Some people are so stupid... (long story)

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#16
People are funny .... My husband's ex-wife has been "competing" with me for years. I am like your sister in that I could care less what she does or what she has. I think it boils down to jealousy. You can't escape it with some people. You just have to try to ignore it as much as possible.
 
#18
Maybe she thinks it is a competition ? You mentioned that this all happened post divorce - your sister has been more successful in the marriage game and this is Judy's own twisted way of trying to win. She's doing a pretty crummy job though.

And there are losers like this in my family, luckily I don't have to talk or deal with them !
 
#19
My sis in law is like that, maybe even worse. When her brother and I got engaged ( 12 years ago now) We both knew what she would be like so deliberatly upped the price of the engagment ring/carot size etc. The following week she went out and bought herself a 1.5 carot diamond ( she had been married 8 years.) which she proceded to wave around in front of all the family. We thought it was hilarious!!:laugh:
What a stupid, desperate woman.:evil:
 
#20
Ack! Judy seems to just want some form of validation or acceptance... too bad it's through something like upstaging someone to feel recognized or "better." =(
 
#21
I'd have to say I wish I had people like this in my family! :laugh: I'd take obnoxious competitive relatives over those who live beyond their means + constantly ask my parents for money...:unsure:
 
#23
frozen7313 said:
thanks for your kind words guys!

rochasgirl: i think it's the divorce that made her so bitter/etc, cuz when she was still married, her and my sis were best friends and practically inseperable... after the divorce Judy got all psychotic.. it's as if my sis did something to her (and she didn't! it's not like she had an affair with her now ex-husband or anything.. shes better than that)..
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Generally in my opinion, Judy needs to be consult. As you said, she became like this after her divorce & before that, she & your sis were best friends. The divorce must have done a great blow to her. She must be suffering from "Atention Syndrome.", my own creation of illness...keke....:amuse: Don't know what's it called.:blink: Maybe, it's a way for her to revenge and forget her bitter of her husband leaving her??

My best advice here is why not ask your sis, Heather to help Judy go through this difficult times & slowly change her character to what she is before. Get her to voice out all of her sadness in her heart. She must have had a lot of insecurities. I'm worried for her financially. You & your sis would not want her to go broke?:idea:

She really needs help......:idea:
 
#24
Hey, Jimmy, thanks for the story. She definitely has self-esteem issue, annoying to have relatives like that.

So you think RH is better than PB and WS is better than RH in this order? I need some expert advise. I always find WS overprices their stuffs.
 
#25
KK: WSHome does overprice, but they have like.. 1000 threadcount sheets and some awesome pieces here and there... for the best bang for the buck, RH is the best.. not to mention we're like the "Nordstrom" of home furnishings.. we'll take (almost) anything back, and there's no time limit to return things.. lifetime warranty on all our products, all furniture made of solid wood (PB has lately turned to MDF or veneer based stuff, yuck), topped with a triple layer veneer to protect the wood/finish.

thanks for your thoughts guys. =]
 
#26
Judy is such a sad person, apparently she has no purpose in life other than outdoing your sis. :\ To her, your sis is living the kind of life she desires, and Judy's trying to fill up the void in hers with everything money can buy.
 
#27
whoa, that's one crazy sister in law to deal with. I hope that your sister doesn't let this bother her much. Maybe the solution is to just ignore Judy and her actions. I know, it's kinda hard. hehehhe.
 
#28
Is there anyway for your sis to stop talking to Judy? If it were me, I would just cut off all contact. No matter how nice or humble your sister is to her, she will not change. In fact, the fact that your sister doesn't give a hoot Judy probably goes nuts to try to make her notice her or be jealous. Sometimes you just have to be rude and call them out on their "one up-manship" and hope they leave you alone.
 
#29
LVgirly: ya.. my sis doesn't answer her calls unless she has her daughter under her supervision (aka: playdate with her kids or a birthday party or something). otherwise it's an ignored call. judy's still "family" it's not like we can cut them out of our lives completely. lol. no matter how much we hate a relative/etc, we can't ever get rid of them. no matter how hard we try. -_- and i've tried. lol.
 
#30
I just ignore those kinds of people. They are just insecure and you are better off not indulging them. Its really the hypocrites and self-righteous that I cannot stand. You know the ones who act humble but really aren't? Petty gossipers drive me bananas!

Pottery Barn just opened a store where I live. Its sooo expensive! I buy the odd decorative things when they go on sale. Williams and Sonoma is my favorite store for seasonal things though!
 
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