Question regarding tacky people and carat size....

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#76
Jahpson said:
Me: Wow, your ring is absolutely gorgeous!! I have never seen anything so stunning! How big is it?

you: as big as your brain

*me running off crying*

LOL
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now, if someone asked me the carat size of my ring in that sweet way, I'd be more than happy to tell them & talk to them about my ring. that is clearly complimentary & someone who is innocently curious. I would still feel a little uncomfortable due to my personality & upbringing, but I would not feel upset at the lady asking the question.

like swanky said...it's all in the delivery!
 
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#80
Here in Chicago it's very common to see women wearling larger stones. My stone is just a little over 2 cts and it can be seriously dwarfed by what I see on a regular basis. No one has ever asked me how much my ring costs but I don not mind them asking me about it.
 
#82
Vegas Long Legs said:
One of the good things about getting older - seen & shopped for enough diamonds in my life I don't even need to ask size or color anymore. Can guess within a few color tones & within 1/3 of a carat if its one stone. Working on ability to judge total carat, alot more difficult. Comes in handy when looking at estate pieces.

I know multi-millionaire women who wear one carat stones & women who are bankrupt with 5+ cts. Not a gauge for how wealthy someone is.

Am also one who lives their life not thinking that people do or say things to just offend me. JMO
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I totally agree with you! :goodpost:
 
#83
If I see a lovely ring, I always want to know what size it is and the other specs. I never realized that it could be perceived as rude. But maybe because I was always genuinely interested and wanted to learn more about diamonds (and other rocks). I never ask about the price though - even though I'd like to know it too :graucho:

It works the other way too, I'm not one bit bothered if someone asks more details about my ring. And I know it too that the size isn't indication of one's wealth at all. My e-ring is "only" 0.82ct but IF-quality and therefore more expensive than many people might realise.
 
#84
I dont mind when people ask. My ring isnt really even that big (almost 1.75 cts), but when DH and I were stationed in a teeny-tiny MidWestern town people would fall all over themselves over my ring. I even had several people ask if it was real! Now, that, I found kind of tacky. But since moving to CA my ring size is fairly common, even tiny compared to some Ive seen in San Francisco!
 
#85
I think it is a case by case scenario. I have a relatively small diamond, and people sometimes ask. I know when they do, it is out of curiosity, not jealousy. I have been on the other end, lately, though. We are looking at upgrading and I have been doing some polling. I haven't mind asking a couple of my closer friends--or even asking to try it on. But, I would never have asked anyone other than a friend.

I do have a tacky experience on the flip side. There is a conspicuously wealthy family in my area and wifey has a 5 carat ring--not only has she broadcasted the size, but also the price. I found that as uncomfortable as if I had been asked personally!
 
#87
OP- this makes no sense to me because you say that you are annoyed when people ask you about the size of your ring, and yet you are getting a larger ring??? I'm guessing that you like the attention or you wouldn't be wearing large diamonds - not that there's anything wrong with that because I think that it's okay to be proud of your things. I wear fairly large diamonds, especially for my petite frame, and I consider it a compliment when someone asks me about my rings. I wouldn't ask someone about the size of their ring, but I do compliment people on beautiful jewelry:smile1:
 
#88
I have people ask me all the time about the size of my ring. I tell them that it is 3 carats and I deserve more. At that time they start laughing and move on.
 
#90
My centre diamond on my engagement ring is only 0.5 carat, but i still get asked about its size all the time because i have really small fingers. I don't mind answering the question, but sometimes i just say "It's big enough for me" if the question gets asked in a tone that rubs me the wrong way.
 
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