2019 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?

[Annabel Lee]

I totally agree with your comment that dressing down diminishes an occasion for others. Many years ago, friends of ours hosted a New Year’s Eve party. The wife made it clear that she wanted everyone to be in Black Tie. Very hard to do on short notice, but most people made an effort to dress up — at the very least, jackets on the men and dresses or sparlky jackets on the women. Except for one woman, who was a friend of the husband, who told him in advance there was no way she was dressing up for a party at someone’s house on NYE. She showed up in corduroy pants and a Christmas sweater. And was completely unapologetic. I thought it was incredibly rude. It also pretty much wrecked the friendship she had with the husband, because there was no way his wife was ever going to speak to her again!

SO rude. Why go at all then?

 

[Sparkletastic]

I totally agree with your comment that dressing down diminishes an occasion for others. Many years ago, friends of ours hosted a New Year’s Eve party. The wife made it clear that she wanted everyone to be in Black Tie. Very hard to do on short notice, but most people made an effort to dress up — at the very least, jackets on the men and dresses or sparlky jackets on the women. Except for one woman, who was a friend of the husband, who told him in advance there was no way she was dressing up for a party at someone’s house on NYE. She showed up in corduroy pants and a Christmas sweater. And was completely unapologetic. I thought it was incredibly rude. It also pretty much wrecked the friendship she had with the husband, because there was no way his wife was ever going to speak to her again!

IMO, it’s a sign of contempt to deliberately flout the dress code for an event.

One of my BFF’s got married and had an ultra formal white tie wedding. (It was gorgeous.) She asked the women in the family to choose dresses from the wedding colors - rose, peach and silver. Her MIL showed up at the wedding in a short grey and black dress and “excused” it by saying she felt she looked best in that dress.

It wasn’t her wedding to make that decision. And you can’t tell me she couldn’t have found or had made a flattering dress in some range of rose, peach and silver for her only son’s wedding???? It was nothing but disrespect and selfishness.

Needless to say, they've never had a good relationship.

Wow, @Sparkletastic , this is absolutely GORGEOUS! You must be dancing with delight. (And will you and Mr. S be dancing tonight???) This should go with absolutely anything you own, from red to black to anything sparkle-y. Wear it in good health!

Yes! We will be dancing on my recovering knee and toe. LOL! I can’t wait. I love that I can wear this casual to dressy.

I've never counted how many shoes I have but it is a lot more than 4. There are some I don't wear that I should get rid of, but I wear most of them. I haven't noticed them falling apart from sitting in the closet.

I just counted my shoes. I wear all of the ones except those I’ve earmarked to go. I’m keeping them as just-in-case until I buy replacements. But I probably should just donate them now. Sigh. I’ll gather them up. I plan to do a lot of clearing out this week as Mr. S. will be out of town on business and I can sneak things out.

Heels
24 pair (4 of which need to go)
* Want approx 40 pair

Boots & Booties
4 pair (1 of which needs to go)
* Want approx 10 pair

Tennis Shoes
5 (all just bought and super cute)
* Don’t need any more

Flats inc. sandals, ballet slippers, etc.
8 (5 of which need to go)
* Want approx 12 pair

 

[Sparkletastic]

What is everyone’s favorite pair of shoes? Share a photo if you have it.

My favorites are either my Alexander McQueen Pink Eyelet Bow Sandals

Or my Steve Madden Mischa

Both are super cute high heels but still very, very comfy. I wore the Steve Madden’s for 6 hours on Friday night hopping in and out of Uber’s and even dancing and my feet were just fine.

 

[Sparkletastic]

I feel like I need much more variety in my shoes than my bags. Do they rest of you feel that way?

 

[catsinthebag]

IMO, it’s a sign of contempt to deliberately flout the dress code for an event.

One of my BFF’s got married and had an ultra formal white tie wedding. (It was gorgeous.) She asked the women in the family to choose dresses from the wedding colors - rose, peach and silver. Her MIL showed up at the wedding in a short grey and black dress and “excused” it by saying she felt she looked best in that dress.

It wasn’t her wedding to make that decision. And you can’t tell me she couldn’t have found or had made a flattering dress in some range of rose, peach and silver for her only son’s wedding???? It was nothing but disrespect and selfishness.

Needless to say, they've never had a good relationship.
Yes! We will be dancing on my recovering knee and toe. LOL! I can’t wait. I love that I can wear this casual to dressy.
I just counted my shoes. I wear all of the ones except those I’ve earmarked to go. I’m keeping them as just-in-case until I buy replacements. But I probably should just donate them now. Sigh. I’ll gather them up. I plan to do a lot of clearing out this week as Mr. S. will be out of town on business and I can sneak things out.

Heels
24 pair (4 of which need to go)
* Want approx 40 pair

Boots & Booties
4 pair (1 of which needs to go)
* Want approx 10 pair

Tennis Shoes
5 (all just bought and super cute)
* Don’t need any more

Flats inc. sandals, ballet slippers, etc.
8 (5 of which need to go)
* Want approx 12 pair

Definitely a sign of contempt, and wow! To do that at your future DIL’s wedding takes it to a whole new level. I have to wonder if this woman is just one of those people for whom it’s always about them, or if she really felt resentful about her son getting married.

I haven’t counted my shoes (yet — this thread will pop cause me to do so!) but I can guarantee you I will never own 24 pairs of heels! I’m not sure I own any heels right now! I do have cute flats, but I own more sneakers and boots than anything.

