2020 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?

[lynne_ross]

News from the Quarantine:

I went through all of my shoes and pulled 14 pair that need to go.
• Listed the 2 designer pair
• Pitching 4 (I’d donate them but I can’t get to anyplace)
• Set 8 aside on one shelf - I’ll get rid of them as soon as I find replacements.

I just need to focus and manage my shoes like I did my handbags:
• Keep a list of what I wear
• Aggressively upgrade anything I’m not excited about
• Be relentless about each pair I own being both beautiful and functional (comfortable).

Meanwhile, I’m ticked at one of my good friends. She is having some ladies over on Saturday for dinner and drinks and invited me to come. She said we’ve all been stuck in our houses so we and probably don’t have the virus. So, since no one is “close to 60 or sickly”, we “deserve” a little fun. In the nicest way I know how, I told her she was being selfish, ignorant and short sighted. Our bunch of friends don’t “deserve” to party any more than anyone else. She vehemently disagreed with me and said I was being ridiculous and a “killjoy”.



She is a brilliant, highly successful, extremely well educated and caring woman. How does she not get that this isn’t ok? I’m so bored that I think paint drying would be Friday night excitement. But, it is what it is. SMH! I’m looking at her a little differently now.

I looooove organising. I have nothing to organise here in our temporary place. And nothing to online shop for. Jealous of all the house organising and sale listings you ladies get to do now!

 

[lynne_ross]

News from the Quarantine:

I went through all of my shoes and pulled 14 pair that need to go.
• Listed the 2 designer pair
• Pitching 4 (I’d donate them but I can’t get to anyplace)
• Set 8 aside on one shelf - I’ll get rid of them as soon as I find replacements.

I just need to focus and manage my shoes like I did my handbags:
• Keep a list of what I wear
• Aggressively upgrade anything I’m not excited about
• Be relentless about each pair I own being both beautiful and functional (comfortable).

Meanwhile, I’m ticked at one of my good friends. She is having some ladies over on Saturday for dinner and drinks and invited me to come. She said we’ve all been stuck in our houses so we and probably don’t have the virus. So, since no one is “close to 60 or sickly”, we “deserve” a little fun. In the nicest way I know how, I told her she was being selfish, ignorant and short sighted. Our bunch of friends don’t “deserve” to party any more than anyone else. She vehemently disagreed with me and said I was being ridiculous and a “killjoy”.



She is a brilliant, highly successful, extremely well educated and caring woman. How does she not get that this isn’t ok? I’m so bored that I think paint drying would be Friday night excitement. But, it is what it is. SMH! I’m looking at her a little differently now.

Not cool of your friend. A zoom cocktail hour would be a better idea!!

 

[lynne_ross]

I am interested how everyone here feels the quarantine and lockdown will affect their behavior after things open back up. I still have bags on my wishlist but I'm not as excited about them anymore. I'm not excited about starting my same shopping habits again. I will be very happy to visit my local H store and see everyone, but I just can't see continuing on the same way I was before all of this happened. Perhaps, eventually, things will return back to normal for me and my mental state. We'll see. I'm very curious about that.

I was nervous that my work would take a hard pause for 1.5-2.5 months, which would mean I would stop getting paid, but it seems that we're continuing on with at least half the work that was expected. We just started paying half of our daycare costs this week, and I'm trying to figure out how to directly give gift cards or monies to the teachers. I need to call today. I'm not interested in going to the daycare physically to drop off Visa gift cards. I'd rather do something virtually. We are picking up food two or three times a week but, with the new guidance of not even going to grocery stores for the next two weeks (recommendation rather than a mandate), we will likely switch to delivery of restaurant food. I bought one pair of Golden Goose sneakers on sale because I love mine and have been wearing them out on walks.

I've dressed up a couple times, both over the weekend, for walks or FaceTimes. It's just for fun and breaks up the monotony. I do wear jeans most everyday during the week though. It's nice to get out of my PJs. I don't wear makeup except for your odd day here and there for a specific customer video chat.

