Jewelry from past relationships...

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#31
I don't have any exes, I led a protected life before I met hubby.

there's a place called ex-boyfriendjewelry.com or something like that, where you could sell it.

Personally, I think if it was something that cost a lot, I would return it to the guy (exception: if we were engaged and he called off the wedding leaving me and my parents with major $$$bills for no reason). That's just my opinion, but I'm old-fashioned. I'm so old-fashioned that I would not accept major jewelry from a boyfriend except engagement ring.
 
#32
my ex asked to return everything to him.... :tdown:

If I keep those jewlleries, i think i will lock them in the drawer and never look @ it... coz i never like them but i wear them to please him (& his mother) only!
 
#34
Some of my friends have had old engagement rings made into pendants or earrings. They have melted done the gold and made gold nuggets that they put on a chain, etc.put

I was not that attached to my rings from my first marriage and I didn't want to make a pendant. I held onto them and, after he died a few years ago, I gave them to his daughter with whom I was still close. She was very happy to have them. We did a New Age-ish kind of cleansing ceremony to remove the bad vibes and she was good to go.

Personally, in most cases, I don;t see the sense of giving them back. It provides a small moment of revenge, but you just gave away what had been a (valuable) gift. I figure he gave it to me and it's mine.
 
#35
I'm not sentimental. If I love the piece, I keep it and dont mention the origins. If I hate it, I have it remade or sell it. When divorced friends are looking to clear out the toxic memories, I am usually there to have a cleansing ceremony, and buy the jewelry from them.

Mama Vintage is a touch more dramatic than I am. When she got married, she pawned her jewelry from an ex fiancé - and sent the ex the pawn tickets in a wedding announcement.
 
#36
My first boyfriend gave me a necklace with a pendant on it, when we broke up, it was quite a bitter break, so I gave it and everything else he had given me to the Salvation Army.

His mother was very fond of me and had given me a pearl jewelry set, I kept that because she was always kind to me. I have worn the jewelry set a few times since we broke up.

I now keep it in it's box, and dbf of 5 years has never asked about where any of my jewelry came from, and I think I have showed it to him once.
 
#37
it depends on the breakup for me, some i keep as memories (one ex went to afghanistan for 6 months) and when he returned he stopped off in Dubai and bought me a pearl set. i kept that because it was a time where I was just happy he came home unscathed, and then he suprised me with a present.

others...i dont want memories so they are given away or sold!!
 
#38
I turn them into other pieces. Like this: IMG_2664.jpg
I had no sentimental attachment to any of them and some of the diamonds I recycled were even from a previous engagement/wedding ring:p
For me, memories are memories and they have little to do with some of my material possessions. In other words, I will always have memories of my ex-husband, which are not at all changed by the fact that I recycled my old wedding ring. I never look at my stacking rings (in the picture above) and think of my ex. I think, wow! I love these rings:)
 
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#39
Recently split up and I have some nice jewelry that he gave me during our relationship. Serpenti Watch, Love ring, JUC bracelet, Diamond Hoops, serpent ring, a rolex., and some other small items. Anyway I choose everything, he would ask me what I wanted and he would take me to the store to pay for it. But for some reason it just feels weird to wear it. Anyway what have your ladies done after a break up / divorce ?
 
#42
It depends on what happened. If it was a relationship that didn't end out of anger (i.e. guy was a total jerk the whole time, or he cheated, or something.) and everything ended on good terms I would still wear the jewelry, provided that my current SO was fine with it. I've received some nice pieces. If you can associate it with just the piece itself and no feelings or memories, than I see nothing wrong with it. The only piece I would not wear would be an old engagement ring. I have this kind of thought that like if somebody spent a lotta money on it from somewhere, get usage out of it somehow---either wear it, or have it made into something that you will wear. There are a lot of SO's that are fine with you wearing something that someone else gave to you, as long as you are clear to them that it does not symbolize love or romance in any way, shape, or form and that you just like the piece or brand. (I had controlling ex's in the past, one or two of them who would never allow this type of thing because of how they are. But my current SO wouldn't mind.)

However, I am very non traditional. I also don't believe it's right to give any gifts back to your ex that he might have given you, and I also would never want an ex to give any of the pricey gifts that I gave him back to me. Me and SO spend an equal price range amount on all of our gifts so it just wouldn't feel right. If something happened and we broke up, I would kind of be offended if he asked for any jewelry back or if he was like, "Give me those earrings back from Christmas." Then I would be like, "Uhmm should I ask you to give back your fancy watch that I got you for Christmas? It's the same price range, except I don't expect people to give "gifts" back, or it's more like borrowing and not a real gift." It would just feel weird. Like kind of childish or something. Like what would you need it back for? Lmao. To give to somebody else, because that's tacky and not fair to the next girl? Or to sell? Ehhh, a gift is something for the other person to have the choice the keep---guy or girl, whatever side. When I hear of males and females asking for gifts back, it registers more as borrowing an item for some reason. Not very nice.
 
#44
I still have some things from ex's including my old diamond wedding band.
I never wear it, was going to pawn it but my SO said hold on to it because precious metals
just keep going up... it's pretty heavy on the platinum. I have some other pc's I need to pawn as well
but for now they just sit around. There are a couple things I do still wear & will continue to because I love them
like earrings that I picked out. Large white gold dangles and another pair is tanzanite & diamond... some hoops, etc.
I don't see the point in getting rid of them... I'd end up just replacing them with pretty much the same thing so why bother?
I'm not holding onto the sentiment... just the jewels.

My SO did have an issue with my Pandora bracelet charms from ex's so he replaced them.
 
#45
all gone. every single piece from every single guy. i throw out, donate, or sell. i'm not sentimental at all and i don't care about its value or any 'meaning.' it becomes junk afterwards in my eyes. i took a bolt cutter once to a diamond ring and gave it back to him in pieces. threw out a gold necklace with pendant in the dumpster. i just toss it all and it feels soooo good!
 
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