The hunt continues for my engagemnet ring!

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#76
Stop the press!

Okay... I am truly, truly a mental case... :shocked:

I showed a friend the ribbon ring and also showed her the tiffany setting I ended up not choosing... She basically said the ribbon is not me... (which is fine because I know it suits me) but it made me look again at the tiffany setting and I couldn't help but think I tried on a diamond that was too big... It looked heavy and took over my hand... I never thought of trying on the solitaire with a smaller stone over a carat... I do love the look of the wedding band with the solitaire... and I would like to make one more trip to see what a smaller stone looks like... What is good about going for a smaller stone is that I can get a better quality stone.

Remember how the solitaire i was looking at before was a 1.38 H VS2?

I am truly sorry for all of this! I guess I haven't made any solid decisions yet... and I was so sure...
 
#79
Thank you ladies... :heart:
I will let you know when I know for sure... I think I really do need to take a time out from all of this and I will try to get to the store again before the end of the month and try on some smaller solitaires...
 
#81
luv2ownabirkin said:
I showed a friend the ribbon ring and also showed her the tiffany setting I ended up not choosing... She basically said the ribbon is not me... (which is fine because I know it suits me)
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Don't let your friend convince you something isn't you if you know it is. If you can wear and pull it off and love seeing it on your finger, then that is the only opinion that matters.

Also, think of this scenario: If you get the solitaire and another friend or friend of a friend gets the ribbon, would you be happy or envious?... this can go the opposite way too but it's much more common to see other solitaires whether from tiffanys or tiffany inspired designs.

Happy hunting... take your time and it'll be okay. Just make sure it doesn't rift you and your bf. DF and I had our spats during the process and it was NOT fun! But in the end we were glad we stucked to our guns and got what WE wanted and not what everyone thought we should get.
 
#83
Thanks for all your support ladies... :hugs:
I'll make sure to choose a ring that I love... It's just so difficult when there
is more than one ring you like. But I think I keep coming back to the ribbon...
My bf and mom also really like the ribbon, and their opinions count the most. I have decided to stop being so controlling and told my bf to choose. I have no control over the matter now, and I think that's the way it should be, especially when it comes to carat, colour, etc... I think I've given him enough hints and now I will give him at least a little satisfaction and pleasure in seeking out the ring that's best for us. I was given the unfortunate news that the 1.04 F ribbon is not available to be sold... Now it will really be a surprise... I know it's wrong to say this, but I hope he gets it right~~~!
 
#84
whoops said:
Also, think of this scenario: If you get the solitaire and another friend or friend of a friend gets the ribbon, would you be happy or envious?...************f0000]Yes.. I would be envious... But I think I'd also be envious of a larger solitaire diamond~~~ keke[/COLOR] this can go the opposite way too but it's much more common to see other solitaires whether from tiffanys or tiffany inspired designs. I agree... This is one of the reasons why I am pretty sure I want the ribbon....
Happy hunting... take your time and it'll be okay. Just make sure it doesn't rift you and your bf. DF and I had our spats during the process and it was NOT fun! But in the end we were glad we stucked to our guns and got what WE wanted and not what everyone thought we should get.
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I understand... by bf and I haven't had any big fights over this, but we've been talking a lot of what we want, what we don't want, what's right, yada yada... It's especially difficult since there are many differences between how I believe a wedding should be and the way things are done in Korea (which is where I'll be getting married)... My bf is a little clueless about weddings, but you can tell he is trying to be understanding and sensitive to the whole thing... I saw that he was getting a little frustrated because I kept saying, "You should surprise me" (and I think he was going to surprise me...) but then I'd take control over the whole thing! I am letting everything go, and now all I am going to do is wait! :smile1:
 
#85
I'm sure it's stressful trying to find/pick the perfect engagement ring but I think now that you're letting your fiance pick it for it, it will hopefully just make you happy regardless because you know the person you love and will be marrying picked out that special ring for you! Good luck though!!! Let us know what happens!
 