I think being home with children has made us a little more accident prone. My daughter got a splinter a few days ago that I had to try to dig out of her toe. I couldn't get it all so part of it is still in there and we're washing and using Neosporin. Yesterday she fell and seriously scraped up her face on a rock outside, so I washed that and put Neosporin but I bet it's going to be painful today. Poor baby. The other day I was on my laptop for a second and, before I knew it, she was 2/3 of the way up the stairs. Precocious little 11.5 month old... We had to move the gate at the bottom of the stairs because she just moves it out of her way. She's figured out how to get around it...

Glad you are still working!

This event is making me very cautious with money. My husband and I are very fortunate and have great job security or at minimum are in a field where there are more jobs than professionals. But even still I just feel very cautious and I don’t see myself making any luxury purchases until we see the full impact of this virus.
I have also become a more positive person through this. I feel like a positive attitude can make situations like this more bareable and improves my own mental health. I have to actively do this. I am not a negative person usually, more neutral. But I am really feeling the effects of purposely thinking and seeing the positive if that makes sense!

 

[lynne_ross]

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[Bag peace]

Welcome to the thread. I too am trying to think of after this is over and buying some small things that will give me pleasure. It is one of the few things keeping my mind off the constant worry about my relatives that are sick.

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. You are so incredibly brave to be eager to see the world despite the health issues you face. And, I envy what seems to be your irrepressible optimistic outlook.

Thank you both for the warm welcome. I've said this elsewhere on the forum, but this really is the friendliest community and I'm so happy to be here. I've been on other forums where people invariably tear each other down but here it's all about uplifting and supporting people. Such an honour to be a part of this tribe.

 

[Sparkletastic]

Haha, on my lips nothing has staying power except Maybelline SuperStay from the drugstore. But it's probably just colored glue, so not very good for the lips - LOL!
I love MAC: matte, satin, lustre, whatever finishes. The new H limited edition are also nice, but I really bought them for the cool magnetic cases!

I think I’d “given up the ghost on lip color that lasted. When I’ve tried long wear lip color, it really was like glue on my lips - dry, flaky...just yuck. I may try the Maybelline - can’t hurt!

I also have wide feet so I feel your pain. It’s sad how many pairs I’ve bought over the years that aren’t actually comfortable on my feet. I don’t do that anymore.

I was the queen of cute, uncomfortable shoes in HS and college. Having my first child shut all of that down because 1) I couldn’t mince around with uncomfortable feet and an infant and 2) Holding him, I realized that the “real” has nothing to do with looks.

What I can’t understand is...WHY DO SHOE DESIGNERS REFUSE TO CONSISTENTLY GIVE WOMEN COMFORT AND STYLE!?!?!

@essiedub I may have missed this post but it's so beautifully written. If I didn't feel a strong NEED to be here for my daughter, I hope that I'd feel the same way. Although I do still think I have a lot I'd like to accomplish in life! I'm glad that you're at peace in a big way. It's beautiful and I aspire for that. With my pursuit of material things, I do feel that I don't have that yet. I would need to be at peace with everything (what I have, don't have, what I've accomplished and haven't, who I'm close with and who I'm not, etc.) in order to feel comfortable with whatever will happen. It's wonderful to read that you feel that way.

I love how open you are.

I may have to do this too… for Mr. PG, and also for myself. If I had a one-length hairstyle, I wouldn't be worried. But I've got short slightly wavy hair, which I can't imagine doing. And I've never cut a man's hair. Maybe I should wait until our hair grows out, and do a bowl-cut? With an actual bowl?????

Thank the Great Heavenly Turtle... Mr. S decided to rock the bald look last fall way before the quarantine (he has the cutest shaped head - who knew!) I can barely deal with my hair flipping and flopping where it isn’t supposed to be. Lol! No way I could manage two wacky heads right now.

I talked to DS tonight and he said he resembles a fuzzy sheep dog. Happily he’s in IT & WFH so he’s only “offending” himself.

