My hubby bought me a Coach purse for my b-day back in October, and it was exactly the one I wanted. But, after using it, I realized it's not functional for me. It's a book tote size and has a zipper, which I wanted, but it doesn't zip all the way across. After you unzip to get in the purse, you have to use both hands to line the zipper back up, like on a jacket, to zip it up. Plus there are spaces on the sides where things could fall out. So, I'm selling it. He was sad at first. I told him that it wasn't his fault, he bought me exactly what I wanted and I loved it. But, I didn't realize until using it that it wasn't practical. So, I could let it sit in the closet and not use it, or I could sell it to help pay for the purse I'm using instead. He understands and is now fine with me selling it.
Urgh... need help deciding what to keep...
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My hubby bought me a Coach purse for my b-day back in October, and it was exactly the one I wanted. But, after using it, I realized it's not functional for me. It's a book tote size and has a zipper, which I wanted, but it doesn't zip all the way across. After you unzip to get in the purse, you have to use both hands to line the zipper back up, like on a jacket, to zip it up. Plus there are spaces on the sides where things could fall out. So, I'm selling it. He was sad at first. I told him that it wasn't his fault, he bought me exactly what I wanted and I loved it. But, I didn't realize until using it that it wasn't practical. So, I could let it sit in the closet and not use it, or I could sell it to help pay for the purse I'm using instead. He understands and is now fine with me selling it.
OKAY TOUGH LOVE BABY!
It's way too small, and you have so many other bags to use that fit you instead!
I'd still get rid of the kate spade, because when you keep one, just because, its harder to say no to another bag.
I'd keep the red tote OR the black carryall.
If you travel regularly or semi regularly then yes keep the burberry.
Or why don;t you make a deal with yourself, get rid of the kate spade and the burberry, as well as either the red or the carryall, and keep the black bag your hubbie gave you for now, and when you can let go, then sell?
It's way too small, and you have so many other bags to use that fit you instead!
I'd still get rid of the kate spade, because when you keep one, just because, its harder to say no to another bag.
I'd keep the red tote OR the black carryall.
If you travel regularly or semi regularly then yes keep the burberry.
Or why don;t you make a deal with yourself, get rid of the kate spade and the burberry, as well as either the red or the carryall, and keep the black bag your hubbie gave you for now, and when you can let go, then sell?
Hey, let me know how you do on the job search. I'm not sure what part of michigan you're in, but I am in a very similar situation to yours (going for MA) it's difficult finding anywhere to work right now. Good Luck!
Starting to get a consincous (sp?)
So out of the new bags... The Coach carryall seems to be a maybe with some people... MJ a maybe... Pond a maybe...
Pond Wristlet is a return...
No one has mentioned the Anna Corinna... so I am guessing that means "drop it like its hot"... LOL. Might have to sell that one though, because I honestly didn't pay attention to the store's return policy... GRRR.
Does anyone have any opinions on the camel flap Coach bag... behind the mini tote?... It was my first... Coach... I don't ever use it anymore....
UPSwife - I am hoping he would understand if I had to sell the hobo. He doesn't view them like I do anyways... LOL.. to him they are just "purses"... I have been using a bbag ever since I realized the hobo wouldn't work... He hasn't said a word, he's very obserative of these things, so I assume he's noticed... but I don't want to ask because to him this is just plain silly and his simple solution would be - "get rid of them all and carry around a ziploc"...
So out of the new bags... The Coach carryall seems to be a maybe with some people... MJ a maybe... Pond a maybe...
Pond Wristlet is a return...
No one has mentioned the Anna Corinna... so I am guessing that means "drop it like its hot"... LOL. Might have to sell that one though, because I honestly didn't pay attention to the store's return policy... GRRR.
Does anyone have any opinions on the camel flap Coach bag... behind the mini tote?... It was my first... Coach... I don't ever use it anymore....
UPSwife - I am hoping he would understand if I had to sell the hobo. He doesn't view them like I do anyways... LOL.. to him they are just "purses"... I have been using a bbag ever since I realized the hobo wouldn't work... He hasn't said a word, he's very obserative of these things, so I assume he's noticed... but I don't want to ask because to him this is just plain silly and his simple solution would be - "get rid of them all and carry around a ziploc"...
We live in Rochester Hills in the SE part of MI... this area is an engineer's dream (hubby's profession), however for a business professional... well, not so good.
After getting a feel for the professional job market, we decided now would be a great time for me to pursue my MBA, empathsis in Human Resource Management. (Graduate school is something I always knew I wanted to do, my undergrad is marketing) However, there's not exactly a huge run on PT HR/Mktg people here... and after starting to look into my "backup" positions... its looking even grimmer...
