Sure, it might be true. But would you touch another handbag and put it on the floor because "a stool is for sitting?"
Touching or moving other people's handbags without permission?
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Sure, it might be true. But would you touch another handbag and put it on the floor because "a stool is for sitting?"
I would not put my bag on a place meant for sitting down unless the venue is deserted.
I would not touch a bag put on a stool without asking even in a crowded club unless there is an emergency.
If other people touch my bag, I would not make a big deal out of it unless i am sure they are trying to steal it.
Like many things in life, it is impossible to agree on what the correct etiquette is. Therefore, I find it is easier to have double standard. A tougher standerd for myself so I don't unduly offend other people. In the meantime, allow other people lower standerd so I don't take unnecessary offend.
I would not touch a bag put on a stool without asking even in a crowded club unless there is an emergency.
If other people touch my bag, I would not make a big deal out of it unless i am sure they are trying to steal it.
Like many things in life, it is impossible to agree on what the correct etiquette is. Therefore, I find it is easier to have double standard. A tougher standerd for myself so I don't unduly offend other people. In the meantime, allow other people lower standerd so I don't take unnecessary offend.
sure, a stool is for sitting, but so is a booth when you're at a restaurant. if you saw someone you knew and their bag next to them, you wouldn't take their bag out to set it on the floor (or would you?)
anyways, i think that lady was extremely rude OP. i don't like people touching my stuff, much less invading my space so i feel for you
anyways, i think that lady was extremely rude OP. i don't like people touching my stuff, much less invading my space so i feel for you
Interesting situation...I wouldn't leave a bag, especially a very new one that sounds like it's important to you, away from me in a public place. I also wouldn't take up a seat I wasn't using with a bag in a public place unless it was totally deserted. But then if I saw someone else's belongings on a seat I would assume that means it's taken and wouldn't move it unless it was an emergency (idk what kind of seating emergency might occur but w/e)
I wouldn't know... I agree with the other posters that you indeed put the bag on where people sit so I think it's pretty understandable that another patron looking for a seat on would proceed to move an unattended object that is occupying the seat, regardless of what it is.
Most TPFers are affectionate toward bags so we might think the woman as rude, but I can tell you there are many people out there who don't care at all about handbags--moreover when it's blocking their way.
This of course does not apply if there were like a dozen empty stools that day and the woman just had to pick the one with your handbag on it. Now that is indeed uncalled for.
Most TPFers are affectionate toward bags so we might think the woman as rude, but I can tell you there are many people out there who don't care at all about handbags--moreover when it's blocking their way.
This of course does not apply if there were like a dozen empty stools that day and the woman just had to pick the one with your handbag on it. Now that is indeed uncalled for.
I would react the exact same way you did. Depending on how the other person reacts, I might do a direct confrontation so that they know that the behaviour is not acceptable. If something is not yours, you should not touch it without asking. It is common sense and good manners. It surprises me when people think they can just touch and move people's purses (or other items, like coats).
First of all, it was a ballroom dance studio, so everyone leave their bags on chairs. I had nothing "important" in there by my music and my dance shoes (yes, my dance shoes, but they are packed away in shoe bags.)
Second, there were plenty of places to sit and she shouldn't have been sitting in the DJ booth because it is for the teaching staff. I barely got done with my class and she wasn't a instructor.
I guess, I am not so much as "passionate" about it because it was my purse/handbag. I am bugged (not angry by any means) that personal items are just personal.
Second, there were plenty of places to sit and she shouldn't have been sitting in the DJ booth because it is for the teaching staff. I barely got done with my class and she wasn't a instructor.
I guess, I am not so much as "passionate" about it because it was my purse/handbag. I am bugged (not angry by any means) that personal items are just personal.
Well, I carry my bag everywhere I go, but if I were to leave it somewhere and saw someone do that I would be furious. I wouldn't be as upset if they moved it to another chair or table or something, but to the floor? That is just plain rude. I would never even touch another person's belongings, especially not their bags. They could freak out and think that I am trying to take away their purse or whatever is in it - I would totally have that reaction at first.
IMO, moving is touchy, I would be a little temporarily annoyed but I personally wouldn't get very upset, but on the floor? Unacceptable. I never, ever put my handbags on the floor in public.
I'm surprised she tried to move an unattended bag. In this day and age, you never know if you'll end up being accused of stealing or are trying to move something with a bomb in it.
Given the situation, I'd say both are to blame really. Stools aren't really for putting bags on in the first place, and the woman could have picked a free seat. Plus it's extremely rude to put another person's belongings (purse or otherwise) onto the floor, especially when they're not around.
Though unless there was some sort of sign saying that the booth was restricted to staff, I can understand why she'd want to sit there.
Given the situation, I'd say both are to blame really. Stools aren't really for putting bags on in the first place, and the woman could have picked a free seat. Plus it's extremely rude to put another person's belongings (purse or otherwise) onto the floor, especially when they're not around.
Though unless there was some sort of sign saying that the booth was restricted to staff, I can understand why she'd want to sit there.
No, but I would ask if I can sit there and let them move their bag themselves. There was another thread similar to this one about a year ago. The scenario was lunch at Subways. I think we came to the conclusion that is was cultural thing, personal space.
A lot of you think it's a big sin to touch someone else's things. The women wasn't stealing, going thru, manhandling the bag or anything similar. She was simply moving it so she could sit down. I have a hard time understanding how you can find that rude.
Yesss. Omg. I freaked out majorly once over a situation like this. It was when I first started getting into designer bags... I got this gorgeous Coach Ski bag with rabbit fur and white satin trim. It was my first major designer purchase, as at the time, I considered $695 alot of money. We were at the bar and then went out for breakfast super late at like 4am. I'm sitting there, with my "baby" on the chair beside me. I look away for a second to talk to someone and next thing I knew, this older guy is holding my purse with his bacon grease-covered fingers. I seriously almost died. I guess he picked it up to sit down at our table, and also to joke around with me because he KNEW I didn't like when people touched my bags...but even HE wasn't prepared for my tantrum...lol. I seriously flipped the eff out. I guess the fact that I was drunk also may have made my reaction a little more *ahem* "dramatic"? I did say some very not-so-nice things to him, and luckily, now when I see him out, he laughs about it... But, hey, what can I say? You do not mess with an intoxicated handbag lover!
Also, at work, we all keep our bags in a cupboard. All of us have designer bags except the one girl. Her bag is filthy dirty and it really bothers me when she puts it near mine. She KNOWS where I put my bag EVERY single day, but for some reason, hers has to always be practically on top of mine, even though there is more than enough room. She also once laid a greasy breakfast sandwich near my bag...
I also hate when the girls at work put their coffee mugs In the cupboard by
my bag, for fear it could spill on it. Haha.
Also, at work, we all keep our bags in a cupboard. All of us have designer bags except the one girl. Her bag is filthy dirty and it really bothers me when she puts it near mine. She KNOWS where I put my bag EVERY single day, but for some reason, hers has to always be practically on top of mine, even though there is more than enough room. She also once laid a greasy breakfast sandwich near my bag...
I also hate when the girls at work put their coffee mugs In the cupboard by
my bag, for fear it could spill on it. Haha.
