Id be upset too. I know if you gave someone a bag or any gift its their business what they do with it. But still, its nice to know that the gift you gave was cherished. I wish shes really in a deep financial crisis for this to be understandable.I give friends and relatives bags I no longer want too, but only if they want. I always ask before, and purposely 'just in passing', I wouldn't want to come across as though they have to take them, either one of us is doing a huge favour, or they need a better bag.
I gave an old Prada to a friend who had always complemented me on it, even asked if she could borrow it. I don't lend so when the time came I just gave instead. Just days later, I saw she was selling it on E-bay. Not that I should have cared, gone is gone and a gift is a gift, but the elaborate charade, the exclamations, big thank yous and the pretending she still had when we met were too strange.
DH gifted me possibly the most 'unlike-me' Gucci ever more than a decade ago. What was worse, he worked with my regular SA to buy it. I have learned to love it
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The Etiquette of Gift-giving and Receiving Bags in the 2020s?
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2022 was a good year for me. My sister gave me a nice bag. Its a hand me down and has some flaws but I still love it. She did offer to pay to have it restored but I dont mind the flaws. It was an expensive bag despite it so for her to give it to me meant a lot to me. And my husband gave me the most expensive bag for me for christmas. I think thats the last bag Ill ever purchase. I am done. I feel terrible knowing it cost more than 2 appliances in my house.
People ask what's my upper-budget for a bag, and I honestly don't have one, BUT, there would definitely be an awkwardness buying myself or receiving a bag that was the price of say a diamond necklace because I would feel not so confident carrying it around.
My husband gifted me with a chanel bag and i dont post it in facebook or tell my friends about it. I feel embarrassed too
Oh when i was wearing my LV bag. And somebody paid attention to it i told her it was fake. Sometimes i feel embarrased buying an expensive bag especially if you are surrounded with people who does not understand that there are people who actually spend a thousand dollar for a bag. I feel like i had to explain. I had a coworked discussing it with someone. The girl told my coworker “ who spends a thousand on a bag?” And my coworker told her that there are people who does. When my coworker quit I saw her in a facebook group selling some LV bags. I guess she also spends 1000 on a bag lol.i wonder how she felt being told by the other girl that she cant believe anyone woukd spent a thousand on a bag. I should be able to buy anything of be gifted anything. Its my right.
Definitely. And sometimes you go check it out in person and your stuff doesn't fit in it like you thought it would, or there's some tiny detail in person that you know would make it less practical than you'd normally expect. So many variables.
The only bag I’ve ever gifted someone - without a specific wishlist - was when I gave my mom my LV large Bucket.
She had borrowed it for a few months and looved it. She had told me to keep an eye out for one for her (it was after it was dc’ed). It didn’t suit my needs, so I printed a small photo of it and put in a pretty little box. And then she got it on her birthday which we celebrated in Rome with my dad ❤️
That was in 2008 and she still loves the bag and uses it frequently ❤️
She had borrowed it for a few months and looved it. She had told me to keep an eye out for one for her (it was after it was dc’ed). It didn’t suit my needs, so I printed a small photo of it and put in a pretty little box. And then she got it on her birthday which we celebrated in Rome with my dad ❤️
That was in 2008 and she still loves the bag and uses it frequently ❤️
I haven't bought a handbag for anyone in quite some time, beyond tote bags as wrapping or inexpensive mini bags for those of my friends' children who zoom to my bags when I visit. Conversely, the only person who's bought me a bag in recent memory is DH. He'll either work with my SAs or buy one he's heard me mention wanting. I think this is a byproduct of the fact that most shopping is done online now and also the stage in life at which I am nowadays. It's been years since I went on a shopping trip with friends or family outside of DH where I could take note of things they were interested in and discuss our preferences for items.
I don't think this shift is necessarily a bad thing, but does require the etiquette of gift-giving to evolve, which for most of us it has. I'll probably continue getting bags for the younger generation as they further express themselves through fashion, but beyond that I doubt it. There's just not that level of casual conversation about fashion items amongst my friends anymore. We're more inclined to discuss appliances or furniture.
I don't think this shift is necessarily a bad thing, but does require the etiquette of gift-giving to evolve, which for most of us it has. I'll probably continue getting bags for the younger generation as they further express themselves through fashion, but beyond that I doubt it. There's just not that level of casual conversation about fashion items amongst my friends anymore. We're more inclined to discuss appliances or furniture.
My boyfriend usually gifts me a bag or some accessories for the holidays and for my birthdays (and here and there for our anniversary). Usually he buys things that I mention directly or send him directly. There’s only one time he wasn’t spot on and that’s because he bought me a pre-loved Loewe wallet in my favorite color but was decidedly well more worn than the website described. Regardless, I love it bc he took the time to seek it out for me. However that did help us start a new household tradition: if and when he buys me something, especially pre-loved, we will quickly open and inspect it while it’s still under the return period.
As far as gifting bags, while I do find it very personal, I have only and would only ever blindly gift my sisters and mom bags because I just know. As far as anyone else, I would be more apt to offer a shopping trip together to make sure they get what they want.
As far as gifting bags, while I do find it very personal, I have only and would only ever blindly gift my sisters and mom bags because I just know. As far as anyone else, I would be more apt to offer a shopping trip together to make sure they get what they want.