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#31
A bottle of Red said:
It's good to read the opposite point of view! Something in her video felt disingenuous to me, but perhaps I'm wrong.
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Her motivations may well be disingenuous. I have no idea who she is and I don't trust anything these "influencers" say, tbh.
It's just that we know people acquire things with unhealthy motivations sometimes, and we know that minimalism comes around in waves and people will declutter radically. I mean, none of us have forgotten people throwing out most of what they own because it doesn't "spark joy" <- and let's not pretend Kondo was not an influencer who profited off that movement herself.
The last time people got rid of all their expensive stuff was during Covid lockdowns when they felt luxury belongings were an artifice and they wanted to find their authentic selves. What this woman is doing is not new but, the criticisms she's getting are showing a double standard of some sort, because nobody criticized Kondo like this and she was advocating for basically the same thing. Maybe, to your point, the message was more palatable coming from Kondo because she comes across as more authentic? I dunno.:shrugs:

Objectively, I don't find this kind of declutter extreme or trendy. I just think most people will go through some sort of cycle of editing to various degrees, but this person has a public platform so she shared the process on it- for money, obviously, but that doesn't mean what she's describing is not what she authentically feels.
The TPF'er on the thread I linked felt very competitive with other women and felt pressured to keep purchasing to meet societal expectations, just like Niki described, and she's not the only person to have felt that, since others also posted saying they felt similarly. So, yeah, I'm not going to dismiss her and say it's definitely for the social media clout. If anything, it's the people making reaction videos to her video who are chasing clout, lol.

Edit: I'm trying to find a thread but can't recall enough to get the right search words. Someone on TPF cleared out their entire handbag collection during covid and posted about it because the lockdowns shifted her perspective. Sometimes life happens and people need to shed everything to start over in a happier mental place. I kinda get it, though I would prefer people didn't take it to the extreme of getting rid of everything.
 
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jblended said:
The TPF'er on the thread I linked felt very competitive with other women and felt pressured to keep purchasing to meet societal expectations, just like Niki described, and she's not the only person to have felt that, since others also posted saying they felt similarly. So, yeah, I'm not going to dismiss her and say it's definitely for the social media clout. If anything, it's the people making reaction videos to her video who are chasing clout, lol.
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I appreciate your perspective.. I would say that this is a sign of a greater issue - some type of psychological self-esteem/worthiness problem. If there is some type of psychological issue, selling off designer logos will not be a long term fix to it...

But you might just be a lot less cynical than I am, so I commend you for that !
 
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chanellover333 said:
I would say that this is a sign of a greater issue - some type of psychological self-esteem/worthiness problem. If there is some type of psychological issue, selling off designer logos will not be a long term fix to it...
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I totally agree! I think for some people, removing physical clutter helps them clear their heads and explore deeper feelings they are battling. However, I'm not sure it's that deep in this case (Niki Sky, I mean) because when it comes to influencers, their motivation is often just getting people to click on that link. I can't say whether she's being genuine; all I know is that I've seen a similar sentiment and course of action taken before, as I mentioned in my previous post, so I don't think it's as radical as some online commentators are making it seem (I'm referring to the reaction videos on youtube, not the discussion on this thread).

*I'm not sure I'm expressing myself clearly. Sorry if this is all a bit jumbled.
 
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I never was into Marie kondo or minimalism so maybe that's why it feels off to me?
I do remember the posts about the person getting rid of their entire collection and being quite shocked then too.

I remember too a very ultra minimalist you tube video I saw a while ago where the person had no mattress or furniture anymore, and I thought that was an unhealthy level of minimalism to me.

I think a person does need a larger budget to get rid of a whole collection and then buy items they love.

Idk this Niki sky either, btw.
 
