Is a diamond really forever???
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My diamond is not huge (just over a half carat), but it's of pretty decent colour and clarity, brilliant cut. It's totally not what I have chosen for an engagement ring - I would have liked an emerald cut, and maybe a little bigger. But I will never trade it it, because it belonged to my DH's grandmother. My DH took me with him when he went to ask my MIL if he could have it to give to me. The symbolism of that diamond is worth far more to me than replacing it with a bigger one.
There are plenty of other pieces of diamond jewellery my DH can purchase for me in the years to come.
There are plenty of other pieces of diamond jewellery my DH can purchase for me in the years to come.
Can i just say, that didn't you lose your promise ring whilst not wearing it. Therefore wearing your enagement ring makes sense as then you will always know where it isIt does suck that you lost your promise ring, but please don't let that spoil wearing your enagement ring. Enjoy it thats what i say
oh i know.. i should have added that i barely wore my promise ring anymore because.. i dunno, i didnt. and the one day i decide to take it out of the jewelery box to wear, i lose it when i took it off when i slept. (yes i should have put it in my ring holder, but were moving and it was packed away already) im the type of person that doesnt lose things if its put away, but if i wear it i lose it because of when i set it down i always end up losing it!! i cant sleep with my rings on. it snags on my blankets and twice i nicked DF in the eye. im scareddddddd!!
he proposed at the end of last year. where i come from, traditions have it that the gals will usually have 3 rings in the stages of her life. the proposal ring is when he bends down and ask me. (actually, the proper way is that he needs to be asking my dad for my hand, and not me!).
the engagement ring is given when my dad has agreed to the whole thing and then comes the wedding ring later on when a wedding date is set.
it's complicated, and so you guys know now what is taking the engagement ring so long to come!
he proposed at the end of last year. where i come from, traditions have it that the gals will usually have 3 rings in the stages of her life. the proposal ring is when he bends down and ask me. (actually, the proper way is that he needs to be asking my dad for my hand, and not me!).
the engagement ring is given when my dad has agreed to the whole thing and then comes the wedding ring later on when a wedding date is set.
it's complicated, and so you guys know now what is taking the engagement ring so long to come!
whoa what culture is that??
I can see the reasons why people would upgrade, but I personally will never upgrade my engagement ring. If i want a ring with a bigger diamond etc, then that's what my right hand is for. The engagement ring which my fiance picked out for me will always be a reminder of our start in life together - and later down the track when we've "made it", it will be a reminder to be humble. I will always remember the fabulous night he proposed and when I think back to the moment when I first saw my ring, I want to look down at my finger and see it to "relive" that moment so to speak.
That's just my view, like others have said, this is a matter of personal choice.
That's just my view, like others have said, this is a matter of personal choice.
i've pm-ed you..!he proposed at the end of last year. where i come from, traditions have it that the gals will usually have 3 rings in the stages of her life. the proposal ring is when he bends down and ask me. (actually, the proper way is that he needs to be asking my dad for my hand, and not me!).
the engagement ring is given when my dad has agreed to the whole thing and then comes the wedding ring later on when a wedding date is set.
it's complicated, and so you guys know now what is taking the engagement ring so long to come!
This is very interesting - I've never heard of this custom. Thank you for the explanation Lululovebags, I learned something today!!
TFFC: I agree. I have always loved the look when I see older women who clearly have money wearing either a very small diamond or a plain gold wedding band. While many of them wear what they wear for many reasons, many of them simply wanted to keep their original engagement/wedding set, no matter how much more successful they became.
Additionally, while this was really none of my business, my mom upgraded her ring and changed the setting. I was devastated. I remember all the stories about how she and my dad went looking for rings, where they went, how and why they chose what they did. Her ring had sentimental value to ME! Like I said, it is none of my business as it is her finger and her ring and her decision, but the new setting I see as trendy and not nearly as elegant as what she wore before. It saddens me.
My right hand is for any upgrades, diamonds or colored stones. I can change those as my mood changes, but I don't see myself changing my engagement/wedding set.
Additionally, while this was really none of my business, my mom upgraded her ring and changed the setting. I was devastated. I remember all the stories about how she and my dad went looking for rings, where they went, how and why they chose what they did. Her ring had sentimental value to ME! Like I said, it is none of my business as it is her finger and her ring and her decision, but the new setting I see as trendy and not nearly as elegant as what she wore before. It saddens me.
My right hand is for any upgrades, diamonds or colored stones. I can change those as my mood changes, but I don't see myself changing my engagement/wedding set.
My hubby asked my grandmother(since my parents were deceased) if he could marry me. I thought that was the sweetest thing.
he proposed at the end of last year. where i come from, traditions have it that the gals will usually have 3 rings in the stages of her life. the proposal ring is when he bends down and ask me. (actually, the proper way is that he needs to be asking my dad for my hand, and not me!).
the engagement ring is given when my dad has agreed to the whole thing and then comes the wedding ring later on when a wedding date is set.
it's complicated, and so you guys know now what is taking the engagement ring so long to come!
I also dont want to change the ring I intially got...it reminds me of our start together also...
Upgrading is ok but I would want another ring instead of exchanging one for another....also it could be because I dont like big diamonds to begin with.
Upgrading is ok but I would want another ring instead of exchanging one for another....also it could be because I dont like big diamonds to begin with.
Don't "upgrade"- the ring you were given as a promise of marriage is forever, no matter the size, shape, etc. It is not the stone that matters, only the promise.
Enjoy the e-ring you were given- it is such a special thing!!!!
Enjoy the e-ring you were given- it is such a special thing!!!!
I'm too sentimental, I will always keep my first ring, it's a symbol to me more than a fashion statement (even though I do love it even after 9 years).... I have no problem with getting a different ring at some point for a 10yr, 20yr, etc. but I would never trade in or stop wearing my original. I have no problem with what others do though, to each their own......