My Going Grey Gracefully Journey.

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Oh my goodness!! I spend about $70 a year on my hair!! I have cut it myself for 40 years. We could not afford haircuts when I was young and now I just don’t trust anybody else.
My silver/platinum hair now at age 50:
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My hair about 20 years ago:
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Another thought: I did a rough calculation of how much it costs me a year for single process color, and the number is around $1,000. That’s just base color, not highlights, toner or haircuts. Then I thought about doing that for the next 10 years. Imagine the handbags I could buy with that money! :P
 

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Oh my goodness!! I spend about $70 a year on my hair!! I have cut it myself for 40 years. We could not afford haircuts when I was young and now I just don’t trust anybody else.
My silver/platinum hair now at age 50:
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My hair about 20 years ago:
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Your hair looks amazing! Your color 20 years ago is probably not too far off of my natural color (I *think* — only one way to find out for sure!). I can’t imagine cutting mine myself, though — that is one thing I will leave to the experts!
 
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Took me about 3 years to grow the color out. Colored my hair for about 30 years. I’m Asian and my grays would never be mistaken for blonde or highlights. It was a painful 3 years. The dark brown dye slowly turned into a “diarrhea brown” and my hair looked so dry and coarse, no matter how much conditioner I used. I cut it pretty short, too.

It’s now salt and pepper and I wish it would just go all silver. I asked several hairdressers if they would just dye it silver and none of them would - said it would be too harsh. I know it ages me but I do get the occasional compliment on it so I guess it’s not too bad.
 
Oh my goodness!! I spend about $70 a year on my hair!! I have cut it myself for 40 years. We could not afford haircuts when I was young and now I just don’t trust anybody else.
My silver/platinum hair now at age 50:
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My hair about 20 years ago:
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Your hair is just beautiful - like your amazing Twist I just spotted on another thread[emoji16]but I digress! How long did it take you to grow it out? Was your natural color dark? I tried cutting my hair once, and it was an epic fail, unfortunately! My DH has always cut his own hair, though. You do a great job!
 
Your hair is just beautiful - like your amazing Twist I just spotted on another thread[emoji16]but I digress! How long did it take you to grow it out? Was your natural color dark? I tried cutting my hair once, and it was an epic fail, unfortunately! My DH has always cut his own hair, though. You do a great job!
I was strawberry blonde as a baby and child, then my hair turned a deep reddish Auburn in my teens. A friend of mine pointed out that it had started getting quite grey when I was in my 30’s. I hadn’t even noticed the amount, other than plucking a few here and there. At that point I researched what to do, because I could not see myself coloring my hair every month and dealing the the grow out lines and damage, so I decided to get a few highlights to blend the grey in with the red and the small amount of blonde I still had. My hair lightens super easily because of my original color so it was not too much maintenance. Forward to my 40’s when I had salt and pepper hair and that was not a fun phase, realizing I was grey but not enough to go completely without some sort of chemical alteration. Eventually the need for highlights became less and less as people asked how I had achieved my silver or platinum color and I realized it was my own color!! How exciting!! So I would say the whole process probably took 20 years for me to go gray but 10 years of needing highlights every now and then to blend the dark hairs with the silver.

Thank you ever so much for all the lovely compliments!!! I am very happy now, with my hair as well as my LV all black Twist!!

I am no color expert, but I might suggest a toner instead of or in addition to highlights to help with the awkward stages of growing grey. Toners do not damage hair but they don’t last long. But they can give you that little refreshed feeling and the confidence to procede with going grey without a line of demarcation and without lengthy expensive trips to the salon. You can go to a local beauty supply store and ask their advice or have a hairstylist apply it, along with a scalp massage, deep conditioner, and blowout. Who doesn’t enjoy that kind of treatment?

