Need advice please on upgrading e-ring

[toriajj]

with her living 400 miles away, you won't be seeing her often, i assume.(maybe that's a good thing ) let us know what you decide...i meant to encourage you. your hubby sounds like a sweetie who wants YOU to be happy. that's a great thing early into a marriage. believe me, 20 years is a looonnggg time and five kids later, lots of blood,sweat and tears. i "earned" my first chanel bag and wallet this christmas-i was thrilled but dh kept saying, "you do so much and more, you deserve it" and frankly, i have to agree with him! it's my favorite bag already-casual and soft like butta. good luck sweetie

 

[bag happy]

That is so cool that your DH got you a Chanel bag and wallet for Christmas! 20 years and 5 kids! I really admire you. My parents had 5 kids and I love being from a big family (at least big by today's standards). There's a lot of adjustments that need to be made as a newlywed (financial, familial, emotional, etc etc etc) but I'm really looking forward to the "blood, sweat and tears"! And I love hearing that they're still so appreciative after 20 years! That is soooo cool.

 

[karo]

First of all, congratulations! I really love both your e-ring and your wedding ring. I woudn't change a thing in you e-ring, but actually I agree that a smaller wedding band will look much better with it. This one you can wear on the right hand and it will look beautiful. As for you MIL I think she would be hurt if you changes the diamond. Probably she was trying really hard to get you something special, so maybe just leave it that way for now. Especially that you ring is trully gorgeous. Tell us what you decide.

 

[Japster]

I think it may be best to wait till the 1 year mark, though there is no reason you can't shop around until than.

I've made a lot of 3 stone rings for various customers and I agree that proportion is key. I made myself a 3 stone ring with my 3.2 carat center. My mother now owns that ring, but I will try and dig up some pictures if it helps you get a clear idea of proportion.

 

[lorihmatthews]

Hubby and I went back and forth on the 3-stone e-ring. We finally decided to go with a princess solitare instead. We figured we would rather put the money into one large stone instead of 3 smaller ones.

That said, I do agree that your wedding band is "competing" with your e-ring. Maybe if you had it reset or got a different wedding band things would look more harmonious. My 2 cents!

And I also agree, I wouldn't change anything too soon, especially since it's been only 5-6 months.

 

[couturequeen]

I'd do what was previously suggested - get a smaller wedding band and wait to upgrade the e-ring until 5 or 10 years. You're just getting used to how it looks on your hand.

In a few years you may look at your ring differently and not see the need to upgrade at all.

 

[bag happy]

Hi Karo, Thank you for your wishes! I didn't have the opportunity to choose my ring and I think I would have chosen something different. I know some think it's romantic to just be presented with something shiny and I think so too! I've seen so many gorgeous rings on this site that these women got to create with their beaus. I guess I'm just impatient! I really appreciate your thoughts on the MIL. That's a touchy subject... Anyway, it's nice to meet you and thank you again!

Hi Japster, thanks for your professional opinion! You have a very lucky mother. 3.2 center stone! A dream...I think I need to see more rings to see what I like now that I've decided that I'm going to change it at some point...Thank you for your kind offer.

On a side note, how fantastic that your company gives sales profits to charity! Best wishes for your continued success!!!

Hi Lori, thanks for your comments! I thought about a smaller wedding band but what I'd really like is a larger center stone! I know it sounds greedy (and therefore the source of my issue!). :shame: I'm embarrassed to admit that. Anyway, thank you! And I love your cat!!!

 

[bag happy]

Nice to meet you Couture Queen! Yeah suppose I'm being impatient. And I'm learning that one can't be if she wants a harmonious marriage and relationship with her MIL. I don't know how'd she react if I changed it now or a year from now or ever. I was surprised by the engagement ring. I thought we were going to shop together. Anyway, I love being married and it's a pretty good life if I have time to wonder about trading up so soon. But still....I think about it.

Anyway, thank you for your advice.

 

[isus]

bag happy, your rings are beautiful! I love your e-ring and it's proportions. I have a 3 stone....with a 1.04 middle and two .76 sides. There is not a lot of visual difference between the middle and sides, but it's still a lovely ring as is your gorgeous piece.

There is no set proportion except what is pleasing to the eye.

I wouldn't do a thing to it. I don't see how you could possibly upgrade a ring that beautiful to something else.

 

[Denan26]

Your ring is beautiful! I know all about wanting to upgrade, I'm a diamond fiend! But, I have to go with the consensus and say wait until your anniversary.

What I did when I upgraded was kept the original stone, I will eventually buy a matching one and have them made into earrings. Maybe you could do that and that would make everyone happy as you're preserving the stone your MIL picked out...just a thought.