I would not be angry, but irritated. I've had a collegaue filing her nails halfway over my bag. I had yto tell her to stop. She didn't notice herself. And it happended in the kitchen which I think makes it even worse.
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I would have gently leaned over and moved my bag out of the "rain".....problem solved. Some people are just unaware and clueless.
I was indeed more irritated than angry. I avoided this individual for the rest of the day, but eventually got over it, as she really is a good person - just somewhat messy and scatterbrained. I usually put my bag into a cabinet but that day I stepped away from my desk to welcome somebody else back - went up to this person's desk to give her a hug. When I saw the other individual holding the sandwich over my bag, my heart skipped a beat, but I didn't say anything because there were more people standing up and talking, and I didn't want to make a big deal out of this in front of the others. I just can't believe that people can be this careless. I would never do something like this at somebody's desk. I guess manners are just not a big thing anymore.
Hmm, I agree that all in all an object is just an object; however, for someone battling with OCD these things are not so simple to just move beyond. Moreover, this individual knows that I am very particular about now wanting dirt, crumbs, and debris in general around my belongings and space, so I think that she should have known better. If I, for example, know that a certain individual is very particular about something, I would think 30 times before I would do something careless around that something. As somebody had pointed out above, I was not vocal about the situation because in today's society I would have probably been more ostracized for being particular about something like this than that individual would have been for her carelessness and lack of thinking.Hahahaha! Much ado about nothing imo. We're all different (thank goodness!). Now that OP knows how messy some of her workmates are I guess she can protect her handbag in the future a bit better. I know I would be a bit more proactive protecting it if I felt that irritated about the whole event.
I wish all problems could be solved that easily....![]()
Hmm, I agree that all in all an object is just an object; however, for someone battling with OCD these things are not so simple to just move beyond. Moreover, this individual knows that I am very particular about now wanting dirt, crumbs, and debris in general around my belongings and space, so I think that she should have known better. If I, for example, know that a certain individual is very particular about something, I would think 30 times before I would do something careless around that something. As somebody had pointed out above, I was not vocal about the situation because in today's society I would have probably been more ostracized for being particular about something like this than that individual would have been for her carelessness and lack of thinking.
That is to say that obviously this is not the end of the world, and she did not cause any damage to my bag, but I was sincerely irritated with her the day I started this thread, and I just wanted to see what others would think.
I wanted unbiased opinions. However, it appears that many people on here find this sort of behavior to be disrespectful regardless of the circumstances.Had you stated at the outset that you battle OCD (which is a real challenge) then your responses may have been different. And you also didn't disclose that this person "knows that I am very particular about now wanting dirt, crumbs, and debris in general around my belongings and space, so I think that she should have known better."
All of that info is a game changer in how others may have responded to your initial post.
I wanted unbiased opinions. However, it appears that many people on here find this sort of behavior to be disrespectful regardless of the circumstances.
hmmm I wont be angry but I would certainly be irritated. I would absolutely either say something or do something that would make it known that it's not okay. I'm surprised at how many people just "let it slide". While it's nice to see so many are so accommodating, it's troubling to me in a different aspect. I find that people are more and more "oblivious" and "absent-minded" over basic social manners. To me, the words in quotes in prior sentence are "excuses". Yes, we can and are all oblivious or absentminded sometimes. The difference is whether or not one cares enough to recognize that this should be the exception and not the norm and just "shrug" it off like it's nothing when it inconvenience others. The self awareness to know it's not cool and feel slightly embarrassed about it to avoid doing whatever it is in the future.
I mean we human have to coexist. we dont live alone as a specie. Basic things that as human who live in a shared common society/community should have the courtesy to be taught by one's parents/teachers, etc. and observe should be respected and expected.
These social norms are now "overlooked" because we feel "it's not worth the trouble" or "it's not my problem" or for fear of being called names - we all want to be cool. However, I believe in holding people and myself accountable, for basic simple things. if we don't set some basic standards, there will be no standards. if we don't hold each other accountable, then what is this society going to be like when we're all mindless oblivious idiots?who do we blame? those who are raised to live life obliviously? or the society who made it okay because we don't show them what the basic expectation of courtesy is? we shouldnt be so afraid of setting the bar that there would be none and when one shows expectations - everybody's shocked...?!
Ok... crazy person rant over![]()
True but sometimes the original action is offensive and deserves a response. Ignoring things isn't always the best option. In fact I find it rarely is.
I don't believe that you need to have a sickness (like OCD) to deserve basic social respect.I wanted unbiased opinions. However, it appears that many people on here find this sort of behavior to be disrespectful regardless of the circumstances.
Lamb, responses are a choice.True but sometimes the original action is offensive and deserves a response. Ignoring things isn't always the best option. In fact I find it rarely is.