People grabbing your hand/making a fuss over ring

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#31
Rami00 said:
It is soooo lame. I have heard "why you even work?" "wow you are a princess, aren't you" "I bet those shorts are $500" ugh people are so cruel sometimes. So I learnt from those ugly comments...now I just make up stuff on the spot. LOL! It makes them happy ..so I guess it works both ways.


I am pathetic tho ... I have two Cartier loves on my hand and I have heard "hey are those Michel Kors bracelets" and I have agreed to saying "yup from Marshalls" LMAO.
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I've never heard anything negative from work, not in my face maybe. I've only had compliments like, that's the kind of ring I want someday. I liked it, I'm flattered, it means hubby and I have good taste.

I'm quite taken aback when someone actually grabs my hand to inspect further, few occasion actually and gushed when they realized it's a Tiffany (no, I did not tell them, they just happen to be Tiffany fans too). These occasions actually make me feel uncomfortable. I think a "nice ring" should be good enough, no need for physical contact.

That's the thing about the love bracelet, it's so understated. My acquaintances actually thought it was from Tiffany, since I'm such a fan but I didn't want to correct them, just said no and changed the topic. Didn't want them to probe further. :)
 
#32
Oh my goodness, I've received multiple "comments" about my ring:

1. Some of the staff wanted to look at my ring and then pulled it off to try it on without asking and ran around the room showing the ring on their fingers to others!
2. One of my closest friends, after learning I just got engaged, barely talked to me afterwards and after finally asking me about the engagement sighed, "that's sparkly" in a dismissive tone.
3. A coworker asked to take a closer look at my ring and then sniffed, "mine is just as big" (she was obsessed with planning her wedding at the time and her fiance's family owned a jewelry store)
4. Another staff member yelled at me for wearing jewelry in a specific room and I told her I usually don't, but it was OK since I was only writing some information down. Her co-worker sought me out and told me that she was just jealous of my ring.

There were other things here and there, but those are the most egregious that stick out in my mind.

Like the OP, I'm actually very understated. The only "bling" I typically wear is my e-ring. It's been many moons since I got engaged and initially I was very embarrassed by all the attention and didn't know how to handle it and deflected, but now I just say thank you.
 
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#33
TeddyPumpkin said:
Oh... I just ordered a solitaire necklace (it was actually my biggest purchase so far) and now I'm so scared after reading all this. Even though I only wear one short necklace at a time... occasionally studs to go with it.

I never heard such bizarre and cruel words myself, even when I was a student and was working a part-time job. Let alone that being said to ANYBODY. I must say I'm shocked someone even said that!
(Plus, isn't it kinda unavoidable having some bling if you have an engagement ring?)

Obviously some people are TOO conscious about others...
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Some people are mean some people are not. You are lucky not to ever encounter anyone that mean. i think it depends on how you see things. Like someone once told me i look like I just came from saudi with all the bling so the next time i tried to tone it down a little. It may not be that offensive but i took it like saying im wearing too much.
 
#34
Wow! I know people can be mean, cruel and quite nosey...BUT I can't imagine adjusting my life or not wearing my ring for anyone. If you want to admire my ring, that's is fine, I am flattered and appreciative of nice compliments (NO hand grabbing) but I will NOT stop wearing my ring to make someone feel better, that's their problem. I love my engagement ring and feel so blessed to have it.
 
#35
Dany_37 said:
Wow! I know people can be mean, cruel and quite nosey...BUT I can't imagine adjusting my life or not wearing my ring for anyone. If you want to admire my ring, that's is fine, I am flattered and appreciative of nice compliments (NO hand grabbing) but I will NOT stop wearing my ring to make someone feel better, that's their problem. I love my engagement ring and feel so blessed to have it.
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Im okay with taking off my necklace or earrings when they think its too much but when they criticize my rings then theres no way i will take it off for them. I love my rings too much to care what anyone says.
 
#36
I don't know about you ladies.. but I love diamonds and shiny things. I can say that anything 1 ct and up will definitely catch my attention. Speaking from my experience, 4 out of 6 girls will notice a beautiful rock. 3 might look at it and then quickly look away (like seeing a really hot guy), 2 (which includes myself) will definitely go "wowza! can I please take a closer look?" I've held my friend's, and my coworker's hand before just looking at the rock, and sometimes they even take it off for me to look at.. However, I will never ask for them to take it off or pull it from them finger, or even touch the rock. I just like how it *bling blings*. I've even started conversations with strangers about their rings. So reading this thread is making me cautious about asking people about their rings.. To be honest.. I think if you are going to wear a 1.5 ct diamond that is super shiny, you're to bound to catch some attention.. especially since we're living in this 'big rock, more money' world.
 
#38
I haven't experienced this from strangers but it would bother me. My coworkers and friends asked to see it when I first got engaged and I didn't have a problem with it bc they're people I see everyday. However, one coworker asked me to take it off and she slipped it on her finger and said she was going to "borrow" for it a bit. She said it jokingly but I hated the feeling seeing my ring on her finger because I knew that she was jealous of me and definitely WOULD keep it if she could! I later told my fiancé and he said I never should've slipped it off to hand over to her.

There is a girl I see on my train on my commute riding home everyday and she is always staring at my ring/shoes/clothes/bag, it's uncomfortable. She thinks I don't see her doing it but it's super obvious and just because you can't see my eyes behind sunglasses doesn't mean I don't see you checking out my ring!
 
#39
I think I may have actually developed a bit of OCD with cleaning my ring because of people grabbing at me. I don't understand why people need to put their finger/thumb right over my stone to smear their fingerprints on it. It irritates me and I cannot wait to clean it off. I never touch other people's bling and I enjoy jewelry very much, I will ask for a closer look if they are willing or not uncomfortable but you do just that -- LOOK -- with your eyes not your hands.
 
#40
Pork and Bud said:
I think I may have actually developed a bit of OCD with cleaning my ring because of people grabbing at me. I don't understand why people need to put their finger/thumb right over my stone to smear their fingerprints on it. It irritates me and I cannot wait to clean it off. I never touch other people's bling and I enjoy jewelry very much, I will ask for a closer look if they are willing or not uncomfortable but you do just that -- LOOK -- with your eyes not your hands.
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Same for me! I have a sparkle spa and a steamer..Im OCD too..
 
#41
I have a rule:

If anyone asks to see your ring, no matter what its size, either make a fist and show them, or cup your other hand around the ring finger hand.

People will yank it off your finger, which may damage your finger, or worse, run away with it.
 
#42
wow, I am not sure where everyone lives or if I may just have BRF...but NO one ever compliments me on anything....bags, jewelry etc....just friends and family. Strangers hardly ever do. Vegas people must just be hard to impress lol
 
#43
In browsing the engagement ring thread, and seeing so many spectacular, large stones, I wonder how many of these rings are worn on a daily basis. What is the largest that is practical for daily wear? I know the answers depend on a number of different factors but, it does leave me wondering.
 
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