Oh now you bring out the topic of 10 motif, I tried on the 10 motif twice and had the mixed feelings about it. Sometimes it looks too busy on me and other times it looks fine but I have my doubts. Maybe it depends on the outfits, seeing so many VCA fans here wearing the 10 motif so well. I wonder why i just can't seem to see myself wearing it that often. Maybe because I have a family pendant I need to wear as a talisman so necklace is the last item I would add to my collection according to the cost per wear theory.I completely understand what you mean! It is a fine balance between choosing what suits you now vs choosing what we hope to enjoy for decades (not that we could ever have so much foresight!). I was actually advised by an older relative to get the small over the mini earrings. But also advised to get a 10 motif over the pendant. Eh, in the end, we must chose what we would wear now! We can always gift the items we age out of to our daughters/younger relatives. But all that to say, I agree that the small is a great size for hanging out with friends or going to dinner! I hope you can get your small frivole in the near future!