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#16
Maybe you could remind him that he already got you a diamond pendant and ask to exchange it.
I know that when I have been in your situation, I do want a special piece to remember milestone anniversaries. This year we are doing major reno to our bathroom so we went to Tiffany and got sterling silver. Almost immediately I was kicking myself for not getting a more milestone type of piece. I understand where you are. If you have been dropping hints and he's not responding it gets frustrating.
 
#17
katieny said:
Maybe you could remind him that he already got you a diamond pendant and ask to exchange it.
I know that when I have been in your situation, I do want a special piece to remember milestone anniversaries. This year we are doing major reno to our bathroom so we went to Tiffany and got sterling silver. Almost immediately I was kicking myself for not getting a more milestone type of piece. I understand where you are. If you have been dropping hints and he's not responding it gets frustrating.
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I did remind him that he already got me a pendant and said that he figure I could pass it down to her when she turns 18. I feel like the spawn of satan! Lol!!
 
#18
Do you really think men sit around racked with guilt thinking they are the spawn of satan and the worst person ever for exchanging the grill you got them for Christmas, because they really wanted one with an extra burner? Do you think his friends are all like "you'd better keep and use that thing all the time, or your wife will be so upset she might never step foot inside a Home Depot again." Um, no.

A gift of jewelry is not sacred territory. I'd be disappointed in your case, too, because for your 10th he got you a version of something you already have so you could give what you already have to your daughter in 8+ years. But a 10th anniversary isn't exactly a surprise, and you should have communicated what you wanted beforehand. It's not uncommon for a man with no gift guidance to fall back on tried and tested territory. And if he doesn't know that solitaire pendants are not your thing, and you never tell him lest it hurt his feelings, prepare for another one for the 15th. It's possible telling him you'd rather have something else would make him feel relieved, not hurt, because finally you'll have given him a clue as to what would make you happy.
 
#19
You're right, it's probably my fault for not hinting on what I wanted. I just assumed he wouldn't buy me another necklace. I would have rather had a bracelet..etc. Now I know for next time.😣
 
#20
If you can exchange it I would! Most women seem to obsess about this stuff and most men don't care. It is a big anniversary and you should get what you want. It looks like a big diamond. If you can't exchange it, why not consider if you could reset one of the diamonds to be more your style. Maybe then you could layer the necklaces? Some people also like a DBY style bracelet.

And sorry but I don't really think an 18 year old needs to necessarily get diamonds. If he wants to buy something for your daughter that can wait!

I used to feel guilty when DH bought me $$$ gifts. But honestly I've sort of gotten over that. :P
 
#21
The diamond in the new pendant is .69, so its a good size and looks even bigger in the setting. its also set in 18 ky white gold. 😃I went to the jewelry store and i'm going to have the other diamond pendant's chain shortened so i can layer them and wear them together 😊 by the way what is a DBY bracelet??? Is it bad that I don't want to give the other pendant to my daughter, because its sentimental to me! I can buy her something else when she turns 18! Let her husband buy her a diamond pendant! Lol!
 
#22
koukla76 said:
The diamond in the new pendant is .69, so its a good size and looks even bigger in the setting. its also set in 18 ky white gold. 😃I went to the jewelry store and i'm going to have the other diamond pendant's chain shortened so i can layer them and wear them together 😊 by the way what is a DBY bracelet??? Is it bad that I don't want to give the other pendant to my daughter, because its sentimental to me! I can buy her something else when she turns 18! Let her husband buy her a diamond pendant! Lol!
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Haha...her 18th birthday is a long time away..and for all you know she might not even like that style of jewelry. I say get what u like and if you want to pass it on, then do so, and if u want to get her something, then do that. Any gift from you will be meaningful.
 
#24
koukla76 said:
The diamond in the new pendant is .69, so its a good size and looks even bigger in the setting. its also set in 18 ky white gold. 😃I went to the jewelry store and i'm going to have the other diamond pendant's chain shortened so i can layer them and wear them together 😊 by the way what is a DBY bracelet??? Is it bad that I don't want to give the other pendant to my daughter, because its sentimental to me! I can buy her something else when she turns 18! Let her husband buy her a diamond pendant! Lol!
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A DBTY bracelet is "diamond by the yard." I think Tiffany is the brand that originally coined that name, but lots of jewelry brands offer this style now. They are delicate chain bracelets with a single bezel-set diamond in the middle of the bracelet. Some of them have multiple diamonds spaced evenly along the bracelet. There are also DBTY necklaces.

And I LOVE your new pendant...it's gorgeous! I'm sorry you didn't get what you really wanted though. Would it be possible for you to splurge and get yourself a DY piece, or a Michele watch?
 
#25
koukla76 said:
The diamond in the new pendant is .69, so its a good size and looks even bigger in the setting. its also set in 18 ky white gold. 😃I went to the jewelry store and i'm going to have the other diamond pendant's chain shortened so i can layer them and wear them together 😊 by the way what is a DBY bracelet??? Is it bad that I don't want to give the other pendant to my daughter, because its sentimental to me! I can buy her something else when she turns 18! Let her husband buy her a diamond pendant! Lol!
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No it isn't! Lol. I love my daughter but she's not getting my diamonds - for a lig time I hope -she is already interested in my jewelry at the age of 2!
 
#26
alf13 said:
I love a bezeled pear; it's absolutely gorgeous!

That being said, if you don't love it and would prefer something else, let him know. That's too much money to spend on something you're not crazy in love with. I don't know why jewelry can be such a sentimental can of worms for some people. Look at it this way - if he bought a sweater for you that was the wrong size/color/style, would you feel obligated to wear it, or would you exchange it for something that is more "you?" IMO, jewelry is no more sentimental than any other gift and can be a monumental waste of $$ if a particular piece isn't even on your wish list.
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+1
Your husband seems to be really nice and attentive. I think he can cope with honesty. After all, you are not rejecting him... You just want to choose a jewelry piece (together with him) that you will want to wear every day. Especially since he already gave you a necklace.
That said... I think it's a gorgeous pendant and necklace.
 
#27
I think you should tell your husband you love the first pendant so much that you can't bear the thought of giving it to your daughter, but that you will leave it to her in your will. Choose something else special for your anniversary that you will. As we get older our tastes become specific. What is the point of a gift you will not enjoy?
 
#28
Update: I'm obsessed with the necklace now! It's so sparkly and I'm layering it with my other diamond pendant, so I'm wearing them together and I love the look of them together. It ended up being the perfect gift, it just had to grow on me. I can wear this everyday and now when I look in the mirror I have a reminder of 2 important milestones. I'm going to ask for a DY piece for my bday or Xmas. This is much more valuable. Diamonds are forever. I don't know what I was thinking. Thanks everyone!
 
#29
koukla76 said:
Update: I'm obsessed with the necklace now! It's so sparkly and I'm layering it with my other diamond pendant, so I'm wearing them together and I love the look of them together. It ended up being the perfect gift, it just had to grow on me. I can wear this everyday and now when I look in the mirror I have a reminder of 2 important milestones. I'm going to ask for a DY piece for my bday or Xmas. This is much more valuable. Diamonds are forever. I don't know what I was thinking. Thanks everyone!
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That's wonderful...show us a pic of the two together!
 
#30
Here is a picture it's not the best pic, sorry.
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