Wearing W-band before the wedding?

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#31
trustlove said:
Hey ladies. Its been nice to see all the different comments. My fiance insists I wear my wedding band now, which I am perfectly ok with. We are very non-traditional. My fiance wears is wedding band as well. For him its more like his own engagement ring until the wedding when it will become his wedding band. I feel the same way for my wedding band. For my it still has that symbolism and meaning.
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If you don't mind me asking... why does he "insist"? :confused1:
 
#33
i would occasionally try on my band just to see how beautiful it looked....but i liked saving it for our actual wedding day. technically speaking, for me it wasn't really a wedding ring until it was blessed as one, but there's also something special about just wearing your engagement ring by itself - anticipation, comments, etc!
 
#34
I'm getting married in May and I wear my wedding bands sometimes. My set is kind of wide, so I really want to get used to it on my finger before it's on there for good. Normally, I wouldn't, but with this set being as wide as it is, "breaking it in" so to speak is what works for me.
 
#35
surfergirljen said:
If you don't mind me asking... why does he "insist"? :confused1:
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Originally we had planned to get married Jan 1st, but we had to postpone for reasons outside of control. I think he just wants me to enjoy the rings he bought me. He knows no matter what my wedding band will still be special for me on our wedding day. But for us our wedding is about way more than our rings.
 
#37
My first "engagement ring" was a plain thin white gold band (basically a wedding band) a few months later when we had enough for my first ering, I wore both together which I'm sure looked like an e-ring and a wedding band, but that isn't what they were to me. Plus I was taught you wear the wedding band closest to your hand/heart, and I wore the diamond ering there and the plain ering on the outside.

We had a symbolic ceremony just the two of us with our two best friends in a park a year later and I might have started wearing one of my wedding bands then. We had our official and legal wedding in a church a few months later and I think that was the first time I wore both my diamond bands with the ering (Hubby had them soldered together about a week before) and I think it was then that I stopped wearing the plain band "ering".
 
#41
I was holding on both our wedding rings before the wedding, I had them hanging from a chain necklace like pendants, my sis was was calling me Frodo :laugh::roflmfao: lolz!
I don't see anything wrong wearing your ring before the wedding, I don't believe it loses its symbolism or meaning.
 
#43
trustlove said:
Originally we had planned to get married Jan 1st, but we had to postpone for reasons outside of control. I think he just wants me to enjoy the rings he bought me. He knows no matter what my wedding band will still be special for me on our wedding day. But for us our wedding is about way more than our rings.
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This thread is so interesting to me and the reactions it is bringing out- both in myself and in other posters. I'm not at all traditional, and yet, something about this question and the responses makes me bristle.

I don't think anyone is saying their wedding is all about the rings, or that they were looking forward to their wedding day because it meant getting a new piece of jewelry!!

I find it odd to wear a wedding ring before the wedding, but it has little to nothing to do with equating marriage with jewelry. As someone else so eloquently put it, a wedding ring is a symbol- a symbol of being married. It isn't a symbol of about-to-get-married. I don't think it is meant to be a symbol of a couple's wealth or good taste in jewelry, either. Although, of course, there's no denying that gets wrapped up in things, too. LOL

So why wear it before marriage? Seems odd to imply others might be making their wedding day all about the ring or about getting jewelry, but then be unable to restrain oneself from wearing something because it is enjoyable or pretty, or because someone else insists.

I simply cannot wrap my brain around calling a ring a wedding ring, but wearing it before being married. It is then another engagement ring, a commitment ring, a promise ring. Whatever. But it ain't a wedding ring. LOL
 
#44
I wasn't implying that other people are looking forward to their wedding just for jewelry. Just wanted to clear that up before my comment got misconstrued. I just thought this would be an interesting topic. And honestly I too wanted to wear it. It wasn't just because my fiance "insisted" which I guess was the wrong word to use in the first place. Everyone is different and I enjoy reading everyone's comments and hearing about their perspectives
 
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