Would you exchange the diamond in your engagement for a bigger one?

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supergurl214

supergurl214

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Sep 27, 2007
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#1
DH and I went to get my rings cleaned this weekend. While we were waiting, I started looking at some other rings. And it got my thinking more seriously about this question. Would you exchange the diamond in your engagement ring for a bigger one?

When we got engaged, DH was 21 and still in university. I know he got me the best ring he could afford and that he thought I would love. It is a beautiful ring and I do love it (and him! :love: ) and obviously this ring has sentimental value... With our two-year anniversary coming up, I'm a little torn. Should I exchange the diamond for a bigger one? Or perhaps get a new setting, keeping the original diamond, but incorporating a halo? Or just keep the ring the way it is?

Here are some pictures of the engagement ring together with my wedding band and one-year anniversary ring on either side.
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#4
I think your ring is gorgeous!

I guess it's a personal decision, but I would never "upgrade" my engagement ring. DF and I got engaged earlier this year and I have a very dainty 0.30 ct. Lucida solitaire. We have a new baby and it was a huge surprise to me that he even proposed with a ring. I plan to wear it forever. The size of the diamond doesn't reflect the strength of our marriage. To me, it will always be a reminder of where we came from. We're using the extra money we got back from our taxes to splurge on wedding bands (platinum for him, diamonds for me) instead of upgrading my ring.
 
#5
I think your ring set is very pretty and suits your hand :smile1: but if you want to upgrade then go for it! I guess due to my own situation I'm not sentimental about wearing my own original ring as an engagement ring anymore but however could never sell it and will probably get the diamond used as a pendant or RHR one day. (I'm in the process too of upgrading:tup:).

I can't tell from your post whether you are going to get a whole new ring or keep the setting and just exchange the stone. If its the latter, then just take care with your decision, sometimes a larger stone in the same (original) setting may just not look right, due to different proportions. Anyway good luck with your decision.!
 
#7
Princess Pink said:
I think your ring set is very pretty and suits your hand :smile1: but if you want to upgrade then go for it! I guess due to my own situation I'm not sentimental about wearing my own original ring as an engagement ring anymore but however could never sell it and will probably get the diamond used as a pendant or RHR one day. (I'm in the process too of upgrading:tup:).

I can't tell from your post whether you are going to get a whole new ring or keep the setting and just exchange the stone. If its the latter, then just take care with your decision, sometimes a larger stone in the same (original) setting may just not look right, due to different proportions. Anyway good luck with your decision.!
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Ooohhh can't wait to see your upgrade!! :graucho:

I was thinking of keeping the setting and just exchanging the stone. But you're right, I'll have to see if it looks right - I didn't even think about that :idea:
 
#8
My DH is very sentimental. I am not allow to touch my original ering. So it sits in the safe deposit box. However, he is fine with me purchasing bigger diamonds, and wearing them as my engagement ring. :amuse:
 
#9
Very personal decision, but never. My story is similiar to yours but we've been married 26 years and got married and had a baby when my husband was in school. When the time was right I upgraded to a 3 stone ring using my original stone. Couldn't love it more, we have 2 sons so I call the other 2 stones my sons!
 
#10
I am not sentimental --a ring is meaningless to the true worth of a relationship. You have only to look at the divorce rates and the gobstopper rings of the celebs and big wigs etc. I had only a band to start, then a pretty inexpensive colored stone ring, then a diamond and two more diamonds later I have a fairly large stone. That being said I love jewelry-I love stones and I love the details of it all. It has little to do with how I feel about my husband. If you want a bigger stones get a bigger stone. Its a piece of jewelry in my opinion.
 
#11
I do have a sentimental attachment to my stone, so whilst I would upgrade and use my original stone towards another piece like earrings or a necklace, I don't think I could exchange it and part with it entirely!

Is this an option for you?
 
#13
Hermesaholic said:
I am not sentimental --a ring is meaningless to the true worth of a relationship. You have only to look at the divorce rates and the gobstopper rings of the celebs and big wigs etc. I had only a band to start, then a pretty inexpensive colored stone ring, then a diamond and two more diamonds later I have a fairly large stone. That being said I love jewelry-I love stones and I love the details of it all. It has little to do with how I feel about my husband. If you want a bigger stones get a bigger stone. Its a piece of jewelry in my opinion.
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So true!:yes:
 
#14
OP I think your ring is gorgeous as is right now! Maybe you can hold on to it for a little while longer and done the road you can upgrade? BUT it is your ring and you should do what makes you happy, but like I said, I think your ring is pretty already!
Do you mind sharing the specs on it? From the pictures, the stone looks like a good size to start with anyway though!
 
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