Share your strategies, tactics, stories of how to avoid Ban Island
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surfchick, could you please share how you steel yourself when face with all the pretty little H things that weren't on your list. So far I've only turned down 3 items that I know truly wouldn't work for me but one I really regretted and thought about it all the time.
Birdonce, we must be twins! My weakness is I always said to myself "why wait?". I know that in most cases, I could find these items again. May be I have to pay a premium, may be it'll be pre-loved, may be it'll take years. But I can't seem to make myself let it go once I see it. Logically I know I can find it again one day but then I'm saying to myself "but it's here now, why not?". I'm doomed!
chkpfbeliever, I need whatever drink you've been drinking and make that a double. I have scarves that I just liked the patterns and colors and I just wanted to have it. I tell myself I'm collecting. I just don't know for what. Let's be honest, I hoard! I don't even wear a scarf day-to-day. In the winter I just wear my various non-H cashmere mufflers. Right now there are 3 scarves and 2 shawls that have never been worn with tag still on and 3 that have been worn only once each.
I truly need to learn from you how to let go. I was thinking of giving one scarf that I didn't like that much after I ordered it from H.com to my mom, but then I just couldn't bring myself to part with it and ordered her something else instead. I'm a sad case!
I always pay off my CC too but I'm feeling like I'm reaching that place where it's getting to be too much H and nothing else but I don't know how to wean off (or do cold turkey--oh no!). Funny how I major in economics and always preach to my DH about opportunity cost but when it comes to H I can't seem to do the trade off.
Funny you should suggest this, Chestnutty! Your web finds posts and your reveal always leave me wanting more. I'm always looking forward to reading your posts.
I do get your point though. One of my GFs said the same thing. She used to frequent the Chanel thread a LOT and her CC collection just grew and grew until she stopped checking tPF. As I said earlier, I need DH to cancel our internet service and take away my smart phone too. And, I need to quit my job so I don't access it at work. Better yet, I need to move to the North Pole or somewhere in the middle of nowhere far far away from H.
Jadeite, I experienced #1 and ended up moving the other non-H bags out of my closet to make room. Those other bags are now all over my bedroom floor--not a pretty sight!
Dear FF, your starting of this thread already indicated that you're aware of this potential 'addiction' and I wouldn't worry about getting out of control. Like all other hobbies, we all TPFers here go thru the same phrase. I used to be like this but you'll know that one day the craving starts wearing off. Every H design is beautiful and hard to get rid of but then tell yourself that H always come out with even better designs in the next season.
If you miss a design this season, you can always get it back in the following season. I've found that the supply of H scarves and shawls have become much better this year (maybe the demand has also come down) so it is not hard to find it later. Don't forget that you can transfer non leather items from other H stores so the SA can hunt down the item for you. There is always Ebay and other resellers as well.
It pains me to admit (but then I'm among H lovers here so I'm sure you can empathize) that I've become an H addict. Perhaps I've always been addicted but only just a little.I've been buying H since 2001 starting with 2 silk scarves. Over the years I bought new scarves here and there and a few bags usually during my travels. Then early this year I discovered the recommended resellers, the authentication and the ebay/web finds threads, and the rest is history.
Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy with all my H items. I'm just hoping I could learn from my dear tPFer friends how to stay sane, stick to the budget and not go ga-ga over all the new beautiful items that H comes out with each season to tantalize and fuel our desires or that hard-to-find/HG/why-didn't-I-see-that-when-it-first-came-out H items that pop up online now and then. Please share your strategy, tactics, funny stories. So I haven't had to sneak anything into the house just yet but I've been saying a couple of hundred dollars whenever my DH asked me how much that new H scarf is.
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I feel you, Fabfashion, it's a battle... I have a file of "oldies" I'm actively hunting for, they are long pondered ones that got away. If I see one I buy it without regret.
I have bought shawls considered grails by the masses and they haven't suited me at all. I have learned to really step back and consider what my style is and what colors I feel my best in. What is loved and looks amazing by and on others is not always loving me - I have to except that and not make expensive mistakes because I have gotten caught up in a the-next-big-grail-frenzy. I don't jump in the deep end like I used to and I'm slowly purging what doesn't work for me.
I find things come in groups though and my only trick to resist incarceration is to hide the bodies, so to speak!
For me
Just keep reminding myself of all those
Nasty sa service ridiculous h rules
Never ending mind games treatment
And Why always no to me no shipment no delivery
Will stop me from buying more
Stay away haha
Just keep reminding myself of all those
Nasty sa service ridiculous h rules
Never ending mind games treatment
And Why always no to me no shipment no delivery
Will stop me from buying more
Stay away haha
I'm trying something new lately: don't go into the boutique for several months at a time, meanwhile obsessively build up a wishlist that I constantly revise and reconsider until I whittle it down to a few items that I truly want and know that I will use. And only then do I set foot in the boutique and give the list to my SA. Because the single outlay then is quite significant - compared to just a small thing here and a small thing there - it makes me feel so guilty that I don't set foot in the boutique for another few months.
That, and also at ~20 scarves I think I have hit scarf saturation point. I can't grow a second neck to showcase more of my collection, and I feel bad for not using all of my collection as much as I should. There are only a couple of old grails left on my list and I don't really feel the need to buy more new season scarves.
That, and also at ~20 scarves I think I have hit scarf saturation point. I can't grow a second neck to showcase more of my collection, and I feel bad for not using all of my collection as much as I should. There are only a couple of old grails left on my list and I don't really feel the need to buy more new season scarves.
I think I'm a relatively sensible H'addict - but my purchases have always been spontaneous, all specifically filling a 'need' in my wardrobe, 'necessities' and homewares. Really only one misfire in all my purchases of a sale sweater that proved too fragile to actually wear.
I've simple rationalized over the years that I only need a few things in life, but I want those things to be the best and most considered, where it counts. That's how I've avoided ban island
Not only do I LOVE your photos, but also your way of thinking, bravo!!! I SOOO wish I could be like you, maybe that's one of the differences between men and women!
I've been trying to do this all my life (and it's a pretty long one!) but I still haven't succeeded....I'll print your post and stick it on my wallet so I can see it, every time I'm tempted to buy something I don't need
....wishful thinking!