This is exactly what I was trying to say. The size of the ring doesn't really matter. It isn't a contest. Love is what matters most.
Is it Big Enough?
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This is exactly what I was trying to say. The size of the ring doesn't really matter. It isn't a contest. Love is what matters most.
I can't imagine this not being large enough, but should you not be happy I am pretty sure Tiffany's will allow you to exchange for one larger.
You may also find that this size might be too large on your hand.
I wear a 1.15, and I am a size 5.5. While I'd maybe like a larger stone since shrinkage has set in, the fact that I was able to replace my stolen ring with one of better specs that also ended up slightly larger was really a nice feeling for me. In 4 and a half years (at the time) it was a testament to our growth in our jobs and finances.
You may also find that this size might be too large on your hand.
I wear a 1.15, and I am a size 5.5. While I'd maybe like a larger stone since shrinkage has set in, the fact that I was able to replace my stolen ring with one of better specs that also ended up slightly larger was really a nice feeling for me. In 4 and a half years (at the time) it was a testament to our growth in our jobs and finances.
I personally think a 1.85 is lovely. Granted, I have smaller fingers but I found the 1-1.5 ct solitaires to look substantial enough. In my opinion, all that matters is that both you and your fiancé love the ring and that it is special to both of you. Sometimes, boys want to make sure that your diamond isn't too small as a pride thing, but you also don't want to ruin the poor guy's finances before the wedding either.
My guy and I went more modest in budget by buying my three stone second hand. It also lays closer to the finger so I'll feel more comfortable wearing it to work. He is NOT against upgrades, and when we stumbled on the three stone by chance we agreed that this will be the ring I wear ALWAYS but later on when he's more successful in his law career he might give me the big step cut solitaire I've always lusted for (parties, dinners, etc.) later on when we may be able to comfortably afford it.
My guy and I went more modest in budget by buying my three stone second hand. It also lays closer to the finger so I'll feel more comfortable wearing it to work. He is NOT against upgrades, and when we stumbled on the three stone by chance we agreed that this will be the ring I wear ALWAYS but later on when he's more successful in his law career he might give me the big step cut solitaire I've always lusted for (parties, dinners, etc.) later on when we may be able to comfortably afford it.
I think it's big enough. But I think you should go to Tiffany's and see it in person before your FH buys it. It's a significant amount of money, and you should be 150% sure it's the one you want. The only reason I say this, is because I originally wanted the Tiffany Novo, and I was set on it for the longest time...but once I went to see it in person I realized it wasn't the one for me, and I just fell in love with the classic solitaire...the way it sparkled enamored me.
So go there in person...try different styles and sizes...not only is it a fun and exciting experience for both of you, but you'll walk out knowing more, and more certain of what it is you want! =)
So go there in person...try different styles and sizes...not only is it a fun and exciting experience for both of you, but you'll walk out knowing more, and more certain of what it is you want! =)
I think that's a great point about trying it on. I know with wedding dresses, the pictures I cut out of magazines just did not suit me IRL, and I can imagine the same goes for rings.
A ring (setting) can be too small. If you are a big person with large hands, a bit larger ring could be better on your hands than a very thin/fine ring. In my opinion a diamond can not be too small. It's all a matter of preference (and budget). I bought ring with an enormous diamond last year. But I soooo enjoyed the solitaires I had before. These were so elegant.
What's more important is that (besides appreciating a huge gift) is that the setting is nice on your hands (high or low on your finger, with or without halo, diamond cut). If you have a huge preference for princess cuts, that might be important info for your Fiancee.
Congrats with your engagement!!!
What's more important is that (besides appreciating a huge gift) is that the setting is nice on your hands (high or low on your finger, with or without halo, diamond cut). If you have a huge preference for princess cuts, that might be important info for your Fiancee.
Congrats with your engagement!!!
I don't think people should get mad about the OP's question. It is all relative anyway, like another poster said.
Let's remember this site is about handbags and jewelry, if she can't safely ask a question re: diamond size here where can she?
I think you will be plenty happy with 1.85. If it feels small to you in the future you can put a halo around it.
Don't stress too much about it, I promise you your worry is heightened because you want it to be perfect.. but you will move on and not think about when the next plan comes up, wedding, honeymoon, dress, .... life
Have fun and enjoy the engagement/wedding time!!!
Let's remember this site is about handbags and jewelry, if she can't safely ask a question re: diamond size here where can she?
I think you will be plenty happy with 1.85. If it feels small to you in the future you can put a halo around it.
Don't stress too much about it, I promise you your worry is heightened because you want it to be perfect.. but you will move on and not think about when the next plan comes up, wedding, honeymoon, dress, .... life
Have fun and enjoy the engagement/wedding time!!!
I can completely understand what you're asking, in that you don't want something that won't suit the size of your finger. That was one of my concerns when my fiance and I went shopping for my ring. I have a size 8-9 ring finger, so a too-small ring and stone would have made my fingers look sausage-y. I ended up with a .99 ct center stone, set in a halo design, to give it a larger presence on the finger while staying within the budget we set.
That being said, do you honestly think an almost 2 ct. center stone would risk not being big enough on a finger size as small as yours? I think it would be becautiful.
That being said, do you honestly think an almost 2 ct. center stone would risk not being big enough on a finger size as small as yours? I think it would be becautiful.
I think it's easy to get lost in TPF world, where all the fingers are tiny, the rings are enormous, and the budgets seem infinite! I think my ring is 5.75 and it's 2 ct diamond, and people think it's "huge". I think you will be perfectly happy with a ring in that range.
I have a size 6 finger and my recent upgrade is 1.25...and I think that's big enough for right now.
DH proposed with a .75ct center stone, but in all honesty: I would have said yes to a Cracker Jack-box ring!
DH proposed with a .75ct center stone, but in all honesty: I would have said yes to a Cracker Jack-box ring!
It was nice of you to apologize. I know you meant no harm by the title of your post and did not intend to it to come across offensively. I do think the advice to try something similar looking on to see if it makes you happy is excellent advice. I mean no offense by what I am going to say next, sincerely and I do hope you take none. If I were you, I would question the environment I was in, that has you agonizing over something like this. I know this is a site about luxury goods, and so long as its all in fun that's good, but when you get to the point where you're worried that a ring is so much bigger than the average is 'enough', something is wrong with the value system of the people that surround you.
I worked in Manhattan many years ago and found I had to back off from the comments at my job, and the competition and snobbery about jewelry, fur coats etc. etc. It was making me miserable. Nothing was ever good enough--or not for long. My wish is that you enjoy this time in your life, enjoy your fiance, be happy with your ring and what it represents and jsut BE HAPPY and feel lucky (which you are! Someone loves you and wants to do his best for you. a lot of people never have that happen to them).
Best to you and I look forward to seeing photos of whatever beautiful ring you end up with.
I worked in Manhattan many years ago and found I had to back off from the comments at my job, and the competition and snobbery about jewelry, fur coats etc. etc. It was making me miserable. Nothing was ever good enough--or not for long. My wish is that you enjoy this time in your life, enjoy your fiance, be happy with your ring and what it represents and jsut BE HAPPY and feel lucky (which you are! Someone loves you and wants to do his best for you. a lot of people never have that happen to them).
Best to you and I look forward to seeing photos of whatever beautiful ring you end up with.