Is it Big Enough?
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definitely big enough. even a .15 stone is big enough if the love is there and that's what is important, right?
There are tons of people here that have bigger ring fingers than 5.5 and wear smaller center stones than 1.85. There is no rule. I think people (myself included) would be a little hurt to have someone question that their diamond isn't big enough. Last week my finger was sized at a 5.5 and my diamond that is being reset is a 1.25. Does anyone here honestly think that is too small? Sorry if I'm sounding harsh but I feel a little insulted.
"Big enough" is a relative term. What one person considers huge, another person may consider average. It depends on the people, the area they live in (or even the country they live in), their relative social position, etc. Many very, very wealthy women around here wear no diamonds on their fingers at all, as they have no need to ostentatiously display their wealth.
So no one else can answer, for you, what is "big enough". As far as I am concerned, a diamond is an afterthought. No stone can possibly represent what my dh and I have, and I have seen amazing gorgeous rings of all shapes and sizes.
So no one else can answer, for you, what is "big enough". As far as I am concerned, a diamond is an afterthought. No stone can possibly represent what my dh and I have, and I have seen amazing gorgeous rings of all shapes and sizes.
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lately we have had posters on here, where the custom is just a plain band if that...I dont think OP meant to hurt anyones feelings. just confirm that thats size will look good and live up to her expectations.Yes it is big enough.
No rudeness intended but I don't think anyone with some decency will ever look at another person's engagement ring and think "wow that's tiny" or "way too small for her hands". The ring is a gift from your fiancee and in my opinion whatever he is comfortable with giving is "big enough". Dbf and I both have well-paying jobs and if we were to ever get married a 3-4 ct tiffany or other brand name e-ring would be well within our means but he grew up modestly and I cannot imagine him comfortable with dropping more than 50k on a ring and I really treasure his comfort more than the marginal benefit from a huge rock vs a big one. Bottomline is, it is a gift given with love and should be appreciated and accepted with grace.
No rudeness intended but I don't think anyone with some decency will ever look at another person's engagement ring and think "wow that's tiny" or "way too small for her hands". The ring is a gift from your fiancee and in my opinion whatever he is comfortable with giving is "big enough". Dbf and I both have well-paying jobs and if we were to ever get married a 3-4 ct tiffany or other brand name e-ring would be well within our means but he grew up modestly and I cannot imagine him comfortable with dropping more than 50k on a ring and I really treasure his comfort more than the marginal benefit from a huge rock vs a big one. Bottomline is, it is a gift given with love and should be appreciated and accepted with grace.
I did not mean to offend or insult anyone. I've seen all types of carat sizes on all types of ring sizes, and they all look amazing. I also know many people who prefer not to have a diamond or ring at all, and that's awesome. I was just asking because I might not get to try on the e-ring before I get it (FH let me pick it out) so I just wanted to make sure it would look ok. Sorry if I insulted anyone, it was definitely not my intention.
LOL! I have a feeling you know darn well a 1.85 ct stone is big enough for a 5.5 finger 
Can't wait for pics!
Can't wait for pics!
I completely agree, it is all so relative. As far as size and specs, etc, it is all a matter of your own expectations (largely set by the environment you've grown up in and are surrounded by today).
Have you had a chance to try this size on in the store? As much fun as it is to look at pics on other people, trying the ring on in person is really the only surefire way to determine whether or not you will be happy with the ct weight.
Have you had a chance to try this size on in the store? As much fun as it is to look at pics on other people, trying the ring on in person is really the only surefire way to determine whether or not you will be happy with the ct weight.
I haven't had a chance to try it on. I don't know if I will before FH buys, that why I was asking.
...just read your post and saw that you won't have a chance to try this specific ring on, but could you sneak a trip to Tiffany and try on comparable ct weights to get a better feel for how it will look on your finger? Much Better to do this before he makes the purchase than to wonder about it afterwards.
Here here!!! All these questions lately about stones being big enough and does an engagment ring have to be from Tiffany to be considered nice, and should I get a bigger stone somewhere else or get a smaller one from Tiffany has made me really wonder what is more important, the ring or the wedding vows. To me, the DBF feelings should be considered as well (even though they tell you to get whatever you want) and I think dropping a ton of $$$$ right at the beginning of a marriage is crazy. I would use the money to travel, invest, etc... Buy a nice ring now and allow something later for an upgrade.
Sorry if it sounds like I am ranting, just have been shocked at some of the stuff I've seen here lately. All that matters is the love between you, the jewels are supposed to be a reflection of that, not a way to make a good impression on people. What matters is love not materialistic goods.
So bottom line, if you like it get it. Don't worry about what other people think. If you get the ring and don't like it, I'm sure it can be exchanged for something else.
Sorry if it sounds like I am ranting, just have been shocked at some of the stuff I've seen here lately. All that matters is the love between you, the jewels are supposed to be a reflection of that, not a way to make a good impression on people. What matters is love not materialistic goods.
So bottom line, if you like it get it. Don't worry about what other people think. If you get the ring and don't like it, I'm sure it can be exchanged for something else.