Here is another photo of the underside of my hair. It’s still a lot darker underneath and you can see more of the pepper along with the silver.D812A2DB-5CC7-4281-B5CB-9F10B4B69D52.jpeg
 
I was strawberry blonde as a baby and child, then my hair turned a deep reddish Auburn in my teens. A friend of mine pointed out that it had started getting quite grey when I was in my 30’s. I hadn’t even noticed the amount, other than plucking a few here and there. At that point I researched what to do, because I could not see myself coloring my hair every month and dealing the the grow out lines and damage, so I decided to get a few highlights to blend the grey in with the red and the small amount of blonde I still had. My hair lightens super easily because of my original color so it was not too much maintenance. Forward to my 40’s when I had salt and pepper hair and that was not a fun phase, realizing I was grey but not enough to go completely without some sort of chemical alteration. Eventually the need for highlights became less and less as people asked how I had achieved my silver or platinum color and I realized it was my own color!! How exciting!! So I would say the whole process probably took 20 years for me to go gray but 10 years of needing highlights every now and then to blend the dark hairs with the silver.

Thank you ever so much for all the lovely compliments!!! I am very happy now, with my hair as well as my LV all black Twist!!

I am no color expert, but I might suggest a toner instead of or in addition to highlights to help with the awkward stages of growing grey. Toners do not damage hair but they don’t last long. But they can give you that little refreshed feeling and the confidence to procede with going grey without a line of demarcation and without lengthy expensive trips to the salon. You can go to a local beauty supply store and ask their advice or have a hairstylist apply it, along with a scalp massage, deep conditioner, and blowout. Who doesn’t enjoy that kind of treatment?

Here is another photo of the underside of my hair. It’s still a lot darker underneath and you can see more of the pepper along with the silver.View attachment 4414012

Just amazing color and shine! My natural color is a dark chocolate brown, and I think I’ve been dyeing it for at least 20, if not a few more years! I actually like the color, but it looks grown out after 3 weeks, and the upkeep was getting nuts! My stylist is great, but I know she’s not a magician lol! She tried some highlights, and the dark lifted to an orangey color, which was even less attractive than the demarcation line. I’ve just been toning it down with purple shampoo, and ticking the days off the calendar! At least now at 6 months it looks deliberate [emoji23]
 
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Just amazing color and shine! My natural color is a dark chocolate brown, and I think I’ve been dyeing it for at least 20, if not a few more years! I actually like the color, but it looks grown out after 3 weeks, and the upkeep was getting nuts! My stylist is great, but I know she’s not a magician lol! She tried some highlights, and the dark lifted to an orangey color, which was even less attractive than the demarcation line. I’ve just been toning it down with purple shampoo, and ticking the days off the calendar! At least now at 6 months it looks deliberate [emoji23]

I hear you, I just got mine done two weeks ago and already I can see roots around my face. It's insane. I've resorted to those root touch up kits just so it doesn't look awful.
 
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Thank you ladies for posting pics of your lovely hair. I’m in the same boat to gray or not to gray?
I’m so tired of the expense of coloring these pics are very helpful.
 
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Today was my first appointment with my stylist since I decided to let the gray come in. I went in with some trepidation because I thought she’d hate the idea, but to my surprise and delight, she embraced it. We talked about a couple of different approaches and decided to do a highlight/lowlight combination. The biggest issue is that my natural color is cool, but the single process color we’ve been using is warm, so she needs to balance that out so the hair coming in will blend better. The lowlight color she used is closer to my natural color. She did warn me it will take a few times of doing this to get to the point where it blends better with my naturally cool tone, but she said to wait at least 10-12 weeks before we highlight again, because it will get easier to blend if I let more grow in. This will be a nice change from going in every 5 weeks!

The interesting thing is, when I first brought it up, she took a couple of photos of my hair before she started putting in the foils. I asked if she was documenting the progress, and she said, “The number one question I’m getting right now is how to grow out gray hair.” So I think I’m going to be an example for her to show other clients!

