When a friend saw my 1940s bypass ring. She complimented it and so I gushed on how I bought it and how old my ring is etc. I joked with her that I could help her bf choose a ring for her that is not very expensive but with quality stones and she told me she didnt want a ring that is old and worn by someone else. She even said it might carry bad luck . I told her a diamond is a diamond, gold is gold and platinum is platinum. A ring is a symbol of your husbands love and committement but its just that. The ring maybe bought from a divorced couple or whatever else history but it doesnt mean its gonna be the same with me. We make our story and its not the ring. Diamonds are even basically old since they could have been a million years on the ground before someone found them. Maybe its also from someone elses ring and resetted to a new setting or something.
Upgrade the diamonds in my 1912 antique ring? Wear, Keep in Box or Sell?
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When a friend saw my 1940s bypass ring. She complimented it and so I gushed on how I bought it and how old my ring is etc. I joked with her that I could help her bf choose a ring for her that is not very expensive but with quality stones and she told me she didnt want a ring that is old and worn by someone else. She even said it might carry bad luck . I told her a diamond is a diamond, gold is gold and platinum is platinum. A ring is a symbol of your husbands love and committement but its just that. The ring maybe bought from a divorced couple or whatever else history but it doesnt mean its gonna be the same with me. We make our story and its not the ring. Diamonds are even basically old since they could have been a million years on the ground before someone found them. Maybe its also from someone elses ring and resetted to a new setting or something.
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I actually think antique jewelry is romantic! I like to think about the life of the woman who wore it before I did, but I am fascinated by history in general. I also love that antique jewelry is usually one of a kind and that makes it special.
Your ring sounds beautiful by the way.
I wish i could find out the history of my ring. But ill be shock if there is a really shocking story behind it lol ignorance is bliss! Hehe
Keep it intact! If it’s an antique I wouldn’t mess with it.
The ring is very pretty. I love antique jewellery and this looks so unique when compared to your other, more standard pieces, no matter how valuable. Personally, I would never think of parting with the ring I got married in (as long as I am with the same husband at least 
). My wedding band was my DH’s grandmother’s and I love that fact. My parents got me a Tiffany band and while it is lovely, I just feel it is the exact same band as a million other women are wearing, it is easily replaceable and does not feel so special. My advice in this particularly case would also be, just do nothing for the time being. Keep it as it is and at some point you may know exactly which repairs or changes would make sense for it. I don’t know if you have children, but if so, one of them, or one of their children, or their children children, I am sure will love using this ring or having their spouses wear it.
). My wedding band was my DH’s grandmother’s and I love that fact. My parents got me a Tiffany band and while it is lovely, I just feel it is the exact same band as a million other women are wearing, it is easily replaceable and does not feel so special. My advice in this particularly case would also be, just do nothing for the time being. Keep it as it is and at some point you may know exactly which repairs or changes would make sense for it. I don’t know if you have children, but if so, one of them, or one of their children, or their children children, I am sure will love using this ring or having their spouses wear it.
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The ring is very pretty. I love antique jewellery and this looks so unique when compared to your other, more standard pieces, no matter how valuable. Personally, I would never think of parting with the ring I got married in (as long as I am with the same husband at least
Thank you, I like your viewpoint that it has value because it is special and unique as well as having sentimental value. We do have one child (a little 2 year old son), but maybe we will be lucky enough to have another
It’s a good point to think about passing on something with significance to our marriage to a child. I still have the ring my mom gave me when I was finally “old enough” and even thought it is not very costly I will always treasure it.
Are you still wearing your antique wedding band from DH’s grandmother? Or is it too delicate to wear daily?
Here is the update after all of the kind advice. I talked to my jeweler and they quoted a ring guard to match the ring shape to exceed what I paid for the ring by quite a lot. I think the advice to hold on to the ring and either hand down to my child or to see if my style changes to more delicate jewelry in the future is very wise, and that is what I will do for now.
Thank you all for the opinions and advice!
Thank you all for the opinions and advice!
Nicole, good luck with your rings! I'm thinking of upgrading a ring and LOVE this photo you posted from elsewhere on TPF...could you please point to the thread/post that originally showed this photo? I want to find out who made it and see if they included the ring specs. Thank you!!
I think it is from this thread, because I have this screenshot next to the photo saved on my phone:
strange how I cam across this today . I am married 23 years and have a older ring we have wanted to upgrade the diamond for years unfortunately it cant be done .
So I am keeping my ring in a box to pass down and just getting a new one .
I would suggest the same for you . You may want to have the memories of it vs selling it or changing it
So I am keeping my ring in a box to pass down and just getting a new one .
I would suggest the same for you . You may want to have the memories of it vs selling it or changing it
Thank you, it’s so helpful to hear how you feel about saving your own ring. I have come to the conclusion that it is what I should do as well. Memories are worth a lot, and maybe a family member will want it one day as a memento.
Happy your keeping it !! I am now looking a getting a new one hopefully vintage Harry Winston