my bf knows i am a spender.. he even knows my habit of only stating half of what I pay for.. I guess, if u want to marry him, sitting him down and telling him what u r capable of, spending wise I mean, is a good start.. from there, just smile every time u use ur new bag..
Strategy for telling him about purchase! Truth or Lil Lie?
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This is what I do: when I get a new bag, I don't say anything about it. I just pull it out and start carrying it. My fiance generally does notice it and will say something like "where did that come from?". To which I start squealing (keep in mind I ham this up)
, "OMG, isn't it fabulous?!?!? Don't you just love it??? Here, feel the leather!! Isn't this the most AMAZING bag in the whole world?" I usually shove it in his general direction and try to make him feel it. At that point, he usually looks at me like I'm looney, shakes his head and thats the end of that! He knows I have a thing for bags (very expensive ones at that), but when I start acting like that he's so anxious to change the subject and get me to quit jumping up and down, he never mentions it again!
When he has asked me the price (very, very few times) I have usually shaved a little off the top of it or just vaguely said I got a good deal. He knows I'm nuts about $$ and keeping out of debt, but I just might lose my credibilty in that area if I came totally clean about how much some of my bags cost. Everybodys different, and more than likely your guy hasn't been totally honest with you about how much he's spent on something either. Good luck!
, "OMG, isn't it fabulous?!?!? Don't you just love it??? Here, feel the leather!! Isn't this the most AMAZING bag in the whole world?" I usually shove it in his general direction and try to make him feel it. At that point, he usually looks at me like I'm looney, shakes his head and thats the end of that! He knows I have a thing for bags (very expensive ones at that), but when I start acting like that he's so anxious to change the subject and get me to quit jumping up and down, he never mentions it again! When he has asked me the price (very, very few times) I have usually shaved a little off the top of it or just vaguely said I got a good deal. He knows I'm nuts about $$ and keeping out of debt, but I just might lose my credibilty in that area if I came totally clean about how much some of my bags cost. Everybodys different, and more than likely your guy hasn't been totally honest with you about how much he's spent on something either. Good luck!
I do agree with this; it's much better to be honest. You should talk about finances with your bf if you plan on marrying him.... BUT I also think that it is very obvious that I love fashion and a lot of what I buy is expensive. I bring my bfs shopping with me and they see what I buy and what I gravitate towards ... so I don't think I need to explicitly say to someone if they want to be with me I will spend x amount of money on clothes in a month.
Irishgal said:
truth. I usually end up saying..."look what I bought" and he doesn't even ask how much it cost... I spare him the same embarrassment when he shows me his purchases. Having separate accounts helps minimize the shock factor and arguments about money. Sill, it he asks, then you really have to be straight with him...if he doesn't ask, then it is up to you, but you might be opening a can of worms...sometimes I think my DH spares himself the shock by not asking=)...