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koukla76

koukla76

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Apr 4, 2012
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#1
My hubby just gave me a beautiful white gold and diamond necklace for out 10 year anniversary. I feel like he spent a lot of money on it and he could have got me David yurman or a Michelle diamond watch or a tag. He feels David yurman is too over priced for silver and not special enough for a 10 year anniversary gift. Am I being ungrateful? He doesn't know I feel this way. Should I say something or keep my mouth shut, here is a picture ImageUploadedByPurseForum1370638907.067244.jpg
 
#2
It is a beautiful necklace and you should not say anything negative to him, just wear it often and let him know how much you appreciate his gift. Don't risk hurting his feelings.
 
#3
The necklace is very pretty IMO... Is he likely to be offended if u wanted to exchange? My husband doesn't mind if I exchange things, but he's a bit more unsentimental than most.
 
#4
I think the necklace is beautiful and that you shouldn't risk hurting your husband's feelings. I don't know your husband, but it may deter him from buying you jewelry as a gift again in the future. Is it that you don't like the necklace at all? Or you just had your eye on something a little different? If it's that your husband doesn't get your taste then perhaps in the future you can make mention of specific pieces you like.
 
#5
reginablair said:
I think the necklace is beautiful and that you shouldn't risk hurting your husband's feelings. I don't know your husband, but it may deter him from buying you jewelry as a gift again in the future. Is it that you don't like the necklace at all? Or you just had your eye on something a little different? If it's that your husband doesn't get your taste then perhaps in the future you can make mention of specific pieces you like.
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Yes, that's it. Had my eye on something different.
 
#6
Are there any upcoming gift opportunities? Perhaps you could drop some hints. Only you know your husband and how he'd react to you wanting to return it. If anything, you may end up with this necklace now and the necklace you have your eye on in the near future!
 
#7
I love a bezeled pear; it's absolutely gorgeous!

That being said, if you don't love it and would prefer something else, let him know. That's too much money to spend on something you're not crazy in love with. I don't know why jewelry can be such a sentimental can of worms for some people. Look at it this way - if he bought a sweater for you that was the wrong size/color/style, would you feel obligated to wear it, or would you exchange it for something that is more "you?" IMO, jewelry is no more sentimental than any other gift and can be a monumental waste of $$ if a particular piece isn't even on your wish list.
 
#8
It isn't so much that jewelry is sentimental, but I just hate giving negative feedback (returning) for positive behaviour (DH buying jewelry)! I would just worry that he would hesitate to buy any jewelry in the future because he will think he cannot choose the right thing. And yet it is also true that it is a monumental waste of money if the item truly isn't your style or if you don't like it. It's too bad because I think the necklace is absolutely gorgeous.
 
#9
In my opinion, when a man picks out jewelry for you, you should keep it...because he might not do it again if he thinks you will never like anything he picks out....can you just buy the David Yurman for yourself?
 
#10
My husband could care less that I've exchanged and returned things because when I get what I really want I use it more and am happier about it. But your first post sounded more like you were concerned with the cost? If your finances are in order try to enjoy being spoiled.
 
#11
LeeMiller said:
My husband could care less that I've exchanged and returned things because when I get what I really want I use it more and am happier about it. But your first post sounded more like you were concerned with the cost? If your finances are in order try to enjoy being spoiled.
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I think I am having a hard time being spoiled, in thinking i feel like he could have got me something just as nice that's not as expensive. Our finances are fine but I feel guilty, lol! Weird. I do think its very pretty. I guess I feel like he could have bought a chunkier piece from DY but at the end it would just be silver. I really like chunkier pieces. This is much more delicate thAn I'm used to. Also he bought me a diamond solitaire pendant when I had my daughter. Even though its totally different than that, I'm like another necklace? He also bought me a sapphire pendant when I had my son.
 
#12
It's a very beautiful piece. I may seem ungrateful but if I don't like it, I would let my husband know and explain it to him what i really want. You can let him know you appreciate the thoughtfulness but prefer something else. You have got to like it and it should make you feel good everytime you wear it. At the end of the day, your husband got this for you to make you happy and if it doesn't, you nee to let him know.
 
#13
HauteMama said:
It isn't so much that jewelry is sentimental, but I just hate giving negative feedback (returning) for positive behaviour (DH buying jewelry)! I would just worry that he would hesitate to buy any jewelry in the future because he will think he cannot choose the right thing. And yet it is also true that it is a monumental waste of money if the item truly isn't your style or if you don't like it. It's too bad because I think the necklace is absolutely gorgeous.
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You're right. Dont want to turn a positive into a negative
 
#14
laurineg1 said:
In my opinion, when a man picks out jewelry for you, you should keep it...because he might not do it again if he thinks you will never like anything he picks out....can you just buy the David Yurman for yourself?
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DY isn't cheap, so it's not something I can just go buy. But I can always drop the hint on my bday, Xmas, etc..instead
 
#15
I think my real issue is he already bought me a diamond pendant. Why get me another diamond pendant in a different style? I could have just changed the setting on the original one. I know he feels I can give our daughter the first one. But I guess I just wanted something different or maybe a little bit chunkier. I'm the worst person aren't I?
 
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