DD has a hair texture unlike the rest of us. She must have reached back to some ancestor and gotten much thicker, coarser hair - though it’s pretty long being about 3 inches past her bra strap. With all that mane, a good cut is critical. So there’s a lot of whining and squealing from that quadrant of the family. I got nuthin’ because my hair is wavy curly but soft and fine (hence the ridiculous flopping). So, I sent her a ballerina bun maker from Amazon.

Same here… also white jeans. I love them on other people, but I just know I'll get pasta sauce on them. Weird, because I wear white t-shirts and don't stress. Maybe because they're so easy to wash?

I love wearing white and never have a problem keeping it clean. So I’d say go for it!

But, for me, it’s always a dress or thighs. With a rumpus and thighs, I would rather walk on hot coals while drinking acid and hugging a tick infested porcupine than wear anything white soley on my bottom half. Mr. S is a “butt man” and bought me some super pretty white jeans. They fit me...as in all of me can get into them. Which doesn’t mean it’s a pretty sight. Billboards and sides of ships come to mind. LOL! So, they are the only thing in my closet that still has the tags on and shall NEVA be worn! He asks about them from time to time and I feign complete amnesia.

I don't have lounge wear either. I wear jeans during the week, and leggings on the weekend. Always have done. Though of course the days are blurring into each other, and I suppose it wouldn't make a bit of difference if I wore leggings on Monday, and jeans on Saturday, but I'm trying to keep as many things stable as I can.

But wow, those Soma PJs sound adorable! I wonder if they're still available on line! I haven't been buying clothes… just food & household necessities (and yes, I cound candles as necessities!) but I may head over there to look.

I swear before the Living Holy Donut that I am going to BURN
Every.
Single.
Pair.
Of.
Pajamas.
I own after the quarantine.

This is such a thoughtful and thought-provoking post, @Rhl2987 . I've been wondering the same thing: certainly in the past month, I've changed my attitude toward "stuff," focussing instead on whether we have enough supplies in the house to keep us nourished and healthy. And also, I'm being our "cheerleader" to get us up and moving, either on the treadmill, or on neighborhood walks, so we don't just lie around watching the news and going crazy. And I've gotten DH into daily meditation, something I've been doing since last summer. I see all of these as positive habits: I wouldn't mind keeping them up in the long term. I hope these are lifetime lessons learned!

Your poor daughter! Andpoor you, having to be both her Mom and her pediatrician. That's got to be major stress on you.

My pulmonologist has just ordered me to stay out of the grocery store for at least the next couple of months. Eek! I did have enough food in the house for a few weeks, but she said I had to protect myself for a whole lot longer than that. I was worried about relying too much on GrubHub or Doorbell Dining for such a long stretch of time, and she agreed. She suggested that I sign up for InstaCart. So I did, and I'm giving it a try with a small order. Anyone else here have any experience with them?

I don’t get why I’m usually the person who is planning the parties, coming up with the ideas for things to do, and generally being the cheerleader normally and now I struggle not to be a serious GRUMP! I can only guess that I am more of an extrovert than I expected and I need people more than I thought. I was always working to carve out quiet time before. So, I think I thought I was more worn out from activity than I was (???) I dunno. I’m just really struggling with this. It’s not just that I’m incredibly bored, I’m genuinely sad lots of the time. And, I’m never typically sad unless there is a true loss like a death. So, I’m trying to figure out what does my subconscious feel that it’s “lost” causing this reaction?

I just appreciate all of you ladies. It’s such a bright spot to my day to come in chat and see what all of you are up to. Love you lots!

Wow, that´s adorable! Hoarder me only went ahead and put all the extra coats into newly bought clothes bags to keep them safe from dust. I had ordered 30 bags thinking this would be plenty.... oops... 2 left, but haven´t been to the storage house, yet and there are definetely more coats and clothes....

LOL! I am the yin to your yang (or vice versa?) I’m the anti-horder. I try my best not to own one molecule of anything that I don’t use and I try to actively use and enjoy whatever I own. Luckily, I married a man who has the same bent with a penchant for organization. So we enjoy getting rid of “stuff.”

I looooove organising. I have nothing to organise here in our temporary place. And nothing to online shop for. Jealous of all the house organising and sale listings you ladies get to do now!

