What to do with the ring after a divorce?!
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I would have it set into a pendant and save the setting for my daughter...when I got divorced I held onto my engagement ring thinking I would sell it also. I ended up giving it to my new fiance who used it to trade it in for my second engagement ring which is much more beautiful than the first!!!
Mine I had melted into a bracelet (it was a gold circle). My engagement ring I keep, it has a large aquamarine and I use it as a dress ring.
That would be sorta uncomfortable for me to do..would feel like my ex-hubby paid for my second engagement ring too!
That would be sorta uncomfortable for me to do..would feel like my ex-hubby paid for my second engagement ring too!
Well... wow this I never thought about.
I am not married but in my mid 20s and that is something def. for me to consider even being a female.
If it was me as of right now (meaning may change later). I probably ebay it but then again... it is rough because I am a female so I dunno depending how the divorce or reason was...
I am not married but in my mid 20s and that is something def. for me to consider even being a female.
If it was me as of right now (meaning may change later). I probably ebay it but then again... it is rough because I am a female so I dunno depending how the divorce or reason was...
Hi!
Thank you for all of your replies. I am not emotionally attached to the ring so my decision is to try and sell it. It has been in my safety deposit box for two years and I really think it needs to be loved by someone. I will invest the money for myself that I get from the sell. Happy Holidays!!!
Thank you for all of your replies. I am not emotionally attached to the ring so my decision is to try and sell it. It has been in my safety deposit box for two years and I really think it needs to be loved by someone. I will invest the money for myself that I get from the sell. Happy Holidays!!!
They say you shouldn't make any "life altering" decisions for a year after a big life event like divorce or death of a spouse. You need to give yourself time to heal and your ability to reason will become more rational. I kept the rings my ex gave me. They are put away for my daughters. And my ex and I are still very close friends (like him, just can't stand liviing with him).
So you had it stored for 2 years? Then you've been through the healing period.
I'd say sell it but I'd do it ASAP as Valentines day is coming up, a big time for engagement rings.
I'd say sell it but I'd do it ASAP as Valentines day is coming up, a big time for engagement rings.
Hey...good advice about Valentines day!!! I had not thought about that, thank you Long Legs!
I think it's a great idea to sell it and use the money for something special for yourself!! If you can use some extra cash now, you should certainly have it
But I also wanted to share a nice story just in case others had rings with lame memories attached:
One of the members of our "fur ball" committee (a big charity dinner to raise money for our animal shelter) had just recently divorced after over thirty years of marraige
It was very hostile. Anyway, she donated the ring to the charity auction. We had it made into a gorgeous necklace (a local jeweler donated her time) and made thousands with it at the auction. She now feels great that her nasty old husband's ring is helping to save so many helpless kitties and doggies. Plus, the shelter brings new families together -- by giving them pets -- so my friend saw that as a nice sort of circular closure to the dispersal of her old family unit.
But I also wanted to share a nice story just in case others had rings with lame memories attached:
One of the members of our "fur ball" committee (a big charity dinner to raise money for our animal shelter) had just recently divorced after over thirty years of marraige
It was very hostile. Anyway, she donated the ring to the charity auction. We had it made into a gorgeous necklace (a local jeweler donated her time) and made thousands with it at the auction. She now feels great that her nasty old husband's ring is helping to save so many helpless kitties and doggies. Plus, the shelter brings new families together -- by giving them pets -- so my friend saw that as a nice sort of circular closure to the dispersal of her old family unit.
I like this suggestion. I would keep it away for a set amount of time, then revisit it once the time has gone by and decide then. If you are more newly divorced, this may be a bit hard to think about now and make a decision you will be happy with later.