ita.
I used to live in the ghetto when i was a child and a teenager. Some people would say that this was a bad experience for a child, but actually i learned a lot of things there.
One thing i remember very well is that many (not all) people in the ghetto are super-concerned to have prestigious goods, especially expensive clothes and cars. And yes, they are real a whole bunch of the time! You would see real, shiny cadillacs (this was the sixties) parked in front of the worst apartments a lot of the time. The jewelry people had was amazing. Yes, they wore too much of sometimes, and it would definitely spend time in the pawn shop occasionally (when they were absolutely forced to pay the rent) but it was amazing expensive jewelry. People there are very stylish and fashion forward. Styles actually come of the ghetto quite a bit. Well-known designers have been known to copy what they call 'street style.'
my father also used to tell us not to worry that we didn't have clothes and things (the latest electronics, the best brand of shoes) while all our friends and classmates did, because he was saving money to get out of the ghetto. Which he did. By the time i was in high school, we lived in a beautiful middle class house in a safe middle class neighborhood. And by the time i went to college, he could afford to send me where i wanted (ivy league, baby!)
i still had clothes in college that many who have posted here would look upon (cheap, baggy jeans--irregular shirts. I don't remember having a handbag, just a backpack).
I live well now and like nice things, that i can afford without skimping on the important things, like my children's education and my retirement savings and i am never impressed with what other people are wearing, real or fake, because for all i know, they are going home to an apartment which has no heat because they couldn't pay the bill because they had to have a real lv or bbag. Also, because that person in the unstylish clothes (mom jeans or whatever) may be a very interesting, intelligent and nice person, an immigrant on their way up like i was who can't afford the best right now and so wears what they can afford--or they may have other priorities, or they may be really rich and dressing down, you just can't tell.
this is the smartest and the most true post i have ever read on this forum. Thumbs up for u!