New Guy here with a Christmas dilemma

[SophieChic]

I agree with this. Also, it sounds like you think highly of her so the comment I'm about to make will be one that you will probably disregard, but you shouldn't.

She already lied about being involved, which speaks volumes on her character and moral build up. You sound like a nice guy. She is not a nice girl. If you give her a gift like this it sends a very clear message that she can take advantage of you and, in all likely hood, get you to do things/buy things for her by simply batting her eyes. Don't do it! Dangerous path.

I say this as a nice girl, myself I know what I'm talking about. I also work in a psychology office. Lol.

This!

 

[albeli]

I agree with this. Also, it sounds like you think highly of her so the comment I'm about to make will be one that you will probably disregard, but you shouldn't.

She already lied about being involved, which speaks volumes on her character and moral build up. You sound like a nice guy. She is not a nice girl. If you give her a gift like this it sends a very clear message that she can take advantage of you and, in all likely hood, get you to do things/buy things for her by simply batting her eyes. Don't do it! Dangerous path.

I say this as a nice girl, myself I know what I'm talking about. I also work in a psychology office. Lol.

^^^This

 

[db89]

if she is not your gf .. then its too much for now.............

 

[walk-unafraid]

I agree with this. Also, it sounds like you think highly of her so the comment I'm about to make will be one that you will probably disregard, but you shouldn't.

She already lied about being involved, which speaks volumes on her character and moral build up. You sound like a nice guy. She is not a nice girl. If you give her a gift like this it sends a very clear message that she can take advantage of you and, in all likely hood, get you to do things/buy things for her by simply batting her eyes. Don't do it! Dangerous path.

I say this as a nice girl, myself I know what I'm talking about. I also work in a psychology office. Lol.

You took the words right out of my keyboard! OP, if you're still reading this thread, please take Fetching's post to heart.

 

[ThyneGODDESS]

I know that this thread appears to be very old, so this comment is very late. I don't see a problem with you giving her the gifts that you bought her. I'm sure that you bought them for her because you wanted to make her happy, possibly the happiest she has ever been. That is the gift of giving. You two may not be in any defined relationship as of yet, but let me ask you this?.? Have you set down and specifically asked her what her feelings are for you? Have you told her your feelings for her?

 

[ThyneGODDESS]

Also the gift of giving is not about how much you spent, how big the gift is, or how little the gift may be. The Gift Of Giving is about giving. Last year I gave a woman that was standing outside Target parking lot with a sign, " need gas money stranded, trying to get back to my children", not to mention she was pregnant as well, $500.00

 

[ThyneGODDESS]

That was money I really didn't have to spare. I have 2 beautiful children of my own that I have a difficult time giving them everything that they want, but last year Our family gave to hers, and it was an amazing feeling for me.

 

[Catbird9]

Also the gift of giving is not about how much you spent, how big the gift is, or how little the gift may be. The Gift Of Giving is about giving. Last year I gave a woman that was standing outside Target parking lot with a sign, " need gas money stranded, trying to get back to my children", not to mention she was pregnant as well, $500.00

Bless you for your kindness and generosity.

When I see people like you described standing on streetcorners or near big shopping areas, I wonder if they get the help they really need. Your story says sometimes they might.