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A bottle of Red said:
I think a person does need a larger budget to get rid of a whole collection and then buy items they love.
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Thank you for saying this. This is the unspoken dirty little secret. This is an extreme level of privilege that people don't acknowledge.
It requires privilege to amass a large amount of anything, but especially luxury goods.
It requires privilege to just as easily decide to toss out all said goods.
It requires privilege to have the time and freedom to navel-gaze in the way described in the video. There are many places in our world right now where people are, quite literally, trying to survive and do not have the luxury to assess their consumption habits or their parenting skills by the metric of shopping.
Perhaps the lack of acknowledgment of that fundamental privilege is what is rubbing all of us wrong and what is making it seem like she's preaching...?

Edit: Thank you for starting this discussion. It's fascinating. :)
 
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jblended said:
Thank you for saying this. This is the unspoken dirty little secret. This is an extreme level of privilege that people don't acknowledge.
It requires privilege to amass a large amount of anything, but especially luxury goods.
It requires privilege to just as easily decide to toss out all said goods.
It requires privilege to have the time and freedom to navel-gaze in the way described in the video. There are many places in our world right now where people are, quite literally, trying to survive and do not have the luxury to assess their consumption habits or their parenting skills by the metric of shopping.
Perhaps the lack of acknowledgment of that fundamental privilege is what is rubbing all of us wrong and what is making it seem like she's preaching...?

Edit: Thank you for starting this discussion. It's fascinating. :smile:
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I really hesitated saying it, but I felt it had to be said.
 
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A bottle of Red said:
I never was into Marie kondo or minimalism so maybe that's why it feels off to me?
I do remember the posts about the person getting rid of their entire collection and being quite shocked then too.

I remember too a very ultra minimalist you tube video I saw a while ago where the person had no mattress or furniture anymore, and I thought that was an unhealthy level of minimalism to me.

I think a person does need a larger budget to get rid of a whole collection and then buy items they love.

Idk this Niki sky either, btw.
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Good point. There is a religious element to minimalism (as someone who has/had some very religious relatives and relatives suffering from OCD). It can be a good tool to gain a sense of control over one's life, but it so often becomes away of justifying OCD.

The promotion of such strong turn-arounds, from extreme materialism to "purge" feel either phony or actually quite dangerous. People have the right to live however they want, but an in influencer, influences.
 
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I wonder if new videos are popping up now as a result..or her followers just dumfounded looking at their own stash wondering if they are also capable of going through a massive purge. If any are like me she is looking at her collection going...but these are my babies! 😆

Anyway.. I feel like a smart idiot.. Smart because I got my collection with the goal to hunt cheap and I think 80% of them I was able to achieve that way. I'm 20% idiot because I don't have a daughter to pass them down to.. :crybaby: I have a niece but she's only 3 at the moment...

Oh this brings me back to wonder if she has a daughter and she does! Did she have any highly coveted Vintage HG bags that she would regret not passing down to her daughter as an heirloom?
 
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So I watched through the entire video now with the above commentary and firstly I think her over exaggerated earnestness is throwing me off and feels fake.
Secondly, it's interesting that mostly her visibly branded goods are holding her back , so is she going the 'stealth wealth' or quiet luxury route now?
The two things that resonated with me personally were not buying to fill a void and not getting caught up in hype or branding ( thankfully my husband is anti hype and not into brands so he's good about keeping me from getting too caught up , because that's something I could see myself doing).

Personally, I don't see why I'm not authentic to myself if I wear or carry luxury, it gives me a lovely boost but I'm still me.
I'm just a better dressed out together version of me.

Also , I don't buy the common luxury must have items , I buy what I truly love which has always tended to be either classic pieces with a twist or under the radar but that I fell in love with.
And absolutely no one in my life knows or cares about my luxury items so definitely no element of competition here.
I live in a tiny town where most people have no concept of luxury and wouldn't recognize it, so if I wear something, I wear it for me.

As far as passing on to children, I see nothing wrong with passing on both memories and tangible items.

I do agree with this video that most likely she bought for all the wrong reasons, I'm just not sure her purge is for all the right reasons. Perhaps she needs some therapy to address the underlying reasons for her purchases.
 
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