Wearing W-band before the wedding?

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#46
I find this post particularly interesting since we picked up my wedding band yesterday! I admit, I wore it around the house all day yesterday, sort of because I was trying to decide if I wanted to get it soldered to my e-ring and partially because I was enjoying looking at it. Once I'd decided I don't (think) I want them soldered it went back into the box to be saved for the wedding day. I may put it on to admire it but I won't wear it out of the house. I think of it as yet another thing to look forward to on the big day!
 
#47
trustlove said:
I wasn't implying that other people are looking forward to their wedding just for jewelry. Just wanted to clear that up before my comment got misconstrued. I just thought this would be an interesting topic. And honestly I too wanted to wear it. It wasn't just because my fiance "insisted" which I guess was the wrong word to use in the first place. Everyone is different and I enjoy reading everyone's comments and hearing about their perspectives
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It is very interesting seeing the different perspectives, isn't it?!

I must admit, my reaction might also be colored by the fact that one of the THE most annoying people I have ever EVER met in my life, wore his wedding band before he got married. So, I've always counted that in the very long list of annoying things he did. LOL

We were working together on a project, and one day, a wedding ring appeared on his hand. I asked him about it and he explained that he and his fiance wanted to wear them now. My gut reaction to him was- that is lying! I still kinda feel that way. I can't shake it!
 
#49
DH and I were legally married for almost a year before we did our official wedding. During that time, I never wore my wedding band (I did sometimes take it out of the safe for a couple minutes tho!) and saved that part for the actual wedding. I always wore my e-ring and thought that was good enough...
 
#50
LuckyLisa said:
This thread is so interesting to me and the reactions it is bringing out- both in myself and in other posters. I'm not at all traditional, and yet, something about this question and the responses makes me bristle.

I don't think anyone is saying their wedding is all about the rings, or that they were looking forward to their wedding day because it meant getting a new piece of jewelry!!

I find it odd to wear a wedding ring before the wedding, but it has little to nothing to do with equating marriage with jewelry. As someone else so eloquently put it, a wedding ring is a symbol- a symbol of being married. It isn't a symbol of about-to-get-married. I don't think it is meant to be a symbol of a couple's wealth or good taste in jewelry, either. Although, of course, there's no denying that gets wrapped up in things, too. LOL

So why wear it before marriage? Seems odd to imply others might be making their wedding day all about the ring or about getting jewelry, but then be unable to restrain oneself from wearing something because it is enjoyable or pretty, or because someone else insists.

I simply cannot wrap my brain around calling a ring a wedding ring, but wearing it before being married. It is then another engagement ring, a commitment ring, a promise ring. Whatever. But it ain't a wedding ring. LOL
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To each his own, no? Why does a simple question or someones point of view make you "bristle"? Seems rediculous!!!
 
#54
QueenCoco said:
How could something "sound" like it might bring bad luck?
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What I mean is: Wearing a wedding band before the wedding takes places, seems to me like it is bad luck.

I am very superstitious about things like this. I cringe every time a friend lets someone try on her engagement ring. To me, these rings have a lot of deep meaning and belong only on the hand of the person who received it.

But that's just me and my own belief system!
 
#55
Misunderstanding then, we thought you meant it brought bad luck to someone else wearing the w-ring before the wedding.

Well trying on the wedding dress before the wedding, or tasting wedding cakes, sampling wedding dinner menus, telling ppl all about your wedding plans etc they are all activities that could bring bad luck in this mind frame. Should brides operate under absolute secrecy? Or avoid bridal things altogether in fear to jinx the wedding?
I can't imagine the disasters a wedding rehearsal should bring, if wearing the w ring before the wedding is bad luck...:D
 
#56
QueenCoco said:
To each his own, no? Why does a simple question or someones point of view make you "bristle"? Seems rediculous!!!
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Well, perhaps it seems ridiculous to you- but as you say, to each her own.

I bristled at the implication in a couple of posts that a woman might be looking forward to her wedding day only for the new piece of jewelry or that by waiting to wear the ring, a couple was making the day "all about the rings." There was something pointed about those posts (perhaps I imagined it), and yes, sorry, they made me bristle.

I just don't know any other way to say it- I can't wrap my head around it. I keep trying, I do. But as it stands, in the culture I live in, wearing a wedding ring means you're married. Wearing it beforehand is like wearing a uniform of an organization you do not belong to, like wearing a piece of military finery that is not your own. To each her own? Well, yeah, sure, but we don't get to change the meaning of broadly understood cultural symbols just because we feel like it. I wouldn't understand if someone went around telling people they were married before they were, and wearing a ring before the wedding seems to be doing the same thing to me.

*shrug*

I honestly don't know why I care so much. I don't feel as if I'm explaining myself well, and perhaps that's why I keep revisiting this thread. Perhaps it is ridiculous. Oh well. LOL
 
#57
lily25 said:
Misunderstanding then, we thought you meant it brought bad luck to someone else wearing the w-ring before the wedding.

Well trying on the wedding dress before the wedding, or tasting wedding cakes, sampling wedding dinner menus, telling ppl all about your wedding plans etc they are all activities that could bring bad luck in this mind frame. Should brides operate under absolute secrecy? Or avoid bridal things altogether in fear to jinx the wedding?
I can't imagine the disasters a wedding rehearsal should bring, if wearing the w ring before the wedding is bad luck...:D
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Well, as I said, I'm superstitious about the rings - certainly not the things that you mention above. :rolleyes:
 
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