#86
Can't wait to hear what ring you. get. i had a similar situation between a classic tiffany's 6 prong and an emerald cut diamond. i was back and forth to the last minute. Once I saw the diamonds side by side and the two cuts together, I knew the classic cut was out. My heart knew the right decision and honestly I like having something that is a bit different (like me!). No matter what size, color etc or style you get, you'll love it. Don't let your friends choose. If you friend says it doesn't suit you and you still love the ribbon, then you know it's the right choice!
 
#87
Update:

Hello Ladies, thanks for all your help :heart:

I just wanted to give an update about the whole engagement ring situation... I'm still letting my dbf choose the ring, but last night my future mother in law spoke with me about her feelings... (EEk!) I really like her a lot and my dbf's parents have been nothing but loving to me.
But, you can imagine how uncomfortable it was though to talk diamonds with her!

She really wants me to get a Tiffany ring as she says they can be trusted...
She went to Tiffany's to look at the classic setting and ribbon because I had told her previously that they were the two styles we had really liked. The SA apparently told her that in Korea, most brides to be choose the classic setting, and it's quite rare to go with something like the ribbon. My future MIL said that she thought both were good choices and that it should be up to me in the end.

She had asked to see a 1.37ish diamond in a classic setting, because if you remember, I was looking at a 1.37 at the one store and considering it. The SA told her that they didn't have much selection in terms of higher carats and then told her that in Korea, most people don't go much over a carat.. "only Stars and old ladies with lots of money do"! She asked if I would be comfortable with a 1.37 carat diamond ring on my finger... she also asked if that was sort of the norm here...
and trying to be a smart asian daughter in law to be, I said something like:

"Ummm... well... it is quite big I know for Korea... I've heard from my friend that most people don't even get 0.7 carats... but here in Canada and I believe in the US, it's easy to spot rings that are over 1 carat... even 1.5 - 2 carats... The SA who served me at Tiffany's had a 1.8.. and the cases were filled with rings with diamonds 2 - 5 carats... I think it's a cultural things.... I would be happy with whatever (my bf) chooses and if it's a smaller diamond, that's completely fine"

Phew~~~ i hope I handled that okay....

I think though that the SA fed her some crazy information...
The SA told her that you could also go for an I colour and it would be a very good choice, because an I colour at Tiffany's could very well be considered a G colour someplace else because the quality of the diamonds there are that good... (SAY WHAT?????!) Does anyone agree with this or is this SA nuts?!

:shrugs:

In anycase... I know my bf is choosing but we have discussed things and during our final discussion, we both thought the 1.04 F VS2 was a perfect choice for us (this ring is actually not available anymore!) So, when my future MIL said that she felt a 1.03 (give or take a little) seems alright to her.... I was fine with it because we were considering that size anyway... I did initially feel a little sad, because what if I really wanted the 1.37 in the end? My bf told me not to worry and he would make the right choice...
I definitely do not want any part of the choosing for fear that I may make the wrong choice and make my MIL feel sad...

I hope she wasn't hinting that I shoud get an "I" coloured diamond though... because I draw the line at H :pout: (Actually... I want an F or G... but maybe that won't happen... (We are very limited by choice in stock right now... Within the 1.0ish range, there are only H VVS or H VS2 diamonds...)

Okay... I will shut up now... Sorry.... I just wanted to give you an update of what's going on...
 
#88
luv2ownabirkin said:
I think though that the SA fed her some crazy information...
The SA told her that you could also go for an I colour and it would be a very good choice, because an I colour at Tiffany's could very well be considered a G colour someplace else because the quality of the diamonds there are that good... (SAY WHAT?????!) Does anyone agree with this or is this SA nuts?!
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That's a total load of BULLSH!T.
 
#90
She's a salesperson and a poorly educated one. She damages her brand reputation more than she realizes by being dishonest and inaccurate. An ideal cut diamond that is H or I color will not show a lot of warmth whether Tiffany sold it or not and just bec it's from tiffanys does NOT mean it's guaranteed ideal cut. They do sell some dogs too. They sell GIA graded stones in many cases and in others it's just them saying what they think it is or should be. Ah well...
 
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