My husband hates my bag compulsion!
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I get so jealous when I watch my favorite vloggers displaying their enormous and often very expensive, handbag collections on their YouTube channel, and their husbands show up and they are totally supportive. It's like she is showing the third Louis Vuitton purchase that month, and here's her husband telling her it looks great. Where do I get one of them (not to mention their bank account)?
Nothing on these vlogs/blogs whatever are real. For all we know, they fight over her handbag obsession, but they make money from getting people to watch them and subscribe to their channels or whatever.
Also, if you want a supportive husband, you'll have to find one - but it takes time & patience (and a lot of bad dates!) in the meantime, make your own money [emoji6]
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I think our husbands are brothers [emoji6] mine is just like yours. He is extremely frugal and hates spending money. He will wear his clothes until they're ratty & before we got married, he had no idea how much these handbags cost.
Now he recognizes purses and says "oh look, that woman has your purse," and we discuss purses sometimes, just like you & your husband.
Overall, he doesn't mind, but he certainly doesn't understand it [emoji4]
It was cute when he went to LV and bought me the favorite MM. It's not a style I would ever pick out, but now I can't ever return it or sell it because he's sentimental.
Yikes! I was just joking. I do have a husband, and I do make my own money - though I cannot afford all the purchases that a lot of them make, so I get a vicarious thrill watching the videos.
Hey, I wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition.
I was not being serious either, hence the winking emoticon.
Not sure where the Spanish Inquisition part came from.
I was just pointing out that these bloggers are not exactly showing us the reality of their lives ...
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Phew!! I didn't notice the wink. Actually, many of my favorites are posters on this site.
My partner doesn't understand it either but he has his obsessions too. My appreciation for well made things by skilled artisans using fine materials goes to the very core of me, thinking back I was the same as a toddler as I am now. If someone sought to deprive me of my so-called shallow self I would feel resentful that they wanted to deprive me of something I so enjoy. People can buy the most excellent, beautiful things in goodwill/charity shops and cost pennies, marketing doesn't always have anything to do with collecting or enjoying.
Interest in bags doesn't always equate with ever-larger collections. No reason why you shouldn't continue to carry the same bag everyday (or a small collection in rotation) like you used to, lots of my friends and tPFers have very small bag collections that work for them, it doesn't mean to say they are less interested in bags than people who keep many bags or those that constantly sell/update.
If price isn't the biggest consideration, it should matter even more whether the bag is a no-name generic bag that has an unknown origins or ethically sourced. Material things matter in many ways, not least in this global economy where profit often means everything. Craftspeople's job satisfaction of creating fine things and being paid a fair price is something to be proud of. I like that European companies like H, BV, and Gucci don't just outsource work to the cheapest 'bidder' where labour is cheap (often in many ways). After all the production chain of an Hermes bag is well documented and provides a skilled and talented craftsperson with a reasonable living wage in a country that is expensive to live in i.e. France. Not that I would deny a job to any person anywhere but it's possible to reconcile your husband's good-hearted, environmental and philanthropic concerns with justification for your own love of carrying and owning the best and the most beautiful bags.
The best of love to both of you and try not to let a bag get between.
Interest in bags doesn't always equate with ever-larger collections. No reason why you shouldn't continue to carry the same bag everyday (or a small collection in rotation) like you used to, lots of my friends and tPFers have very small bag collections that work for them, it doesn't mean to say they are less interested in bags than people who keep many bags or those that constantly sell/update.
If price isn't the biggest consideration, it should matter even more whether the bag is a no-name generic bag that has an unknown origins or ethically sourced. Material things matter in many ways, not least in this global economy where profit often means everything. Craftspeople's job satisfaction of creating fine things and being paid a fair price is something to be proud of. I like that European companies like H, BV, and Gucci don't just outsource work to the cheapest 'bidder' where labour is cheap (often in many ways). After all the production chain of an Hermes bag is well documented and provides a skilled and talented craftsperson with a reasonable living wage in a country that is expensive to live in i.e. France. Not that I would deny a job to any person anywhere but it's possible to reconcile your husband's good-hearted, environmental and philanthropic concerns with justification for your own love of carrying and owning the best and the most beautiful bags.
The best of love to both of you and try not to let a bag get between.