Yay Team Organization! I will re-organize a drawer in your name tomorrow.

Not cool of your friend. A zoom cocktail hour would be a better idea!!

I held one of those this evening. For some reason this one made me really happy. The others I had done left me meh. Maybe I’m just more desperate to see another human now.

My friend attended...with another friend at her house in the background. She is really not getting this. Luckily (?) a number of the attendees gave her serious grief about that. I hope she takes the message.

That is interesting you plan to upsize. Can you share why? We don’t even plan to downsize (once we move back to Canada! We are hugely downsizing now..) and thought is we want kids to visit and we pay for others to take care of our house so why not maintain the space. It is also expensive to move in Toronto so unless you are going significantly down in space - to a condo - you are not saving money moving.

We have room for the kids to visit so that isn’t the concern. We miss the bonus spaces - media room, exercise room, game room, etc. - that we gave up. Some of those spaces made entertaining easier and more interesting. And, I can’t tolerate that the rooms we have are smaller than before. I like openness and I feel cramped after having more room for years. For example my office is smaller so I actually rented a space. That is just stupid. I just feel like I’m turning in circles at times. So, it just needs to change. I’ll downsize when I’m in my crypt.

Thank you both for the warm welcome. I've said this elsewhere on the forum, but this really is the friendliest community and I'm so happy to be here. I've been on other forums where people invariably tear each other down but here it's all about uplifting and supporting people. Such an honour to be a part of this tribe.

Yay! Glad you’re participating. These really are the best ladies on the forum!

 

[Sparkletastic]

I’m lucky in that the quarantine isn’t meaningfully impacting my income...yet. I’m basically getting paid by clients to sit in my house and do a whoooooole lotta nothing...which is driving me batty. I’ve tried to put forth options for work but, they’re worried about more impactful issues like how to keep employees busy which I have to agree is much more important than me right now.

And, the joint venture that Mr S and I were planning - which was taking up most of my time - is dead in the water with the quarantine.

Sooooo, what ta do??

I just purchased a package of 50 - 2 hour lessons with a live trainer for my French language studies. I just needed to do something beyond my self help to make the progress I want to make. I’m totally excited!! I am SO planning a looong trip to French speaking countries after all this!

And, I’m diverging from anything I’ve ever done and looking into getting an IT certification in...something. With Mr. S and DS in that area, I wanna play too! I like learning so these activities should, hopefully, (please!) perk up my mood. Sheesh! This is a rough time!!

 

[Sparkletastic]

Question: is it possible to look cute on FaceTime or Zoom? There has got to be a YouTube on this. :Rofl:

 

[papertiger]

The omelette sounds delicious. You are multitalented! How wonderful to be musically inclined and be able to play more than one instrument.

Thank you, however the piano may not agree with you ha ha

 

[papertiger]

Question: is it possible to look cute on FaceTime or Zoom? There has got to be a YouTube on this. :Rofl:

You need light in front of you (I don't just mean the room overhead) sitting in front of a window is good, and then elevate your laptop/monitor as much as you can . If you can sit back a little from the screen camera too it's even better (or is that just me? )

 

[Bag peace]

I just purchased a package of 50 - 2 hour lessons with a live trainer for my French language studies. I just needed to do something beyond my self help to make the progress I want to make. I’m totally excited!! I am SO planning a looong trip to French speaking countries after all this!

And, I’m diverging from anything I’ve ever done and looking into getting an IT certification in...something. With Mr. S and DS in that area, I wanna play too! I like learning so these activities should, hopefully, (please!) perk up my mood. Sheesh! This is a rough time!!

I love that this is how you're filling your time!
Every year I complete a minimum of 6 courses on EdX on random subject matters. I'm a big believer in perpetual education and learning about things outside of our comfort zones. Most of the courses I do are for free (because, circumstances) but I'll pay for anything that is actually relevant to my existing University degree or applies to my line of work.
Now I'm going to have to re-train in a completely new field because I work as an Events organizer and Covid will result in the death of that industry for the foreseeable future. I'm looking into online degrees for jobs that would allow me to work from home or work remotely. I'm not great at IT but it is one of those industries that thrives off of working remotely. We'll see what I end up doing but whatever it is, it will be a world away from what I've been doing for the past 13 years of my life.

