I know of two couples this has worked for.
The first were college sweethearts. After college he wanted to stay in his home state, she wanted to branch out and live somewhere new, so they parted ways, met other people and each got married and had kids. Years later, her husband had died, he'd divorced his wife, and they reconnected at a college reunion. They started dating, then got married and had a great life together for many years and blended their adult kids into a wonderful and supportive family.
In another case, I know a woman who dated a guy in college. They had fun, but she started to think he was boring and broke up with him. Each of them ended up marrying other people, having kids, and both ended up getting divorced around the same time. A friend, who'd remained friends with both of them, suggested they should hang out because they were going through similar challenges. They did, and love blossomed from there. They got married, did a great job of blending their teenage children, and have built a great family together.
I think it can work. I also think in both cases I know, had they gotten married the first time around, it may not have worked as well - they weren't ready to be married to each other back then. I also think a key in both of the couples I know is that they put the well-being of their kids first. Blending the families mattered a great deal in the timing of when to get married.
I don't see signs that JLo and Ben are as focused on building a family together as they are on getting beautiful pics of JLo in a variety of wedding dresses. A Carrie-Bradshaw like Vogue shoot may have been a more wise option!
is she tearing it down and starting from scratch!
