Should I upgrade my ring?

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#16
I definitely don't think you are weird at all for not wanting a bigger ring! It's very thoughtful of your SO to want to upgrade.

I'm kind of the same way as you...I told my FI that I've always wanted a modest looking ring, nothing larger than a one carat, and definitely a plain, "non-diamond" band. I got engaged a few weeks ago, and he kind of respected my wishes ;) . I love the ring that I have, and really don't ever see myself upgrading to something larger.

Good luck!
 
#17
I think if you are happy with what you have then KEEP it! I do not follow the "bigger is better" philosophy, I have a size 3 finger which makes my just over 1ct look as substantial as I'm comfortable with (plus I bang it around enough at this size), I've had it 8 years and I still look at it and think how much I love it even though we could def. afford something more expensive at this point, as a matter of fact I think my Rolex cost more then my diamond (minus the setting) did.....oh well, it's "the" ring we were engaged with. I do think some larger diamonds are just beautiful but when I've tried them on they are simply not me and I know that, not in my comfort zone......... How about one of those beautiful "celebration" rings from Tiffany's in the eternity/full circle style, they even make them with Lucida diamonds, I think that would be a lovely compromise to consider, I know I want one!
 
#18
Go with your heart, if you don't feel like having a bigger diamond, or a bigger diamond doesn't look as good on your finger, just thank your SO for his generous offer, and take a rain check! :smile1:
 
#19
I think if you're happy with your current ring, keep it!!! It still tickles your fancy AND holds sentimental value as being the first ring from him! :tender: Either way, you're a lucky girl to have him offer bigger bling!! :graucho:
 
#21
You are a jem of a wife! One of my guy friends from H.S. and college has been complaining to me recently about his fiancee wanting a bigger upgrade from her current e-ring, but he's not comfortable with that idea since they're not married yet. I had to remind myself not to tell him this story since he'll just get more frustrated! I think for any couple as I told him as long as both parties are ok with whatever change will or will not happen then that's fine.
 
#23
sputnik said:
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your friend's fiancée sounds like a little goldigger... and it will only get worse once they're married.
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Yeah, I thought so too. He said she feels pressure esp. being in LA to have a bigger rock to "keep" up with everyone else. Rather sad since he worked hard to save for her current e-ring.
 
#24
Eugin said:
Yeah, I thought so too. He said she feels pressure esp. being in LA to have a bigger rock to "keep" up with everyone else. Rather sad since he worked hard to save for her current e-ring.
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When I was married. I was in LA too but we didnt even get a diamond ring, just some band ( sillver dipped in white gold). Maybe your friend can try to tell her that in their future, he'll get her something nicer to let her know that she's still important but a bigger ring is straining him at the current moment. But if she still doesnt understand, then maybe she doesnt deserve him?

I am just an outsider in no way to judge their relationship, just my 2 cents
 
#25
By the way, thanks alot gals and guys. Just an update:
I went to Tiffany with DH and I decided not to get a bigger ring. I love my current one and it's not time for an upgrade yet.

I have gotten a juicy watch instead :rofl: since DH insisted on getting me something and switched the strap to lizard strap by Michele. I am all happy that he's so thoughtful. ( I told him nothing more than 500 bucks and he came up with this combo)

So enjoy the pic of my ring and the watch.:heart:
 

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#26
Well, if you're comfortable with your current, maybe you could ask him to spend on the money for an exciting vacation, or planting a tree if your name, or buy you a purse that you've been eyeing on...
 
#27
I love the idea of a larger diamond, and we can certainly afford it now...but I am still in love with my engagement ring. I can't imagine not looking at it, and remembering the point of our lives when I recieved it.

I am just sentimental. I say stick with the one he gave you, I think that is what your heart wants you to do.

But, you have a great guy to want to upgrade! It is a tough choice.

Follow your heart.

Edit: whoops, I just saw that you decided to keep it! Congrats on your watch!
 
#29
jeslyn, your Lucida is lovely! I like diamonds in the 1.5 carat weight....the size appearance of stones of this weight ( especially if they are solitaires as is the Lucida )

I have several stones, among which are a 1.66 Lucida and a 3+ carat Hearts on Fire. My fav is the Lucida and I wear it almost always.

You are not *me* however....but, I just wanted to tell you that you should go with your heart and if your heart loves the stone/ring you have, then, maybe your DH would like to get you, in addition, another....sometime?
 
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