Would you exchange the diamond in your engagement for a bigger one?

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#16
supergurl214 said:
DH and I went to get my rings cleaned this weekend. While we were waiting, I started looking at some other rings. And it got my thinking more seriously about this question. Would you exchange the diamond in your engagement ring for a bigger one?

When we got engaged, DH was 21 and still in university. I know he got me the best ring he could afford and that he thought I would love. It is a beautiful ring and I do love it (and him! :love: ) and obviously this ring has sentimental value... With our two-year anniversary coming up, I'm a little torn. Should I exchange the diamond for a bigger one? Or perhaps get a new setting, keeping the original diamond, but incorporating a halo? Or just keep the ring the way it is?

Here are some pictures of the engagement ring together with my wedding band and one-year anniversary ring on either side.
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My DH says keep the first one which was his 2 months salary before. And bought me bigger one 7 years later to appreciate me being in his life :p. and I was upgraded that second diamond to a larger rock, which am having right now :p
 
#18
i dont think i could change or alter my rings- i would rather a bigger pair of diamond earings or something. i feel like any subsequent ring is just jewelery not an engagement ring.
 
#19
I'm chinese and we believe it's a taboo to sell/trade in the engagement/wedding ring. I suggest keeping the existing one and just buy a bigger ring or re-set it to the design you want.
 
#21
I'd never consider it. I don't feel that it would still be an engagement ring. My husband has never brought it up and I would never even have known that people do it had it not been for this forum!
 
#23
eponine03 said:
I think your ring is gorgeous!

I guess it's a personal decision, but I would never "upgrade" my engagement ring. DF and I got engaged earlier this year and I have a very dainty 0.30 ct. Lucida solitaire. We have a new baby and it was a huge surprise to me that he even proposed with a ring. I plan to wear it forever. The size of the diamond doesn't reflect the strength of our marriage. To me, it will always be a reminder of where we came from. We're using the extra money we got back from our taxes to splurge on wedding bands (platinum for him, diamonds for me) instead of upgrading my ring.
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love this!! exactly how I feel! You can get other rings with bigger stones, but I feel that the engagement ring should be left alone.
 
#24
eponine03 said:
I think your ring is gorgeous!

I guess it's a personal decision, but I would never "upgrade" my engagement ring. DF and I got engaged earlier this year and I have a very dainty 0.30 ct. Lucida solitaire. We have a new baby and it was a huge surprise to me that he even proposed with a ring. I plan to wear it forever. The size of the diamond doesn't reflect the strength of our marriage. To me, it will always be a reminder of where we came from.
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ITA with this 150%. I would never feel right about "upgrading" the ring that he proposed to me with.

If you want something different/bigger/whatever, what about adding something to it? For our 10th anniversary last year my husband bought me a diamond anniversary band, which looks lovely with my original wedding set.
 
#25
For me, the wedding band is the sentimental part of the wedding set. Afterall, its the token he gave to me as we exchanged vows and committed ourselves to one another. I don't see myself ever trading in/upgrading/altering my wedding band. But as for the engagement ring, well, we're not engaged anymore, we're married. So, to me, the e-ring symbolizes passion and romance, while the wedding band symbolizes love and commitment and family. And hey, the more passion the better, right? :graucho: I say upgrade the engagement ring if it isn't exactly what you want. When I was first engaged, I was certain I would never want to upgrade, and now, less than three years in, I've already upgraded twice. I guess time changes things. Good luck deciding.
 
#26
ChanelHoarder said:
OP I think your ring is gorgeous as is right now! Maybe you can hold on to it for a little while longer and done the road you can upgrade? BUT it is your ring and you should do what makes you happy, but like I said, I think your ring is pretty already!
Do you mind sharing the specs on it? From the pictures, the stone looks like a good size to start with anyway though!
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I believe the centre stone is 0.75ct.. I can't remember the other specs off the top of my head :shame:

acrowcounted said:
For me, the wedding band is the sentimental part of the wedding set. Afterall, its the token he gave to me as we exchanged vows and committed ourselves to one another. I don't see myself ever trading in/upgrading/altering my wedding band. But as for the engagement ring, well, we're not engaged anymore, we're married. So, to me, the e-ring symbolizes passion and romance, while the wedding band symbolizes love and commitment and family. And hey, the more passion the better, right? :graucho: I say upgrade the engagement ring if it isn't exactly what you want. When I was first engaged, I was certain I would never want to upgrade, and now, less than three years in, I've already upgraded twice. I guess time changes things. Good luck deciding.
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I like the way you put it! :D

And thanks for the feedback everyone!! I think I'll probably keep the original stone and reset it!
 
#28
I ended up with my engagement ring because a lady traded in her set for their 25th anniversary! It's such a personal choice, but I wouldn't trade mine for anything. My husband scoured jewelry shops with his mom, pretending that they were out looking for wallpaper so I wouldn't catch on. Awww, young love!
However, my MIL had her wedding/engagement rings reset and after her passing, I inherited that ring. I had it reset to complement my own and now I wear all three together. I'm sentimental about it because of the history, but everyone is different! I've been wearing my ring for almost 20 years now :)
 
#29
No, I would never exchange the diamond in my e-ring. I don't think there is anything wrong with doing so but I am just very sentimental. I associate things with events and I associate my e-ring with my DF getting down on one knee and proposing to me with it in a box of chocolates. Every time I look at it, I am reminded of that life altering day and it is so special to me!
 
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