(Considering I'm starting to feel like there aren't even any of those available!!)What's a pain, is I know how quickly I found positions in Illinois... this almost makes you feel like there is something wrong with you!!! But, alas... I shall survive. No pity party on the job front... just trying to be as sensible as possible with $$ flying out the door.
Consensus... that's what I was trying to spell... Geez, thank goodness for spellcheck in Word.. I was way off. Back from lunch, took time to get away from the computer and to think about it a bit...
Thanks Coachnut! I only used it to keep a pair of sunglasses in for a short period time after buying it, so its like new... Now it is in the closet - so I may look into the prospects of selling, since like aarti said "once you keep one, just because, its harder to say no to another bag" (or accessory..)
I think you're finally getting through to me... I'm going to look into my options of selling the spearmint MJ, black clip hobo, and possibly the Anna Corinna tote. That would be three solutions... I kind of want to sell the camel flap hobo, but I'm afraid I will regret it. The bracelet didn't come in the mail today, so I guess I will have to wait until next week to return the wristlet & bracelet/ order the shoes...
Thanks Coachnut! I only used it to keep a pair of sunglasses in for a short period time after buying it, so its like new... Now it is in the closet - so I may look into the prospects of selling, since like aarti said "once you keep one, just because, its harder to say no to another bag" (or accessory..)
I think you're finally getting through to me... I'm going to look into my options of selling the spearmint MJ, black clip hobo, and possibly the Anna Corinna tote. That would be three solutions... I kind of want to sell the camel flap hobo, but I'm afraid I will regret it. The bracelet didn't come in the mail today, so I guess I will have to wait until next week to return the wristlet & bracelet/ order the shoes...
Oh crud... the Coach bag I picked out to sell didn't go... so I definately have to go back to the drawing board and try to sell one of the others...
Guess I will be trying to part with the black clip hobo or the camel hobo next. Argh, this is frustrating, because the ones I know I will never use and don't have a problem parting with aren't going to sell... (simply because that is my luck) so then I am down to the ones where I really have to go through and figure out what I am not going to regret later.
Guess I will be trying to part with the black clip hobo or the camel hobo next. Argh, this is frustrating, because the ones I know I will never use and don't have a problem parting with aren't going to sell... (simply because that is my luck) so then I am down to the ones where I really have to go through and figure out what I am not going to regret later.
I know what you're feeling with the bags -- I'm also selling off some and accessories too, trying to downsize and bring some cashflow in...
It's tough - esp the ones you KNOW aren't going to sell well because they're not the latest and greatest, or are too old-school or small to recoup at a decent price to make it worth putting up for sale.
Hang in there though!!
It's tough - esp the ones you KNOW aren't going to sell well because they're not the latest and greatest, or are too old-school or small to recoup at a decent price to make it worth putting up for sale.
Hang in there though!!
Maybe, I came here, because I'm saying, how could I let this happen. Watch out when after toting a diaper bag forever you say, "i want a purse" ~ the last four years has been an endless money sucking purse pursuit! I think, I am burnt-out! . . . bought and sold, bought and sold, bought and sold . . . I shipped a box load back to Coach warehouse today, a final few listed on Ebay. LizCordova, I have read several of your postings, like you, I enjoy the substantialness of the Legacy line, and feel a sense of relief.If only four years ago!
I felt like it owned me. We don't like being slaves to anything. There is a lot of Coach, fun, frivolous, colorful and great imaginative design. And, there will be another Coach. My note to the returns dept "this is too much equity in "distinctive" leatherware that I will never use!" I have a gold mine in here! If I'm not enjoying it, it's not worth having. If I can't sit on that sofa, get it out of the house! It is hard parting with some bags, but frankly there were some bags I was happy to lose! You'll know when you find the right bags and use them.
Ladies you have a great comraderie here. You're respectful and supportive. I can see how easy it is to get caught up in the euphoria of it all, but in a thread like this perhaps you help hold the line, and keep some grounded. The fashion industry is crazy and corporate america wants us to spend. All we really want is a little pleasure after our hard work or accomplishments, and celebrate everything significant with a treat.
We all know in our heart what the right thing to do is. Sometimes we just want someone else to say want we really want to hear, that wouldn't be truthful. Sometimes we have to let things run their course, in this instance, it was expensive!
I still have my favorite useful bags, but I feel CoachFREEE!
If only four years ago!I felt like it owned me.
We don't like being slaves to anything. There is a lot of Coach, fun, frivolous, colorful and great imaginative design. And, there will be another Coach. My note to the returns dept "this is too much equity in "distinctive" leatherware that I will never use!" I have a gold mine in here! If I'm not enjoying it, it's not worth having. If I can't sit on that sofa, get it out of the house! It is hard parting with some bags, but frankly there were some bags I was happy to lose! You'll know when you find the right bags and use them. Ladies you have a great comraderie here. You're respectful and supportive. I can see how easy it is to get caught up in the euphoria of it all, but in a thread like this perhaps you help hold the line, and keep some grounded. The fashion industry is crazy and corporate america wants us to spend. All we really want is a little pleasure after our hard work or accomplishments, and celebrate everything significant with a treat.
