100 Days to live!!!

#16
That's terrible, like a ticking time bomb right in her own head ! My prayers are with your friend.

As to 100 days to live.. I'd probably drop out of school and try to spend more time with my family and friends, as well as tie up those loose ends.. and of course, try to check off everything on my must travel to list.
 
#18
I am truly sorry for your friend. I'm in the medical field, did your friend get a second opinion? Or even a third? There are so many new innovative solutions for dealing with this. If it is in fact a tumor that is not malignant (cancerous) they can zap it with lazers in low doses of radiation. I have seen many patients go through this procedure with great results. Tell your friend not to give up. Have her live her life to its fullest. If she can get another opinion then tell her to do it. Do let her give in to the fatality that she is going to die. It can actually cause her body to exasperate all its energy to stay alive. Attitude is very important with terminal patients. Dont let her give in to depression. Remember "Mind and Body" your mind controls your body. Example: A patient of mine had 2 months to live, she have a terminal case of cancer. She wanted to see her boys graduate from middle school which was 6 months away. Well to our surprise she lived an additional year and a half. She refused to go until she knew her boys were going to be ok.

My prayers are with you and your friend.
 
#19
One of my favorite clients was diagnosed with a stage 3 brain tumor 2 months ago. He had a seizure in the middle of the night and prior to that he had no problems. He had radiation and chemo to shrink the tumor, then they went in and removed what they could and then he has had more radiation. He finds out in October what his prognosis is. He's 39 and has 2 kids ages 3 and 5. THE nicest man I know....The US has the highest rate of cancer than anywhere else in the world. Probably because of the processed foods full of chemicals, toxins in the air, and it goes on and on. I have lost 5 of my friends to breast cancer over the past 3 years (one was a male) and they were all under the age of 45. 2 of my friends have children with cancer and are now at St Judes. (ages 18 mos and 7)...Cancer is an epidemic here. I am so sorry about your friend. Truly.:sad: :heart:
 
#21
I am so sorry about this! I would definitely see Paris as that has been a goal of mine and do whatever I enjoy most. I would also visit family and friends, make amends and do some religious study-whatever would bring me peace. You have my prayers.
 
#22
Your friend and her family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope, as others have said, that she finds a treatment that will lengthen her life. I pray she feels well enough to enjoy her family for as long as she can.
 
#23
gosh, i'm just at a loss for words, this whole thread make me wanna cry :crybaby:...cancer is the most devastating illness & not enough is being done to stop it...and most of the people named here were all under age 45 :sad:...all i can say is that i'm soooooooooooooo sorry for all of you who have lost loved ones this way...to be given this news when you're only 32 years old, with a 1 year old son is just tragic :sad:...if i only had 3 months to live, i'd spend every second w/my family & friends :love:...if i was working, i'd stop immediately & go on vacation to an island paradise...i'd try & fill my life beauty, peace & laughter...and i'd pamper & indulge myself in every way possible (lots of ice cream, massages everyday, maybe a fun new hairdo, etc.)...prayers & hugs to you & your friend :angel:
 
#24
sorry about your friend.. i hope she hangs in there coz maybe, the doctors can still do something.. in regards to your question... hmm, 3 months.. i still want to finish my dissertation.. travel a bit.... and see old friends.. that's it.. that's what i want to do.. i want some sense of accomplishment so those are the things that i would consider finishing up..
 
#27
;/ thats a hard to swallow situation.

has any1 seen LAST HOLIDAY with Queen Latifah? THat movie made me feel pretty good after watching it .

Life is too short to be sad about anything at all. ;/


Sorry to hear about your friends situation. ;/
 
#29
Im sorry to hear that. Back in 1999, my friend was diagnosed with a brain tumor, she found out she was pregnant a few months prior. Luckily, she was able to carry the baby to full term and deliver it, 12 days later she passed away.
 
#30
I echo what simplyprincess has advised - Please encourage your friend to get not only a second opinion but a third!

I am from a family of physicians and know that doctors are human...their opinions are on what they have experienced with their patients in the past.

In May my boyfriend was diagnosed with liver cancer. We are in a relatively large city with a good medical community and sought out a specialist immediately. The first doctor we saw made it sound like "no big deal" to operate and remove the tumors, but since liver surgery is very invasive and tedious we sought a second opinion from a well known University Med School close by. The doctors there gave him only 6-9 months to live! We were shocked. I know what you are feeling for your friend. It was the ABSOLUTE DARKEST day in my entire life, bar none. To say I was numb was an understatement. Although he is 56 y/o, he had never even been hospitalized and had literally no experience with doctors other that for his annual physicals.

Since we had two such different opinions, I insisted he get a third - I researched his condition night and day until I learned who were the best hepatic surgeons in the country. We settled on a surgeon at the Mayo Clinic in MN, and are we glad we did. He was seen at Mayo on a Thursday and had a liver resection the following Monday. It was a difficult surgery, but as of now my b/f is cancer-free. Of course, he was one of the lucky ones to have caught it early (it has a very low survival rate because it is so asymptomatic), but had we not gathered out wits about us and insisted on a referral to Mayo, who knows where he'd be now.

I don't mean to give you any false hopes, but it is amazing how opinions can vary in the medical community. Like I said, they are as human as we are.

You, your friend and her family will be in my prayers. I understand the pain you are in, and will pray that no matter what the final outcome, you will all have the strength and courage to face the coming months.
 
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