Also, one of my big goals for this year was to learn French or Dutch and that idea was dead in the water! It had not occurred to me to get a tutor to coach me live online. You genius! I'm soooo stealing this idea!

 

[Katinahat]

My grey bags...

2016:
• Chanel pearly grey lambskin m/l classic flap w/dark silver hw.
• Jimmy Choo large Biker Bag in grey sueded leatherView attachment 4699908
2020:
• Kept the m/l Chanel
• Along the way I added a gunmetal grey lambskin jumbo single classic flap with Bijoux chain and shw View attachment 4699909 View attachment 4699910 I like the idea of adding a grey top handle bag to my collection but, I’m in no rush to look or buy. I’m pretty content.

I’m in love with your bags! Gorgeous.

 

[Katinahat]

My grey bags,
2017

• Longchamp Gun Metal Le Pliage Large Shoulder Tote
• Chanel 14P Silver Metallic Reissue Camera Case
• Hermes Etoupe Evelyne III PM

2020

• Hermes Etain Evergrain Massai Cut 40
• Hermes Etain Bolide 31 Taurillon Clemence GHW
• Hermes Etoupe Evelyne III PM (29) Clemence PHW
• Longchamp Gun Metal Le Pliage Large Shoulder Tote
  
• Chanel 14P Silver Metallic Reissue Camera Case

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Another fabulous collection! Thanks for sharing.

 

[Katinahat]

Hi everyone, another few weeks have passed and I’ve not been on here due to everything that’s going on. Just popped back to see how everyone was doing. I’ve got about 40 pages of posts to read to catch up.

Thanks for all the good wishes for my siblings. My sister is mostly recovered and back at work (she’s an NHS DR but probably caught this from her kids via school before they closed). She’s constantly tired 3 weeks after the initial infection but otherwise ok. My brother has been a lot worse but is generally better although left with chronic asthma now so still can’t do much. Hopefully that will get better with time. He’s only in his mid40s.

I’ve had a couple of weeks “off work” for the Easter break. Been gardening like mad and having lots of family time. Mostly eating outside when it’s warm enough, family walk/runs/cycling, playing board games and watching movies. School goes back for the kids in Tuesday so back to “work” then.

I’m in a routine with remote shopping for my 3 families. It’s a lot of work but we are getting there. Income isn’t an issue for us at the moment fortunately. I’ve been doing some online shopping for more Tshirts and other comfortable casual clothing, hobby activities for my family (I’ve taken up adult colouring which is very relaxing), board games (highly recommend “Ticket to Ride”), garden items and technology (Laptops from the children). While delivering is still allowed it seems like it might help the economy to spend a bit.

Currently we are still allowed out for essential shopping, exercise etc but that is it. My Mini Mulberry Cara is my faithful companion for walks, effortlessly worn on my back containing my phone, wallet and keys plus a tiny bottle of hand gel. However, I’ve made more use of an tiny running pouch (Week 3 of C25K) and a big reusable garden rubbish bag for weeding! My garden now has a massive compost and pruning heap as we can’t get rid of that.

I see everyone else is keeping busy and look forward to reading your individual posts to catch up. Meanwhile, I’ve missed black and grey weeks so I’ll try to post some pictures soon.

Take care of yourselves!

 

[dcooney4]

I may have to do this too… for Mr. PG, and also for myself. If I had a one-length hairstyle, I wouldn't be worried. But I've got short slightly wavy hair, which I can't imagine doing. And I've never cut a man's hair. Maybe I should wait until our hair grows out, and do a bowl-cut? With an actual bowl?????

No bowls. I have been cutting my husbands hair for twenty years. I just watched his hair dresser cut it. Then one day when he did not have time to go he asked me to trim it. That was that for him . I would have been more then happy if he had gone back. You could always watch some videos on it.