What are your thoughts on kids/teens with designer bags
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It depends. As long as its not for show off i m fine. These kids are lucky. What irks me are those carrying imitations and trying to pass off as real items.
Personally I believe designer bags is something that should be bought and worked for by one self. Or earned by an accomplishment such as graduation from high school or college - preferably college. I believe children should be taught responsibility and independence, by saving for or working to earn things they really want allows the a sense of independence they will keep through their lives. I have two girls 28 and 26 who have been gone from home since 18. One went to college and the other joined the Navy. My husband and I gave our girls the necessities and a few extras but for the most part things they wanted outside what we provided they had to work for. Of course at the time they did not understand but to this day thank us for showing them things do not just come easy. Both girls do very well and I am one proud momma! If we do not show children financial responsibility starting at a young age chances of them still living with the parents at 30 is great. Children should be raised to be independent not dependent! We cannot do that when we give them things I think they should grow up and buy themselves.
Funny my nephew who is 18 took a picture next to a BMW on Facebook so I asked my brother "You didn't give him the BMW did you?" My brother laughed and said "He'll drive a BMW when he can afford one himself!" Lol I hear that!
Be Blessed MoNikki
Funny my nephew who is 18 took a picture next to a BMW on Facebook so I asked my brother "You didn't give him the BMW did you?" My brother laughed and said "He'll drive a BMW when he can afford one himself!" Lol I hear that!
Be Blessed MoNikki
This is pretty much what I see in Toronto for these age ranges. I think parents need to consider what you can afford to give your children, and what the norm is where you live. Right now I'm on vacation in Eastern Canada with my Michael Kors $300 bag and it is absolutely the only 'designer' bag I have seen in over a week. So a kid here with LV wouldn't fit it, where in say Vancouver or some parts of California they would be considered 'deprived' if they didn't have one.
I'm in high school, and I believe that as long as WE'RE paying for the majority of what we're dreaming after, it's fair. The main concern for others my age is that we wouldn't understand the work and value that goes into each bag, and the only way we can is to work to get it ourselves.
I mean, if they're getting jets for their birthday I doubt that working for anything will really ever be a skill they need as there will also be a giant trust that they come into at age 25 or some such.
To be honest, I don't care about what other people are wearing/what bag they have. I really don't notice it unless it catches my eye because it's something I would be interesting in buying. In my area it's normal to see designer purses on people of any age, but no one talks about it.
I have designer purses that I have purchased with my money over the years, however it was doable because I didn't have to worry about paying bills. I am grateful that my parents worked hard to give me everything I have and I truly owe my success to their hard work. That is why I don't feel comfortable asking my parents to purchase designer bags for me, because I feel like I'm taking advantage of their love for me. But I guess people would look at me and think my parents bought me everything, and honestly it doesn't bother me. My family knows what type of person I am and so do my close friends.
I understand it's hard to see younger people given things you have worked to get, but it's life! Parents make decisions based on what they think is right. My parents invested everything into me and my education and now I'm on my way to becoming a corporate lawyer (fully paid by scholarships). But I'm sure people look at me and say she's 23 and she doesn't deserve this. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. But focusing on someone else's possessions won't change what you have or don't have.
I have designer purses that I have purchased with my money over the years, however it was doable because I didn't have to worry about paying bills. I am grateful that my parents worked hard to give me everything I have and I truly owe my success to their hard work. That is why I don't feel comfortable asking my parents to purchase designer bags for me, because I feel like I'm taking advantage of their love for me. But I guess people would look at me and think my parents bought me everything, and honestly it doesn't bother me. My family knows what type of person I am and so do my close friends.
I understand it's hard to see younger people given things you have worked to get, but it's life! Parents make decisions based on what they think is right. My parents invested everything into me and my education and now I'm on my way to becoming a corporate lawyer (fully paid by scholarships). But I'm sure people look at me and say she's 23 and she doesn't deserve this. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. But focusing on someone else's possessions won't change what you have or don't have.
I thought I didn't care, seriously. But just last week I met a girl who did an internship at work and was quite rude and arrogant. Less than half my age and being quite sure of herself - I took her to an important meeting, she didn't even say thank you. When she left, without saving goodbye, I noticed her Designer bag. It was a small Bogner, about 600€ worth. Most certainly she didn't have to Pay for it herself. So yes, I do mind, if the Kid has an attitude that exeeds her bag's value.
Rudeness and arrogance are unfortunate qualities, and it won't let her get far in life. Think about it this way...that bag is pretty much all she has going for her! Those personality traits you identified in that girl are signs of a weak individual. I used to get annoyed by these people, but I don't want to create unnecessary frown lines for people who aren't worth it!
I love this "An attitude that exceeds a bag's value" Priceless....
I'm guessing neither the intern nor her bag will be with you too long.
You're right, I'm probably just envious, because I had to work so hard to get, where I am. I remember going back and forth to a yellow leather bag for 200 Deutsche Mark (half of what the Euro is worth now), when I was at University, earning my own money at a little press agency. I compare my Old Self to that Girl, thinking I wouldn't have dared being that disrespectful.
I think maybe that is why I think that way too. When I was a teen I wasn't able to afford anything expensive and I very slowly worked my way up. My parents would not have given me money towards something so expensive ever, and I think that is okay.
When I was 18 and going to college I worked as a nanny and Tudor 2-3 times a week and the other days at H&M and I still did not have much. No pocket money since age 16 (which was 20 DM only anyway...) and I rarely asked my parents to help out.
I feel all this really benefit me, my value for money and it makes you more humble. And that teens that get everything for free would lack these values.
Is it just a coincidence that we both live/lived in Germany? Or could that 'Heritage' be part of our upbringing?
Is it just a coincidence that we both live/lived in Germany? Or could that 'Heritage' be part of our upbringing?
I'm really not sure...good question.
When Iived in the US I did not see all too many teens work extra jobs. But a few young people I met worked very hard! It is really difficult to say.
I know for sure though that some young Germans work(ed) pretty hard when in College!