 

[Annabel Lee]

What is everyone’s favorite pair of shoes? Share a photo if you have it.

My favorites are either my Alexander McQueen Pink Eyelet Bow Sandals
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Or my Steve Madden Mischa
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Both are super cute high heels but still very, very comfy. I wore the Steve Madden’s for 6 hours on Friday night hopping in and out of Uber’s and even dancing and my feet were just fine.

Super cute shoes on both counts! I love interesting shapes and textures.

I'm not sure I could pick a favorite, especially since I have a LOT of shoes. I have some wilder colors, but mostly I like classic colors with unusual detail.

I feel like I need much more variety in my shoes than my bags. Do they rest of you feel that way?

Absolutely. They can change an outfit so much more than bags usually do.

 

[Sparkletastic]

Definitely a sign of contempt, and wow! To do that at your future DIL’s wedding takes it to a whole new level. I have to wonder if this woman is just one of those people for whom it’s always about them, or if she really felt resentful about her son getting married.

I haven’t counted my shoes (yet — this thread will pop cause me to do so!) but I can guarantee you I will never own 24 pairs of heels! I’m not sure I own any heels right now! I do have cute flats, but I own more sneakers and boots than anything.

Either way the MIL made such a mean spirited move.

Re: shoes. This will be the first year I track my usage. I’m hoping that like with my handbags, I’ll find I need far fewer than I think. I know that I have shoes I don’t wear so they need to go.

 

[Sparkletastic]

Super cute shoes on both counts! I love interesting shapes and textures.

I'm not sure I could pick a favorite, especially since I have a LOT of shoes. I have some wilder colors, but mostly I like classic colors with unusual detail.

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Absolutely. They can change an outfit so much more than bags usually do.

Oh wow!!! These are all incredibly cute!! That pink and black pair are TDF! And I love the heel on the sandals. Do you regularly get rid of older shoes or do you tend to just add to your collection?

 

[Annabel Lee]

Either way the MIL made such a mean spirited move.

Re: shoes. This will be the first year I track my usage. I’m hoping that like with my handbags, I’ll find I need far fewer than I think. I know that I have shoes I don’t wear so they need to go.

I picked wedding colors that made coordinating dresses hard to find (oops). My poor mom had a dress made for her, at great cost, that didn't turn out great, and she'll never wear it again. I wish she hadn't, because I still feel guilty about it. We could have figured out something else!

But it's one thing to have that conversation ahead of time--"Hey, I looked for a dress in your colors and there's not much out there that will suit me, so is it okay if I wear this instead?" and quite another thing altogether to turn up at the wedding in the wrong color dress. Totally rude.

 

[More bags]

I reorganised my bag wardrobe a couple of weeks ago

What a beautiful view! It must put a smile on your face every time you open your bag wardrobe! Just heavenly!

I'll be doing the love it or list it challenge in January with my Valentino Rockstud tote. I have a love/hate relationship with it, which is actually pretty tragic, considering it's only a handbag.
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This is a lovely colour and functional looking bag. The rockstuds give it a nice subtle edge. Good luck with your January challenge.

 

[Annabel Lee]

Oh wow!!! These are all incredibly cute!! That pink and black pair are TDF! And I love the heel on the sandals. Do you regularly get rid of older shoes or do you tend to just add to your collection?

Thank you!

Mostly I just add. While I hate splitting wears on bags, I actually don't mind that for shoes if it means I can keep a much-loved pair in good condition a little longer. I like unique styles, and it can be hard to find replacements when favorite shoes get too worn.

However, I'm pretty good about getting rid of pairs I don't use anymore. And when it comes to basics, such as plain black pumps, I'm not afraid to wear them because I know I can replace them easily when I wear them out. So those I wear out, get rid of, and replace.

 

[lynne_ross]

I don’t have many shoes - at least I do my think I do but I’ll count them when I go through them. I have done a few major clean outs each time I moved, plus I do clean out twice a year. I also buy very few shoes in a year.
My favourite shoes are my Ferragamo My Joys since I walk everywhere so mostly wear flats. I think I have 6 pairs and I would I am always looking to add more.

 

[Lake Effect]

I'll be doing the love it or list it challenge in January with my Valentino Rockstud tote. I have a love/hate relationship with it, which is actually pretty tragic, considering it's only a handbag.
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Please, I understand. I am not trying to out-tragic you, lol, but it does seem even more pathetic that I have gone back and forth and around the block, over hot mess rehab specials no less !!
But you mentioned it was, the new word I learned here, fiddly. And one thing I know for me, fiddly bags do not last long!!

 

[Lake Effect]

You make me realize that maybe I’m the function-first person. [emoji848] it must work to make me happy, but yes, I’d be very happy if it’s cute or pretty. Actually, like I said, being cute will catch my eyes so... [emoji848] Arg! I don’t even know who I am. [emoji28]

I like medium to large bags in general, working breeds as I am fond of calling them, but am allowing myself several, small cuties that will sit on a shelf mostly. One of them has a kisslock inside. Another that people sell for over $100 that I scored for $3 at a flee market, in British Tan, my Achilles heel.

 

[eggtartapproved]

@ipsum post away! Finances and money talk are another one of my interests!

@whateve oops, I may have thought ipsum’s post was under your name