown collection!! Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Hermes, Longchamp, Faure le page, bottega veneta.

 

[More bags]

Late post: week of April 5th, white and cream.

Here are my collection: white prada medium double tote, and Louis Vuitton mini capucine in white lizard skin.

Gorgeous bags

 

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My brown collection!! Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Hermes, Longchamp, Faure le page, bottega veneta.

Wow, stunning! Which ones do you use more often?

 

[Gen_lux]

Wow, stunning! Which ones do you use more often?

I used the nano speedy often which I forgot to include with my pictures. Lol

 

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I used the nano speedy often which I forgot to include with my pictures. Lol