Here’s the result after today’s appointment. I’ll try to remember to have her take photos as we go along over the next several months and post them here so everyone can see. :biggrin:

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Today was my first appointment with my stylist since I decided to let the gray come in. I went in with some trepidation because I thought she’d hate the idea, but to my surprise and delight, she embraced it. We talked about a couple of different approaches and decided to do a highlight/lowlight combination. The biggest issue is that my natural color is cool, but the single process color we’ve been using is warm, so she needs to balance that out so the hair coming in will blend better. The lowlight color she used is closer to my natural color. She did warn me it will take a few times of doing this to get to the point where it blends better with my naturally cool tone, but she said to wait at least 10-12 weeks before we highlight again, because it will get easier to blend if I let more grow in. This will be a nice change from going in every 5 weeks!

The interesting thing is, when I first brought it up, she took a couple of photos of my hair before she started putting in the foils. I asked if she was documenting the progress, and she said, “The number one question I’m getting right now is how to grow out gray hair.” So I think I’m going to be an example for her to show other clients!

Here’s the result after today’s appointment. I’ll try to remember to have her take photos as we go along over the next several months and post them here so everyone can see. :biggrin:

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Thats really nice...its a slow proccess but I believe that its a great way of doing it....Congratulations on joining us all and showing your journey.
 
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Thats really nice...its a slow proccess but I believe that its a great way of doing it....Congratulations on joining us all and showing your journey.

Thank you! Yes, it will be a slow process, no matter how I do it because the hair has to grow. I don’t want to cut it short or strip all the color out and damage it further, so this will be the path for me going forward. I’m just so excited — no more single process color! I hadn’t realized how much I hated that until I decided to stop doing it.
 
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Super!! It blended so well. I wish you much success on your journey to beautiful grey.

Today was my first appointment with my stylist since I decided to let the gray come in. I went in with some trepidation because I thought she’d hate the idea, but to my surprise and delight, she embraced it. We talked about a couple of different approaches and decided to do a highlight/lowlight combination. The biggest issue is that my natural color is cool, but the single process color we’ve been using is warm, so she needs to balance that out so the hair coming in will blend better. The lowlight color she used is closer to my natural color. She did warn me it will take a few times of doing this to get to the point where it blends better with my naturally cool tone, but she said to wait at least 10-12 weeks before we highlight again, because it will get easier to blend if I let more grow in. This will be a nice change from going in every 5 weeks!

The interesting thing is, when I first brought it up, she took a couple of photos of my hair before she started putting in the foils. I asked if she was documenting the progress, and she said, “The number one question I’m getting right now is how to grow out gray hair.” So I think I’m going to be an example for her to show other clients!

Here’s the result after today’s appointment. I’ll try to remember to have her take photos as we go along over the next several months and post them here so everyone can see. :biggrin:

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Today was my first appointment with my stylist since I decided to let the gray come in. I went in with some trepidation because I thought she’d hate the idea, but to my surprise and delight, she embraced it. We talked about a couple of different approaches and decided to do a highlight/lowlight combination. The biggest issue is that my natural color is cool, but the single process color we’ve been using is warm, so she needs to balance that out so the hair coming in will blend better. The lowlight color she used is closer to my natural color. She did warn me it will take a few times of doing this to get to the point where it blends better with my naturally cool tone, but she said to wait at least 10-12 weeks before we highlight again, because it will get easier to blend if I let more grow in. This will be a nice change from going in every 5 weeks!

The interesting thing is, when I first brought it up, she took a couple of photos of my hair before she started putting in the foils. I asked if she was documenting the progress, and she said, “The number one question I’m getting right now is how to grow out gray hair.” So I think I’m going to be an example for her to show other clients!

Here’s the result after today’s appointment. I’ll try to remember to have her take photos as we go along over the next several months and post them here so everyone can see. :biggrin:

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Wow! Your hair looks great! I’m so glad your appointment went well, and your hairdresser was supportive of your transition effort [emoji4][emoji259]
 
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