Maintaining an H relationship

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My last meeting with my SA was awkward.. My fault, I didn't ask my SA specifically if someone else served me, will commission go to her or the other SA. In my rush to get a RTW in my size, I bought an item from another SA when I heard it's launch day of the new season. I did messaged my SA but she mentioned she is only available at nearly end of the day and I'm afraid my size will be out of stock (which happened to me last season. After 1 day of considering, my sizes were all sold out). I did have a nagging thought that commission might go to another SA but I was not sure as previously, the SM served me in lieu of my SA and my SA told me commission still goes to her. Guess this only applies to the SA. Anyway, to make amends, I still met up with my SA nearer the end of the day and bought a much more expensive RTW.

My SA also felt awkward, as I have been telling her to let me know once the new season is here, but apparently, there are VIPs whom get first priority in being called up for the new season. And as I requested to meet up with her, she has to find time for me to try the RTW when other clients finished their appointments earlier. Think I mishandled the whole thing although I did thanked her for squeezing in an appointment for me. Guess I can only let time pass by and hopefully, both of us feel less awkward.. Sigh..


i wouldn't worry about this at all. you wanted to purchase something, and you did. obviously, loyalty is appreciated throughout all sales fields, but it is not as though you still have not shown loyalty to your usual, dedicated sa. enjoy your new rtw and put this in the past if it's still bothering you because it's really not a huge deal as it sounds like you even shopped with your sa since the other purchase.
 
I shopped around H before settling on an SA I could work with. I live closer (literally a 10 minute walk through a very pretty park) to a bigger store but is notorious in Hong Kong for being really snooty. I also live close to flagship but never really clicked with anyone there - bought a bag, a few SLGs, some shoes, some homeware. But I went to another store by accident (I don't really go to that part of town because it's crowded) and met K. K is in a smaller store and he takes time but always delivers. AND will usually steer me away from things that will not be good for me - because sometimes I am a bit greedy! He also remembers everything I say - and I admire that because I have a great memory too.

Take your time, show that you trust them. And the trust will come back. It's not a game of brinksmanship, humility and seeking their advice goes A LONG WAY. It's a human relationship - make small deposits and show them you trust them and need their help. Appreciation goes a long way (I text to say thanks for time the day after I shop). Humans can't resist that.
 
+1 with @Justlikewhatilike :smile:

Don’t feel awkward about circumstances neither of you control. At the end of the day, Hermes is a boutique, and this is shopping for things in your size that you love. Both of you do the best you can even though there are some limitations like stock availability and VIP slots which may have to be approved by the SM.
Thanks, hopefully I will be more savvy as I continue shopping from the store.
 
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i wouldn't worry about this at all. you wanted to purchase something, and you did. obviously, loyalty is appreciated throughout all sales fields, but it is not as though you still have not shown loyalty to your usual, dedicated sa. enjoy your new rtw and put this in the past if it's still bothering you because it's really not a huge deal as it sounds like you even shopped with your sa since the other purchase.
Yes, in fact I gotten my first qb from the last visit. I didnt want my SA to think I switched SA after just getting a qb. I guess I must accept I will not be notified the first few days of the season since I'm not a VIP or just decide what I want, get it on spot without trying the item and go. Dnt want to go through the awkwardness again. *sweat*
 
My last meeting with my SA was awkward.. My fault, I didn't ask my SA specifically if someone else served me, will commission go to her or the other SA. In my rush to get a RTW in my size, I bought an item from another SA when I heard it's launch day of the new season. I did messaged my SA but she mentioned she is only available at nearly end of the day and I'm afraid my size will be out of stock (which happened to me last season. After 1 day of considering, my sizes were all sold out). I did have a nagging thought that commission might go to another SA but I was not sure as previously, the SM served me in lieu of my SA and my SA told me commission still goes to her. Guess this only applies to the SA. Anyway, to make amends, I still met up with my SA nearer the end of the day and bought a much more expensive RTW.

My SA also felt awkward, as I have been telling her to let me know once the new season is here, but apparently, there are VIPs whom get first priority in being called up for the new season. And as I requested to meet up with her, she has to find time for me to try the RTW when other clients finished their appointments earlier. Think I mishandled the whole thing although I did thanked her for squeezing in an appointment for me. Guess I can only let time pass by and hopefully, both of us feel less awkward.. Sigh..

You did just fine. You have absolutely nothing to worry about. You are a serious RTW shopper and intend to get the pieces you like in your size before they are gone. You gave your SA an opportunity to accommodate you. You did your part. It is up to her to figure out how she wants to juggle clients and commissions, that’s her part. If she can’t see you early enough or make some other arrangements, then she may miss a commission. She knows that and there is nothing awkward about it. It is her responsibility—again, if she is awkward it is because she knows that. Don’t create a problem where there is none by feeling/acting awkward or doing anything different.(It was nice of you to buy something from her at the end though.)

