Help!! Opinions and thoughts would be gladly appreciated... My background situation: I just moved to MI right before finding the tPF, I loved handbags before, but my purchases have definately increased since finding this place... 3 months later... I have a number of items that are NEW, never have been used and I am starting to wonder if they ever will be?? I love the idea of collecting, but now isn't the time and I know that. Since moving, I have yet to find a job - I need a PT one while I go to grad school, which starts in May, and I know I will end up with expenses from that as well... My reserves are running low (I sold my business where we lived first and saved $$ from the job I had a few short months before moving finally to MI), and while I am not on "ban"... its not going to be feasible to keep purchasing at the rate I have been.... My dilemma: I've already listed a few used/pre-loved condition things on eBay... none seem to be grabbing much interest. I have a number of items that are new... should I return them for the $$ back or to fund new needs?? New, Unused items: Black silver clip carryall purchased in Nov. 2006 (I don't even know if I could return this since its been so long!), Pond shoulder bag ($398... I love it... but TL really got me thinking about my situation... Thank you TL...), Pond wristlet ($98 just sitting in the closet?)... I really want the Nicola flats, and since I wear so much blue, I feel like I would get my money's worth out of them... (I tend to wear the same shoes everyday if I love them, and if they match of course.) I starting thinking this morning... I haven't used the Pond wristlet, even though its cute... I'm using the lilac sparkle stuff and don't see me switching anytime soon.. should I return the $98 wristlet to fund the $148 shoes that I could potentially be wearing everyday??? Oh this is so hard... why can't I just find a darn job?? I'm not in dire straights yet, as my poor DH is working his butt off(we moved because of his promotion)... but it seems like he has been picking up the slack for so long now.. I'm starting to feel really horrible............... Don't get me wrong... I feel bad even writing this, because I know some people would be happy to have just one Coach bag, but I am just personally struggling with not having my own flow of "income" coming in, after I had it for so long... I feel like my funds are going away and I am just going to be sitting in the house all day long, cause I can't find a job and can't go out for fear of spending more money.... I'm sorry... Sorry this is long. So confused!! What should I do???