Because the question of diamonds touches on so many topics, and some of those topics touch, in turn, on some basic personal value issues, I think it is very good that the two of you are talking this over.
I would strongly recommend that you continue that dialogue, and just as you will wish to communicate to him that you want a diamond ring, I think it is also good to get him to talk more about his views.
You would not want to start your marriage by doing something that was against your own principles simply because he wanted a particular material possession, and even if you did, it is very likely that having done it could continue to be an issue in your own thoughts, and once all the wedding excitement had died down, that material possession that you had compromised your values to obtain for him would be always in view, always reminding you of the reasons you would have preferred to present him with a different gift, and it could become an extremely unplesant thing for you, and make it a struggle not to resent him having insisted, as if your values were insignificant next to his desire to have a particular jewelry item.
You might not want to subject him to that kind of inner conflict and conscience-gnawing, and I doubt he would want that for you, either.
These are exactly the kinds of things that need to be talked out, frankly and openly and completely, BEFORE any decisions about engagement jewelry are made!
On one of the Red Carpet reports, there was one celebrity, forget which, who wore a diamond necklace - no issues with this one, she said - it's from the 1820s. Now whether that would be accurate or not from a historical perspective, it's the kind of thing the two of you could investigate together to see what kind of compromise could be worked out!
I would strongly recommend that you continue that dialogue, and just as you will wish to communicate to him that you want a diamond ring, I think it is also good to get him to talk more about his views.
You would not want to start your marriage by doing something that was against your own principles simply because he wanted a particular material possession, and even if you did, it is very likely that having done it could continue to be an issue in your own thoughts, and once all the wedding excitement had died down, that material possession that you had compromised your values to obtain for him would be always in view, always reminding you of the reasons you would have preferred to present him with a different gift, and it could become an extremely unplesant thing for you, and make it a struggle not to resent him having insisted, as if your values were insignificant next to his desire to have a particular jewelry item.
You might not want to subject him to that kind of inner conflict and conscience-gnawing, and I doubt he would want that for you, either.
These are exactly the kinds of things that need to be talked out, frankly and openly and completely, BEFORE any decisions about engagement jewelry are made!
On one of the Red Carpet reports, there was one celebrity, forget which, who wore a diamond necklace - no issues with this one, she said - it's from the 1820s. Now whether that would be accurate or not from a historical perspective, it's the kind of thing the two of you could investigate together to see what kind of compromise could be worked out!