Next season, do the same drill verbatim. Ask her to inform you when the season is in. Make the earliest appointment you can. Tell her you’ll be in to shop early so your sizes don’t get away. I have a feeling things may work out differently next time. :)
 
My last meeting with my SA was awkward.. My fault, I didn't ask my SA specifically if someone else served me, will commission go to her or the other SA. In my rush to get a RTW in my size, I bought an item from another SA when I heard it's launch day of the new season. I did messaged my SA but she mentioned she is only available at nearly end of the day and I'm afraid my size will be out of stock (which happened to me last season. After 1 day of considering, my sizes were all sold out). I did have a nagging thought that commission might go to another SA but I was not sure as previously, the SM served me in lieu of my SA and my SA told me commission still goes to her. Guess this only applies to the SA. Anyway, to make amends, I still met up with my SA nearer the end of the day and bought a much more expensive RTW.

My SA also felt awkward, as I have been telling her to let me know once the new season is here, but apparently, there are VIPs whom get first priority in being called up for the new season. And as I requested to meet up with her, she has to find time for me to try the RTW when other clients finished their appointments earlier. Think I mishandled the whole thing although I did thanked her for squeezing in an appointment for me. Guess I can only let time pass by and hopefully, both of us feel less awkward.. Sigh..

Thank you for sharing this and let it be a warning to others.
As you described it, this really is an example of getting so much wrong.
If, for any reason, your SA cannot service your needs, he or she has no grounds to look badly upon you is you have to go elsewhere - a different SA or even a different boutique.
The reason why you were concerned about commission was purely selfish, because you want to confer as much commission upon your SA to improve your chances of getting a quota bag.
Your motivation for buying more RTW was to appease your SA.
Your SA had to find time to serve you later in the day? Isn't that what she is employed to do, she wouldn't be taking tea with her friends!
'To make amends', really! For what? Taking the opportunity to buy something you wanted when you could. Knowing from past experience that if you had not done so then, you might have been disappointed.
So the SA did not get commission. If you had waited for your SA until later in the day and the item had been sold out, your SA would not have got commission either, because there would have been no sale.
It is wrong that shopping decisions are determined by pleasing an SA in order to get a quota bag.

This is why you felt awkward and transferred that feeling to your SA.
That was badly done.
 
Thanks, Etriers, Whitebus, fashiongodess. Appreciate each and everyone of your views.

Maybe just to add more context, I did like the first RTW during my visit earlier in the day, but yes, I decided to purchase with my usual SA since she had offered me a later appointment and so only bought an item which is the last piece. I value my SA for always helping me to get the items I love and the wonderful things I learn from her about H, not only the bag so I hope to maintain the good feelings we had so far. After all, it's not easy being a SA and trying to placate all customers. Just sharing my thoughts so as to remind myself to think through more as I continue to shop with H. Thanks all for your views. =)
 
I told my SA I want a Picotin in Pink, Purple, and Orange. She delivered one in pink which I snatched up in a heartbeat. Is it ok to state I also want the other two colors or does it come off as greedy/send reseller vibes? Do I need to space out my purchases more? I would really love to own a picotin in all 3 colors :smile:

It’s fine! People collect bags in colors all the time. If you really want to signal you’re not a reseller, come back next time in person wearing your new pink picotin and say how much you liked it and how you’d like to collect it in other colors. Don’t overthink it! :smile:
 
I told my SA I want a Picotin in Pink, Purple, and Orange. She delivered one in pink which I snatched up in a heartbeat. Is it ok to state I also want the other two colors or does it come off as greedy/send reseller vibes? Do I need to space out my purchases more? I would really love to own a picotin in all 3 colors :smile:

I'll echo that people collect multiple colourways of the same bag quite frequently. To take it a step further, my SA knows how much I love the Pegasus Herbag and has managed to get me one in each CW available. Way more redundant, I believe, than collecting Picos in various colours.... ;)
 
I shopped around H before settling on an SA I could work with. I live closer (literally a 10 minute walk through a very pretty park) to a bigger store but is notorious in Hong Kong for being really snooty. I also live close to flagship but never really clicked with anyone there - bought a bag, a few SLGs, some shoes, some homeware. But I went to another store by accident (I don't really go to that part of town because it's crowded) and met K. K is in a smaller store and he takes time but always delivers. AND will usually steer me away from things that will not be good for me - because sometimes I am a bit greedy! He also remembers everything I say - and I admire that because I have a great memory too.

Take your time, show that you trust them. And the trust will come back. It's not a game of brinksmanship, humility and seeking their advice goes A LONG WAY. It's a human relationship - make small deposits and show them you trust them and need their help. Appreciation goes a long way (I text to say thanks for time the day after I shop). Humans can't resist that.
if you don’t mind my asking, may I know which store is famously snooty? can message me as well if you prefer :)
 
My SA went on leave without telling me. I’ve been shopping for a few months and have a pretty good relationship but didn’t know they are leaving. Any advice on what to do? I have a list of things I want to buy and have been trying to build my profile plus I have no idea when they’re coming back. Is it okay to switch SAs and continue building and working towards a bag with the new SA? Or should I wait until mine eventually returns?
 
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