We all know in our heart what the right thing to do is. Sometimes we just want someone else to say want we really want to hear, that wouldn't be truthful. Sometimes we have to let things run their course, in this instance, it was expensive!
I still have my favorite useful bags, but I feel CoachFREEE!
Oh crud... the Coach bag I picked out to sell didn't go... so I definately have to go back to the drawing board and try to sell one of the others...
Guess I will be trying to part with the black clip hobo or the camel hobo next. Argh, this is frustrating, because the ones I know I will never use and don't have a problem parting with aren't going to sell... (simply because that is my luck) so then I am down to the ones where I really have to go through and figure out what I am not going to regret later.
You will regret it! I still regret it at times, I had some great limited editions. I had great ebay experiences, buyers who were so excited to win them! I know where they went! I am happy with my collection. It's easier to manage and to use. Sometimes too much causes a lot of confusion! There were purses I forgot I had. You will also feel a sense of relief! Once you see your bags in a photo on ebay you will feel a little immortal too
you are on your journey!
Maybe, I came here, because I'm saying, how could I let this happen. Watch out when after toting a diaper bag forever you say, "i want a purse" ~ the last four years has been an endless money sucking purse pursuit! I think, I am burnt-out! . . . bought and sold, bought and sold, bought and sold . . . I shipped a box load back to Coach warehouse today, a final few listed on Ebay. LizCordova, I have read several of your postings, like you, I enjoy the substantialness of the Legacy line, and feel a sense of relief.
I felt like it owned me.
Ladies you have a great comraderie here. You're respectful and supportive. I can see how easy it is to get caught up in the euphoria of it all, but in a thread like this perhaps you help hold the line, and keep some grounded. The fashion industry is crazy and corporate america wants us to spend. All we really want is a little pleasure after our hard work or accomplishments, and celebrate everything significant with a treat.
We all know in our heart what the right thing to do is. Sometimes we just want someone else to say want we really want to hear, that wouldn't be truthful. Sometimes we have to let things run their course, in this instance, it was expensive!
I still have my favorite useful bags, but I feel CoachFREEE!
bags4bubbles- I agree w/entheos. I think that you may also regret selling off some but in the end, you will feel better and be CoachFREE!!
That is where I am trying to get to also. I have stopped visiting the tpf as often b/c I do get caught up in the euphoria. I recently went to the outlets and went on a Spree which caused major tension b/t me and the dh. He calls it my "addiction" and he jokes about it- but I can tell it really bothers him. Sometimes I feel as though the purse pursuit/craziness will cause me a divorce!!
I have returned quite a few things to the outlet, and I am about to list on ebay to get rid of those that I don't need. I think like aarti said, it will be painful. But I think you will feel better (and hopefully I will too!)
As far as the black clip hobo, maybe you should save it for last to sell b/c dh got it for you. However, he will probably be very grateful that you are trying to help with the finances. And if the shoes are more practical, then return the pond wristlet to use toward those. Good luck w/your endeavors!!!
Thank entheos & purseaddict** !!! Now, do you two have an hourly rate to come to my house and coach me on getting rid of the rest of my useless stuff hanging around...???? LOL, but honestly - everyone's input has really helped alot!! It has helped to put things in perspective, and allowed me to focus on what I do have positive right now!! I wouldn't be in this situation, if it weren't for a bigger, more positive situation - so, you have to give a little to get a little I suppose. I need to focus on keeping my husband going in his current position ( he is in a new, stressful position), keep focused on graduate school (because in the end, this is what is going to help my career in the long run), and let the part time position happen when it is supposed to happen...
I will be slowly parting with the things I need to part with, slowly mostly because I am going to be gone next week and can't have a ton of stuff ending while I am gone.
I think it will all work out in the end...Thank you to those who replied!!
B4B - I completely feel for you.
First, on a non-related purse note, please don't get down on yourself about the job search. I've kind of been in a funk lately about my own career path and up until recently, had been searching to change jobs with not a lot of luck (I stopped my search for the meantime due to personal issues). The point is, I know how you feel - the longer you search with nothing coming your way, the more you feel like you've failed, you're not going to get hired, you've wasted $ on education, etc. But please don't! Job searching, as a general rule, sucks and for some reason, it feels like when you're looking, everyone else is able to successfully be hired, but you're still plugging away. Please don't feel bad - what I've found is that no matter how much education/experience you have, every job search is unique and can take time. You will find something, and it will be the right job for you. Try to stay positive (and this is coming from someone who tends to be a pessamist anyway, so I know it's easier said than done) and know that you have friends here, whether you have bags or not, who will offer support (please feel free to pm me anytime for a pick-me-up, I am a pretty good cheerleader for my friends and students!).
