Exactly!! There are some days when you just feel like **** and couldnt care less dressing up. And maybe Nina was tired of all the dressing up and wanted a breather.
Tired of luxury
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Exactly!! There are some days when you just feel like **** and couldnt care less dressing up. And maybe Nina was tired of all the dressing up and wanted a breather.
I'm a student with student debt. I come from a middle class family, and I'm not sure how well my major will pay off after my advanced degrees. I love bags, but I've always been loyal to Mulberry not just because of their more classic and understated style but also because they are with great quality, and I find that this "luxury" brand has a price point that makes sense to me. While I think Chanel bags are beautiful, and sure, I'd love one someday, I think a lot of premier luxury bags are not worth having, considering how a bag can feed a whole family elsewhere or can pay rent for a couple months for one thing I will use every once and awhile but would be afraid to sully or scratch. I think from people of my background and those that are even less fortunate, luxury brands can superficially make you happy for only awhile but doesn't give the same fulfillment as travels, a degree, etc. If it is something that I fell in love with, I imagine saving up for that by giving up other things like eating out would make that something really worth keeping and cherishing. If you just buy luxury items like it's nothing, then it's definitely not special anymore.
It is true that luxury will give you momentary happiness but that's about it. I often struggle with the wisdom of spending on life's luxuries especially because I'm a person of faith. I constantly have to ask myself would God want that for me? The vast majority of times the answer really is no frankly.
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I believe that the good things in life are as many and as diverse as there are flowers in a bouquet.There is beauty for some in the humble carnation as there is for others in a hothouse rose.
Neither confers instant status. Neither makes anyone a better or worse person. Each is simply an expression of personal taste.
What a wonderful thread. I am new to the community and love the concept of luxury, but have found that it is not as exciting as it used to me. Each "Top 10" list that I have seen looks like the same product recycled over and over again. I'm glad to see that I am not the only one tired of the current offerings. Thank you all for the candid thoughts, great posts!
Great thread! And I'm in the exact same boat. Finally, I'm at a place in my life that I can afford what I've always considered my "holy grail" - a H Kelly. But the more I thought about it, the more I thought "why do I want to part with $10K for a used bag?". It really got me thinking about why I was coveting something considered luxury. What was I hoping to achieve? What did it say about me as a person...did it fit with who I am? Was I shopping for my imagined life or my real life? Then the desire for it all just...waned. I don't know if it's gone for good but it's gone for now.
Mind you, I still want nice things. So lately my thing has been supporting start-ups and new companies. Ordered two bags from Mon Purse that will be unique and "me", and a Kickstarter campaign for comfortable heels (and getting rid of all my uncomfortable brand name heels that I can't wear anymore!)
Mind you, I still want nice things. So lately my thing has been supporting start-ups and new companies. Ordered two bags from Mon Purse that will be unique and "me", and a Kickstarter campaign for comfortable heels (and getting rid of all my uncomfortable brand name heels that I can't wear anymore!)
It's a mature process, you recognized they are all "things." The superficality of buying to get a short time thrill is seen as it is. I say, "Good for you, I'm there too!"
Great thread. My interest in luxury often seems to be directly related to how much time I've been spending on TPF. If I stay away from TPF, I can go many months without buying anything. And even when I am active here, as I am now, I often feel bored with the selection out there. Everything does look the same, all the designers copy each other, there's nothing new or fresh or exciting to see, and many of the things that are exciting are way beyond my price point.
It's definitely cyclical. I just spent a bunch a bunch of money when I was in NYC and now I probably won't buy anything for several months.
It's definitely cyclical. I just spent a bunch a bunch of money when I was in NYC and now I probably won't buy anything for several months.
Sometimes when I am on tpf or Instagram my interest will peak for certain items. However after a while when you see so many b or k or chanel mini they do all look the same! Even designer clothes and shoes are ho hum for me at the moment. I feel like Gucci can only reinvent the Mule or its sneakers so many times. And, for me too, there are so many things I love that are beyond what I'm willing to or can spend. I love Chanel tweed jackets, for example, but am I willing to spend 5-8k for one? What if I get fatter? Then what? [emoji38] I also love the van cleef clover ring and bracelet and the JUC diamond bracelet. But, do I want to spend 10k on a ring or 11k on a bracelet? And where would I wear it? Can't wear it at work. And I certainly wouldn't wear that much bling at church on Sunday. What's the cost per wear over my lifetime? Finally there's the guilt factor of how much good i could do in this world with donating what I wanted to spend on a bag.
I often think about this too. Am I shopping for me or Some different idealized version of me that really may not ever be me! There are a number of insta accounts I follow and the ladies post such amazing outfits and bags and shoes etc. However I often think - is that actually how these people live? (Well some like upcloseandstylish and bycamelia may actually live like this - [emoji38]) And do I like these things actually for me? For example, I love the look of the lady dior. But when it boils down to it can I really see myself carrying this bag? Is this really me? I'm most comfortable in jeans and a tee shirt. I have always hated wearing skirts and dresses. (Most likely because my mother made me wear dresses to church every Sunday.) Would I feel comfortable wearing a lady dior which is really a very lady like bag? Probably not. lol. And do I then want to go spend 3-4K on a lady dior to realize then that oh actually this isn't me? No. I have gone through enough lux handbags and slgs to know what I do and don't like. And it really stinks when you spend your hard earned money thinking you'll like something and you wind up not!
Exactly! I spend a significant chunk of the year traveling in a truck and trailer, and my husband said "Imagine how stupid you'd look getting in and out of the trailer with a $5000 ladylike handbag!" LOL
This made me burst out laughing. I also horseback ride and people who ride do not run around - at least at barns and horse shows - with 5000 bags. And that's because we're usually covered in dirt, manure, horse hair and sweat on many days. Most of us prefer to spend our money on horses anyway lol.
Dunno... on the one hand, I enjoy and use the few lux items I own (a combo of H, LV, Chloe and Mulberry), I rotate them daily, take good care of them, and look forward to using each one.
But, on the other hand, I don´t "covet" anything at all at the moment, I don´t stalk online boutiques in general or lose sleep over any one item in particular, I only have two-three things on my hypothetical lottery win wish list (and no, they don´t include a Birkin/Kelly or anything by Chanel, haha), and, while I genuinely appreciate seeing beautiful lux items carried by other ladies and gents, it never triggers the "me wants too" reflex.
Guess that´s the definition of bag/lux happy?
That's the perfect scenario
Those were major purchases, and the fact that they didn't work out for you must have made you question yourself. Chanel flaps and the Cartier Love are on many people's wish-list. I do think you could easily sell your Jumbo and downsize to a M/L and similar with your Cartier. Perhaps, you were right all along and need to go down a more personal and unique route. Personally, I think it's fine to question the value of these things, specifically or generally. Fashion is above all else supposed to be fun and an expression of one's own style and personality.