I think you've already gotten some great advice on the bags - I would return your pond wristlet and bag. That's about $500 right there and if it's just sitting in your closet, your not getting anything out of it. I know the sentimental value ones are hard to part with, but if the clip hobo is too small, loose it (I'm in the same position as you with a small patchwork hobo I have - dh bought it for my bday last year and I was gaga over the bag, but it's too small for me and I'm not using it, so I know it should go, yet it's hard to b/c of what it stands for to me). And just think, eventually, once you've graduated and have a FT job, you can treat yourself to something spectacular to make up for the things you're selling now!
One other thing is to maybe limit time here, not becuase we'd pressure you into buying, but b/c you can get caught up in the excitement. Personally, I've was lurking on the balenciaga board for a while, but stopped b/c I found myself trying to find ways to justify spending $1000+ on a bag when I know we are just not in a position to do so.
Whatever you decide, please know that we'll all support you and offer advice. I think your last post shoes that you have a great outlook and you're right, it all will turn out well in the end.
First, on a non-related purse note, please don't get down on yourself about the job search. I've kind of been in a funk lately about my own career path and up until recently, had been searching to change jobs with not a lot of luck (I stopped my search for the meantime due to personal issues). The point is, I know how you feel - the longer you search with nothing coming your way, the more you feel like you've failed, you're not going to get hired, you've wasted $ on education, etc. But please don't! Job searching, as a general rule, sucks and for some reason, it feels like when you're looking, everyone else is able to successfully be hired, but you're still plugging away. Please don't feel bad - what I've found is that no matter how much education/experience you have, every job search is unique and can take time. You will find something, and it will be the right job for you. Try to stay positive (and this is coming from someone who tends to be a pessamist anyway, so I know it's easier said than done) and know that you have friends here, whether you have bags or not, who will offer support (please feel free to pm me anytime for a pick-me-up, I am a pretty good cheerleader for my friends and students!).
I think you've already gotten some great advice on the bags - I would return your pond wristlet and bag. That's about $500 right there and if it's just sitting in your closet, your not getting anything out of it. I know the sentimental value ones are hard to part with, but if the clip hobo is too small, loose it (I'm in the same position as you with a small patchwork hobo I have - dh bought it for my bday last year and I was gaga over the bag, but it's too small for me and I'm not using it, so I know it should go, yet it's hard to b/c of what it stands for to me). And just think, eventually, once you've graduated and have a FT job, you can treat yourself to something spectacular to make up for the things you're selling now!
One other thing is to maybe limit time here, not becuase we'd pressure you into buying, but b/c you can get caught up in the excitement. Personally, I've was lurking on the balenciaga board for a while, but stopped b/c I found myself trying to find ways to justify spending $1000+ on a bag when I know we are just not in a position to do so.
Whatever you decide, please know that we'll all support you and offer advice. I think your last post shoes that you have a great outlook and you're right, it all will turn out well in the end.
Oh, thank you willowsmom!! It does get really discouraging... but I am really, really trying to not let it get to me... I think one problem is - I have a successful husband... so its almost like I am sacrificing my career to further his - but I DON'T want to hold that against him, because I know its really NOT healthy!!! Every day when he comes home, and I get to hear about his job though, it is like reliving the fact that all I do is hang out around the house, and "run errands"!! I am fine with the career choices I've made in the past (selling my business was the absolute best thing I've ever done), so this hasn't been a problem - coming here is the first real "wall" I've come against career wise... but again, there are positives (positives that outweigh all of the negatives) with us moving here... So I need to keep focused!!
OOhhhh brother... the lurking on the balenciaga board is what started the whole freak out... I NEVER in my life would have considered a $1000 bag purchase "normal" until coming here... Then *POOF*... I guess you can see the sig...
I woke up one morning and went "OMG... I have just spend the majority of my reserve money, no job in sight, and (as much as I love them) ALL I have to show for it is HANDBAGS!!" It was a touchy day...Sigh... I really need to get that A. Franklin CD and just pipe it up when I have a day like that * I will survive, hey - ay*
Good point on the getting a better job, making more money, and being able to treat myself to more treats down the road after graduate school... For now, I will complete my plan of selling/taking back the things that aren't going to get used, go with my dad to the outlets while on vaca and not buy a single thing unless he offers something up (he used to buy me a few outfits & accessories every time when I would visit, but now that I am getting older....that time may over), and get some theme music to pump me up when I am feeling down...
Thank you for all of the sound advice ladies... And willowsmom, I may definately take you up on that cheerleading PM at some time...